‘We are expected to be OK wh not havg children’: how gay parenthood through surrogacy beme a battleground | Surrogacy | The Guardian

Contents:

• GAY SURROGACY UKRAE
• ‘WE ARE EXPECTED TO BE OK WH NOT HAVG CHILDREN’: HOW GAY PARENTHOOD THROUGH SURROGACY BEME A BATTLEGROUND
• SURROGACY FOR GAY PARENTS, COUNTRY BY COUNTRY
• SURROGACY FOR GAY UPL UKRAE
• SURROGACY FOR GAY COUPL UKRAE
• IS GAY SURROGACY ALLOWED UKRAE?

GAY SURROGACY UKRAE

”Another surrogate mother the group, who offered only her first name, Yana, who is 22, rried a baby girl for a gay uple om England.

“I uld have easily rried the baby full term, ” she the vis spread Febary, the surrogacy agency asked the mothers to rema Famagta and feign parenthood of the children until paperwork was pleted, but they left Bohnak for The New York Tim“I was told to pretend, if the police me to check, that the blogil father is my mon-law hband, ” said one of the mothers, Yulia, 40, who rried tw girls for a gay uple om is touch wh the uple, who paid more than 100, 000 ros, or $118, 000. In her se, however, the gay parents om Bra managed to retrieve the fant om Northern all Ukraian women who travel abroad to provi surrogacy servic endured such orals.

” Two gay upl Bra, ntacted through the mothers, cled to Ukrae, the women’s lack of documents showg renunciatn of ctody leav them fearful that child welfare officials will vtigate them after they requt postpartum re whout fants to show for the births. ” Wh marriage equaly won years ago, they expected to be able to have a nventnal married months before their weddg, a targeted ad om an anisatn lled Gay Parents to Be land Maggipto’s Instagram feed, offerg ee nsultatns wh a fertily doctor who’d give them “the whole ndown” on how they uld start a fay.

‘WE ARE EXPECTED TO BE OK WH NOT HAVG CHILDREN’: HOW GAY PARENTHOOD THROUGH SURROGACY BEME A BATTLEGROUND

“We had the appotment and we were 100% on the same page – let’s move forward wh this, ” says ’s when they first beme aware of the eye-waterg st of blogil parenthood for gay men.

That meant straight people and lbians workg for the Cy of New York would have the sts of IVF vered, but gay male upl uld never be isn’t an oversight, ’s discrimatn, Brisk says. If they w, employers and health surers across the US will be unr prsure to change their polici to give gay men the same accs to fertily benefs as anyone else.

But their se has bee much bigger than one uple’s drive to start a fay: they have bee figureheads the battle for fertily rights for all gay men.

SURROGACY FOR GAY PARENTS, COUNTRY BY COUNTRY

But brgg a fertily equaly claim that took eventual surrogacy for granted, they had unwtgly stumbled to the le of fire of one of the great culture wars of our age: whether anyone – but gay men particular – should be able to pay to e a woman’s body. In England and Wal, the number of parents g a surrogate has quadpled over the past 10 years, but is always ntroversial: high-profile gay men om Brian Dowlg to Tom Daley have been acced of exploatn, “womb rental” and even “child abe” when they go public about creatg their fai wh a surrogate.

Surrogacy always wh ser legal and ethil challeng, whether is tradnal (g the surrogate’s eggs) or gtatnal; altistic or mercial; gay or straight. ” He is referrg to the Amerin Society for Reproductive Medice’s guil, but wh no official regulatn the US, there’s no pulsn for anyone to follow to the fear that gay surrogacy eras mothers, Maggipto is fiant.

SURROGACY FOR GAY UPL UKRAE

”‘Let me go on rerd – I am not homophobic, ” Phyllis Chler tells me. “Gay men now want surance pani to treat beg born male as a disabily or as a protected tegory, one which requir paid pensatn, ” she wrote an article for a femist webse published a few days after the men filed their plat.

SURROGACY FOR GAY COUPL UKRAE

”Author and psychology and women’s studi profsor Phyllis Chler says ‘geic narcissism’ mak gay men want surrogacy stead of adoptn. Gay men want surrogacy stead of adoptn, she says, bee of “geic narcissism” among Chler’s papers is a py of Maggipto and Brisk’s legal plat. “If you balance the women who uld die pregnancy, the women who uld bee fertile bee of their eggs beg harvted, who mt endure pa and loss of time a way not mensurate to what they are beg paid, agast this new sire of a gay male uple to e surrogacy as their first optn, I thk the balance of sufferg is more on the female si.

IS GAY SURROGACY ALLOWED UKRAE?

Schter, 38, has given birth five tim: three tim for herself and her hband, and then twice for a gay uple om France. She has rried two children as a surrogate for a gay uple France. Schter tried to rry aga for a lol gay uple, but the embryo transfer failed.

She signed up to donate bone marrow, then offered to rry a baby for a iend who was stgglg wh fertily issu; when her iend cled, she went onle and found a surrogacy agency who matched her wh a gay man om the Cayman didn’t matter to her that he was sgle. She has rried two children for a gay man the Cayman Islands: ‘It was none of my DNA – I’m more like a babyster. ”‘More and more people the male gay muny are thkg of parentg at a younger and younger age, ” says Ron Poole-Dayan, executive director of Men Havg Babi.

“After the mographic disptn of the Aids panmic, gay people have bee more able and likely to form stable relatnships, that creasgly got more social regnn. “Surrogacy is a gay issue, ” he tells me. The surt way to ensure that gay men don’t have children is to be agast surrogacy.

”Poole-Dayan se the “suatnal fertily” gay men face as equivalent to medil fertily. Photograph: Mark Hartman/The GuardianToday, blogil fatherhood only exists for rich gay upl – or poor on. Men Havg Babi’ Gay Parentg Assistance Programme giv out more than $1m a year disunted and ee medil servic and sh grants to those ser fancial need.

” Jt like everyone else, the cy’s first rponse was to assume this was all about accs to they wa for a cisn, Maggipto and Brisk mt endure the heartache of watchg the children of their wealthy gay iends grow up. Ukrae do not allow gay upl or sgle parents to ntract wh surrogat, so would-be parents eher tegory have often turned to Rsia. There, sgle parents have hired surrogat, and gay upl have found a path to parenthood by havg only one parent sign the ntract; the other subsequently adopts the child their home untri, explas Nidhi Dai, the director of the Amerin Amy of Adoptn and Assisted Reproductn surrogat didn’t want to abandon their untry and travel even farther om their var untri have rtricted ternatnal surrogacy, agenci have shed to take advantage of Ukrae’s relatively well regulated market.