Contents:
- WHAT IF MY FIANCé IS GAY?
- IN A GAY RELATNSHIP IS PROPER TO LL YOUR ENGAGED PARTNER FIANCE OR FIANCEE?
WHAT IF MY FIANCé IS GAY?
What If My Fiancé Is Gay? I had no worri until two weeks ago, when he nfsed that he ed to have gay relatnships.
Bee ns unter to the norms of our culture and the expectatns of most parents, homosexualy n be difficult for some people to accept about themselv; your fiancé is likely one of them. But the likelihood that gay attractn is a thg of his past is not great.
You don't want a relatnship that looks fe on the surface but which enurag him to have furtive gay enunters (thk: Larry Craig). In a gay relatnship is proper to ll your engaged partner fiance or fiancee? So, wh all that said, is proper for a gay man to say, of his partner, “this is my fiance” or “this is my fiancee”?
IN A GAY RELATNSHIP IS PROPER TO LL YOUR ENGAGED PARTNER FIANCE OR FIANCEE?
Assumg, of urse, that the gay man is the proposer and his partner is the proposee. gay.
I thk gay relatnships are sufficiently different and diverse that appropriatg the tradnal heterosexual ctoms and terms wh all the patriarchal and genr-role baggage that wh them is a mistake.
What gay men and lbians have is not the same as what straight upl have, and I thk we should celebrate the difference rather than pretend we’re jt like straight people but for a few quirks of plumbg. I don’t have a problem wh the ia of gay marriage— fact, I support —but I thk g the word “marriage” for anythg that isn’t full, legal marriage only serv to nfe people. A few years back, when the Massachetts Supreme Judicial Court was nsirg the issue of gay marriage, one of my neighbors thought was ridiculo—not bee he was opposed to gay marriage, but bee two lbians he knew when he was llege referred to each other as “my wife” and mentned their “marriage ceremony” and he was sure they were legally married.