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When talkg about g out as <a href=">LGBTQ+</a>, though, so many of the stori we hear revolve around those disverg their inti their teens and 20s. Hello, <em>Stranger Thgs,</em> <em>The Bold Type,</em> <em>Riverdale,</em> <em>One Day at a Time</em>,—hell, even throwg back to <em>Glee.</em> I uld go on.</p><p>Personally I didn’t e out as <a href=">bisexual</a> until llege, and even that felt late pared to other queer kids I knew and what I saw the media. But real talk: No matter what the ual g-out narrative suggts, a <em>ton</em> of people realize, accept, or share that they’re not straight or cis past their 20s.</p><div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--article-mid-ntent" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--article-mid-ntent nsumer-marketg-un__slot---ntent"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><p>To highlight this mon experience, I talked to five people of different sexuali and genrs the LGBTQ+ muny about their g-out journeys. Their stori show that spe what you may have ternalized there is no typil g-out experience.</p><h2>“Beg around lbians ma me realize I was a lbian.”</h2><p><em>Alison, 39</em></p><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad---ntent"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot---ntent" data-no-id="y2ngbf"></div></div><p>“I was born 1980, which is hardly the dark ag, but certaly wasn't anywhere near where we are now terms of LGBTQ+ culture, unrstandg, and progrs. The assumptn everywhere was, ‘You are a girl, th you will like and date boys, eventually marry a boy, <a href=">have babi</a>, and live happily ever after.’</p><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><p>I first started intifyg as bi when I was around 15. Beg an unpretty teen, I was perhaps extra sperate for boys to give me some proof I was likable. That very low self-teem ntributed to years of believg I wanted to be wh boys, then men. But my mid-20s, I started quietly wonrg if I was actually gay.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-1 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>The relatnship I was wh a man om age 23 to 27 both propelled and hred my sexualy journey. I tly liked him a lot and I was attracted to him, but now I believe was more a general, ‘God put this person together que nicely and mak my athetic bra happy’ sort of way. But also beme clear—to him long before did to me—that I simply didn't want a sexual hetero relatnship. In breakg up wh me, he said, ‘I thk you should date women.’</p><p>Admtg he was right was sry, bee then what did that mean about our whole time together? Was I a fucked up, <a href=">selfish</a> jerk who had stng this great guy along? Was I wrong about this most timate aspect of my own damn self? I didn't want to thk I uld lack such ccial—and for most people, simple and basic—knowledge of myself.</p><p>Maybe this is a ser ‘No sh, Sherlock’ statement, but beg around lbians ma me realize I was a lbian. I’d say that realizatn probably me around a year after I moved to San Francis, when I spent my first Pri the cy. I fally had some queer crew to hang out wh, and so much gayns to soak . They helped me see myself reflected them. It was a siar thg wh g out as asexual a few years ago—explorg that muny onle was a major lightbulb moment for me. Once I started g the label, felt so obvly appropriate that I wonred why I'd never thought of before.</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB kNleGZ sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="z2av4q"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="06qhoh"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa UJsCn body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>By a certa age pecially as a woman I thk: I’ve jt started to give nary a fuck what other people thk of me. I’ve had the time to explore, and I’m makg choic based solely on what works for me, and not what others expect of me. I get to be the Cool Olr Queer who n support younger folks on their own journeys. And hopefully, no one will make the stupid ‘phase’ ments I ed to get. I'm one year shy of 40. There are no phas anymore.”</p><h2>“I didn’t want to embrace a label that me wh so much baggage.”</h2><p><em>Staci, 56</em></p><p>“A lot of thgs kept me om my sexualy growg up. For one I was raised as a Catholic. I was also heavy as a kid and I got a lot of negative msagg around my worth bee of , which do not enurage you to explore other thgs that will make you different. I remember beg younger and feelg somewhat of a sexual attractn to girls, and I was jt like, <em>la la la la la.</em></p><p>I fally had my first <a href=">relatnship</a> wh a woman 10 years ago. By that time, I had moved away om my town full of nservative Republins to New York Cy. We went to lbian events and thgs like that together, but I knew I never f there. I liked them, they jt didn’t feel like my people.</p><p>It’s only been the last few years that I’ve been able to e the label <a href=">bisexual</a>. I didn’t want to embrace a label that me wh so much baggage. People who label themselv as bisexual n be looked upon wh distst by the lbian muny, and seen as wishy-washy by gay men. I’m not even a big label person general, but I unrstand ’s how we tegorize thgs and unrstand them—or pretend to unrstand them.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-2 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>I don’t have any regrets about g out when I did, bee I don’t know if I was strong enough to al wh all that before then. But people today are lucky. There are so many rourc, om social media to centers to media portrayals. People n fd each other safely and much more easily onle than you uld my day.”</p><h2>“I was genuely nvced that I was jt a girl who didn’t know how to do right.”</h2><p><em>Simen, 32</em></p><p>“I’m a female-to-male middle school teacher. I me out to my boss last week (she was amazg), and I’m startg my medil <a href=">transn</a> two weeks. Oh, and bee I'm tryg for LGBTQ+ bgo, I'm also asexual.</p><p>I’ve never not felt this way, but I didn’t know what that meant about my sexual or <a href=">genr inty</a>. Growg up, I was genuely nvced that I was jt a girl who didn’t know how to do right and hadn’t had her lbian awakeng yet. Everyone else seemed to know a secret to beg a woman that I’d jt not disvered. It was the same wh beg asexual. 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I hate attentn, but I remd myself that this might jt be the most important thg to see for someone who is 14 and the wrong body. Maybe if I had had a role mol, I wouldn’t have waed to e out until I was 31.</p><p>An upsi of g out later is that the secury of my 20s is gone. By now, I know I’m gog to be all right. I also don’t buckle unr the prsure om doctors or therapists who thk they know better than me. As a younger adult, I would have taken on the ch probably, and then gone to a ep <a href=">prsn</a>. Now I have the life experience to back up what I’m sayg. My opn matters a way didn’t when I was younger.</p><p>A downsi is that I’m perpetually explag and g out and talkg about tails. But I’ve never worried about g out or transng. It jt took me time to realize that when people said they didn’t feel their assigned genr was right, that was what I was feelg. However long tak you to e to terms wh yourself, ’s not time wasted. Some people jt have a longer road to walk.”</p><h2>“Years of pretendg to be someone that I wasn’t helped me build an armor.”</h2><p><em>Jenna, 36</em></p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-3 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>“I me out as a <a href=">gay woman</a> the past uple years. I was so terrified of the ia of beg gay that I half-reprsed , half-avoid . There wasn’t a relig or parental fluence, there was never anyone tellg me was a bad thg. I was jt terrified of beg different.</p><p>I qu my job back 2012 rporate graphic sign to bee a full-time farmer and eelancer on this ltle piece of land upstate New York. It took beg alone on a farm for a to really get to the pot where I uld e out. My farm has bee a ltle paradise and ’s been hard as hell to keep , but that fight is what gave me the strength to e out. There was too much proof that I’d been able to do hard thgs and be OK. 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