The challenge of takg your spoe’s name when you’re gay.
Contents:
- WHAT DO IT MEAN WHEN A GAY SON TAK HIS HBAND’S SURNAME?
- A SYMBOL OF MARRIAGE: GAY UPL TAKE ON PARTNER'S LAST NAME
- CHANGG YOUR NAME AFTER MARRIAGE WHEN YOU’RE GAY
WHAT DO IT MEAN WHEN A GAY SON TAK HIS HBAND’S SURNAME?
Parents of a gay son who will be marryg his boyiend are thrilled by the marriage, but ls so that their son is droppg their last name. * gay couples name change *
But when genr norms go out the wdow, the cisn n take on a whole new level of plexy and year’s landmark Supreme Court lg, which legalized gay marriage around the untry, means same-sex upl will be facg the name-change qutn more than ever before. In Alabama, explas Andy Page, who grew up near Birmgham and hop to someday adopt a child wh his hband Lee Hawk, a gay uple nnot adopt jotly, so they mt choose one person to be the adoptive parent.
"A lot of LGB [lbian, gay, and bisexual] upl reject the ia of changg their nam bee of the sense that the name-changg practice has roots a genred, sexist marriage stutn which women lerally beme their hband's legal property and lost their inty unr the law, " explas Boso, whose rearch foc on law and personal inty, and who has cid agast takg his hband's last name due to the publitns he already has unr his own. Proponents exist on both sis of the name-change issue, pecially wh the gay and lbian muny. Gay and lbian upl nsirg changg their last nam face some of the same disrd that heterosexual upl experience.
This thought procs holds te even when a gay marriage is volved wh the dividual who choos the spoe’s name beg portrayed as the ls pennt of the two spo. Sce is nsired tradnal to change a last name durg the marriage procs, some gay and lbian upl want to participate this aspect. For some gay and lbian upl, rporatg a name change after marriage volv the emotnal issu of fay intifitn, mment, and love.
A SYMBOL OF MARRIAGE: GAY UPL TAKE ON PARTNER'S LAST NAME
While hazg the lennials durg a meetg today, several of them nfsed to not knowg the basic lexin of gay slanguage. This is for them and everyone else who needs a reher. * gay couples name change *
· “I thk the son is celebratg the fact that he has this optn, which was not available to gay people before now.
”· “For gay upl, choosg one name or the other n have ls to do wh the ‘dynamics’ of the relatnship than who has a ‘better name, but outsirs’ worryg/wonrg about this says a lot about existg sex-role stereotyp.
I emailed Andrew Solomon, the thor of the acclaimed “Far From the Tree, ” and hband of John Habich Solomon, for his take on John’s name change:“We felt that the same way that ’s radil for heterosexual women to refe to change their nam, ditg that they haven’t been subsumed to a new inty wh marriage, so is equally radil for gay people to change their nam; associat firmly wh the ia of fay, of permanence, of beg part of a many-generatns tradn of timacy. In October 2008, racg agast California's gay marriage ban, Chloe and Frankie Frankeny wed legally San Francis wh one chore already done: Chloe had taken her wife's name two years before.
CHANGG YOUR NAME AFTER MARRIAGE WHEN YOU’RE GAY
"Wh a battle over the state's ban on gay marriage possibly head to the U. It's a symbol renred even stronger now that legal gay marriag are on hold California, and for partners who've never had the optn. Logistilly, a name-change for gay upl isn't always as simple as trottg out a marriage certifite, the proof most required heterosexual marriage.
Kirsten Pallado, who ns the onle gay weddg 'ze Equally Wed, shed Ott for the surname of her partner, Maria, last year whout benef of a state-sanctned unn Geia. They had a church weddg five years ago whe gowns wh 10 brismaids after obtag a marriage license unr their state's gay marriage name did they choose?
"It's a small thg that isn't noticeable when you look at her passport, but the procs was long and an unnecsary remr that thgs aren't exactly equal, " Kathryn and Anthony Cle mted to each other 2001 durg a hotel ceremony their native Indiana, where gay marriage is outlawed. 15 Old-Timey Nam for 'Gay'.