Although I have always enjoyed dog upl work wh gay men, I am hardly a specialist this area. So at tim when I’ve had qutns I’ve turned to my lleagu Rick Miller and Clton Power. Rick’s practice the Boston area specializ work wh gay men and Clton’s…
Contents:
- A GAY THE LIFE: SIX IGNORANT QUTNS THAT GAY PEOPLE GET ASKED
- A MORN GAY’S GUI
- LOVE MATTERS: 13 GREAT FIRST DATE QUTNS FOR GAY MEN
- GAY DADS OF TRIPLETS REVEAL THE WILD QUTNS THEY GET: ‘WILL YOU STILL LOVE THEM IF THEY’RE STRAIGHT?’
A GAY THE LIFE: SIX IGNORANT QUTNS THAT GAY PEOPLE GET ASKED
Although I have always enjoyed dog upl work wh gay men, I am hardly a specialist this area. Rick’s practice the Boston area specializ work wh gay men and Clton’s Sydney serv the LBGTQ for this month’s blog, I reached out to Rick and Clton to help rears who work primarily wh heterosexual upl and want to expand your knowledge base for helpg gay men. I’ll start wh some of Rick’s sights on mon issu for gay male upl and follow up wh a set of qutns om Clton that open munitn l and pave the way for your Miller has been a popular prenter at the annual Coupl Conferenc that we -sponsor wh the Milton Erickson Foundatn.
Last year his prentatn was amed around potentially difficult nversatns a therapist might iate wh gay upl the areas of sex, money and vulnerabily. I know om my own practice and also om the many s therapists have brought to me for nsultatn that the issu n be pecially challengg to heterosexual therapists workg wh gay upl.
A MORN GAY’S GUI
Wtern culture supports strength men and beltl ep ternal vulnerabily or is pound by the ternalized shame rried by most gay men. Gay men face disapproval or worse if those emotns are visible. For example:No gay upl are monogamoGay upl don’t have sexls relatnshipsAll gay men like anal sexGay men don’t have erectn issuHe suggted openg the topic of sexualy wh some ial you open or monogamo?
Clton’s QutnsI recently asked Clton Power to give me a list of qutns that heterosexual therapists might not know to ask gay upl. Here are some excellent qutns he gave me for your fortable are you wh showg affectn to each other public, such as holdg hands, kissg, huggg, or acknowledgg publicly you're a gay uple?
mon issu, gay male upl, homosexual upl. The are great qutns that heterosexual therapists may not thk about gay relatnships. I thk evinced-based approach don’t take the perspective of specific suatns like specific challeng of the gay, lbian etc muni.
LOVE MATTERS: 13 GREAT FIRST DATE QUTNS FOR GAY MEN
I appreciate that this article begs to open up potentially hidn issu gay male partnerships, and to dispel myths about such partnerships. 1) It is ed a myth that gay partnerships do not all operate wh an open or polyamoro stcture.
2) A uple thoughts on sexual rol: Firstly, variatn sexual rol is not unique to gay male partnerships. Send, if your gay male clients intify as tops or bottoms, kdly do not assume that top = domant and bottom = submissive. “It is ed THE TRUTH that gay partnerships do not all operate wh an open or polyamoro stcture.
I see no difference wh hetero or gay wh all the and qutns supplied this article.
GAY DADS OF TRIPLETS REVEAL THE WILD QUTNS THEY GET: ‘WILL YOU STILL LOVE THEM IF THEY’RE STRAIGHT?’
I see both hetero and gay upl and I don’t treat them any different however, as I am gatherg and asssg, I will ask qutns relevant to that uple. I too see a lot of siari between workg wh straight and gay upl, but the ma difference the gay male upl I work wh is they often place a lot of importance on sex and prent for therapy when there are sexual problems, betrayal issu, they want to explore and negotiate some form of non-monogamy, or a non-monogamo arrangement is not workg.
I am a gay male relatnship wh my partner, I love him.
“But isn’t beg gay a choice?