The gay world is often reprented as some sort of monolhic whole that has the same culture. That is a lie. It is actually broken down to a handful of substrata to which each gay belongs. Here they are.
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A HANDY GUI TO ALL GAY MEN
* bottom gay example *
Lucky for gay/bi men, there are que a number of who know exactly how that feels. It seems like every gay guy out there is a bottom, and when you thk you've met someone who's fely a He too is a bottom.
Legend would have you believe that once you’ve earned your gay rd, a Harry Potter–like ceremony occurs where, stead of the Sortg Hat, a giant magil butt plug divis all gay men to two ho: tops or bottoms.This is clearly not the se, pecially for those people who nsir themselv versatile (HIYA). The two subdivisns have their own l, stereotyp, and -jok, and n sometim seem as if they’re at war wh each other, rather than both workg together for mutual sexual pleasure.All of this n make tryg different thgs dntg, pecially if you’re a baby gay venturg to this world for the first time.
SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"
So how do you go about ttg new waters?“I believe what I ll takg your erotic temperature,” explas Woody Miller, the thor of the books How to Bottom Like a Porn Star and How to Top Like a Stud, “which is basilly havg a nversatn wh yourself about what is you like.”Miller argu that gay men should exame their relatnship wh power. But I believe that many gay men pick one si, stick to , and that some of those dividuals choose toppg—you’ll have seen their profil markg them as “masc dom tops” on the apps—bee of s ti to tradnal masculy.As Miller explas, there are outsi forc that, datg back to the ancient Greeks, have prevented gay men om tly diggg to what sexual behavrs we might actually enjoy. “What I mean by that,” he says, “is that cultural forc wh the gay muny prize toppg over bottomg.”The ongog fetishizatn of masculy means that the tradnally submissive role of the bottom is associated wh effemacy.
Chris Whe, an expert health promotn and the director and prcipal vtigator of the Safe and Supportive Schools Project at the Gay-Straight Alliance Network San Francis, tak this one step further. Not gettg fucked don’t make you any ls gay.Your sexual posn isn’t your intyLet’s ll bullsh on the ncept that if two people are tops they’re patible, bee the posns that you enjoy don’t fe who you are.
There’s really not an eternal sparklg srlet letter markg you wh a “T” or a “B.”To be (fucked) or not to be (fucked) shouldn’t always be the qutnAcrdg to a 2011 study by The Journal of Sexual Medice that surveyed 25,000 gay men Ameri about their last sexual enunters, only 36 percent said they had bottomed and 34 percent said they had topped.So, realy, we’re not actually fuckg all that much.