Is Your Man Gay, Straight, or Bisexual? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• AM I GAY?
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• LEGIMACY OF ‘CTOMER’ SUPREME COURT GAY RIGHTS SE RAIS ETHIL AND LEGAL FLAGS

AM I GAY?

Jane Ward, thor of the 2015 Not Gay: Sex Between Straight Whe Men, which ed the viral term “bro jobs” to scribe straight men havg sex wh each other. ) The lights are dimmed slightly and soft mic plays while the men gather, eher alone or small clters, and proceed to jerk off, all the while keepg nversatn to a mimum to ensure everyone stays the of the atten at Ra Cy Jacks are gay men.

He nducts annual surveys of the group, and he says that while the majory of members are gay, about 10 percent of the Seattle Jacks’ 300 or so members self-intify as heterosexual, wh 25 percent intifyg as bisexual. ” Acrdg to a Slate piece on the phenomenon, approximately 10 percent of BateWorld’s ers self-intify as straight, while 5 percent refed to self-intify eher way—a number that pal parison to the more than 44, 000 gay ers of the se (50 percent of s dience; 30 percent intifi as bi, while 5 percent would “rather not say”), but is nohels signifint. As Slate wrer Kyle Mta put , “that’s a lot of not-gay dus wh profil on a webse for men who like to masturbate wh other men.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

” And given the strict and arguably regrsive s erng male sexualy, which dictate that any man who so much as looks at another man has to be, if not gay, probably bisexual, ’s surprisg that so many ostensibly straight men are terted watchg other guys touch said, for some straight guys who attend jackoff clubs, lookg at or touchg other penis may almost be bi the pot. Ward, the thor of Not Gay, says that some men wh exhibnistic tennci jerk off ont of other men as a way to get validatn—say, a pliment about the size of their genals—that they may not necsarily get om their female partners. While both of the experienc are not unmon for men their teens and twenti, they’re stnchly homoerotic nohels—and ’s also worth notg that there isn’t que an equivalent for young women.

LEGIMACY OF ‘CTOMER’ SUPREME COURT GAY RIGHTS SE RAIS ETHIL AND LEGAL FLAGS

”For this reason, says Ward, jackoff clubs “may be a way [for straight men] to perhaps relive or rennect wh a kd of adolcent homosocialy that men may have experienced.

At first, the members were primarily openly gay men, mostly exhibnists who “like public sex, but didn’t want to get volved more hardre stuff, ” says Steve. Bee the New York Jacks exclively foced on solo and mutual masturbatn, was viewed by many the gay muny as a relatively risk-ee alternative to bathho and sex clubs, which led to membership creasg.

For both gay and straight men relatnships, jackoff clubs “n be viewed as a way to jtify fily, bee don’t ‘unt’ as cheatg, ” he recent years, jackoff clubs have tered to an creasgly diverse, younger, and more sexually open clientele. “The younger generatn is so fortable wh gay people.

)On ocsn, such ternalized homophobia n e issu jackoff clubs, pecially if a member approach another man who’s not terted anythg beyond lookg. “We have so much homophobia, so straight men feel cut off om experiencg physil affectn wh other men, ” Rosenberg says. Like you might well be bisexual or gay.

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