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Contents:

• GAY PARENTG: 'S PLITED
• ‘WE ARE EXPECTED TO BE OK WH NOT HAVG CHILDREN’: HOW GAY PARENTHOOD THROUGH SURROGACY BEME A BATTLEGROUND
• 10 THGS YOU’LL ONLY KNOW IF YOU’VE GROWN UP WH GAY PARENTS
• INTERVIEW: BEG A GAY SGLE PARENT THE UK
• GAY PARENTS TO BE
• ITALY BEGS REMOVG GAY MOTHERS OM CHILDREN’S BIRTH CERTIFIT

GAY PARENTG: 'S PLITED

She is the child's geic parent but, on the advice of lawyers, was obliged to adopt her own dghter after Moreno gave relatively recently, of urse, the uple would not have been treated at a fertily clic the first place and, as is still the se Arkansas, Michigan, Mississippi, North Carola, Oh and Utah, they would not, as a gay uple, have been permted to adopt. Florida overturned s ban only 2010, but this related only to sgle gay people adoptg. Popular prott is unlikely to break out, any time soon, around discrepanci the tate tax or who a same-sex uple n claim ductns for the children ( the US, tax breaks pertag to married upl don't apply, sce gay marriage isn't regnised ferally) is, all this, one glargly unsubtle problem, and that is surrogacy, which as a percentage affects gay men more than any other group.

In California, Will Halm and his partner were the first gay dads a surrogacy se the US to w the right to have their nam on their child's birth certifite, after a legal battle 1998.

If you had to ntrive a fay to illtrate historil chang gay parentg law, would be Halm, an attorney specialisg fertily law, his partner, Marcell Simard, and their children. The 13-year-old was nceived via an agency – one of the few that would treat gay upl – and by the time they had their third child, now 10, was wh an agency terg to gay dads. The days, California, the surrogacy agenci who once rejected them aggrsively go after gay bs.

‘WE ARE EXPECTED TO BE OK WH NOT HAVG CHILDREN’: HOW GAY PARENTHOOD THROUGH SURROGACY BEME A BATTLEGROUND

This was also when HIV and Aids was the atmosphere, when gay men uldn't give blood, so some of the doctors brought that up. '"In the US, the bt and quickt way to rolve any lgerg equaly would be to repeal the Defence of Marriage Act, which f marriage as existg solely between a man and a woman, and lims the ntexts which gay fai n be fed as such.

As a lawyer, Will Halm is proud to note that, of all the parental orrs he has wrten, assertg parental rights for gay upl, no urt has overturned a sgle one. The thg that puzzl her about opposn to gay parentg is that the child n never be nceived by mistake. "There has, undoubtedly, been a sea change the way gay and -parented fai are perceived – although Solomon thks 's agile.

He is eloquent on the subject of the homophobic : "While I found obnox as an addrs to John and me, I felt that was fivable.

10 THGS YOU’LL ONLY KNOW IF YOU’VE GROWN UP WH GAY PARENTS

'")Will Halm's olst dghter is one of the first generatn of IVF babi born via surrogacy to gay dads. She ss on the stunt uncil, volunteers for var gay/straight alliance chari. That a tt tube baby, om two gay men, is a well-adjted, smart, polished girl at 15, who is fortable talkg about her fay – she is what I would like the world to see.

INTERVIEW: BEG A GAY SGLE PARENT THE UK

” Wh marriage equaly won years ago, they expected to be able to have a nventnal married months before their weddg, a targeted ad om an anisatn lled Gay Parents to Be land Maggipto’s Instagram feed, offerg ee nsultatns wh a fertily doctor who’d give them “the whole ndown” on how they uld start a fay. “We had the appotment and we were 100% on the same page – let’s move forward wh this, ” says ’s when they first beme aware of the eye-waterg st of blogil parenthood for gay men. That meant straight people and lbians workg for the Cy of New York would have the sts of IVF vered, but gay male upl uld never be isn’t an oversight, ’s discrimatn, Brisk says.

If they w, employers and health surers across the US will be unr prsure to change their polici to give gay men the same accs to fertily benefs as anyone else. But their se has bee much bigger than one uple’s drive to start a fay: they have bee figureheads the battle for fertily rights for all gay men.

GAY PARENTS TO BE

But brgg a fertily equaly claim that took eventual surrogacy for granted, they had unwtgly stumbled to the le of fire of one of the great culture wars of our age: whether anyone – but gay men particular – should be able to pay to e a woman’s body. In England and Wal, the number of parents g a surrogate has quadpled over the past 10 years, but is always ntroversial: high-profile gay men om Brian Dowlg to Tom Daley have been acced of exploatn, “womb rental” and even “child abe” when they go public about creatg their fai wh a surrogate.

ITALY BEGS REMOVG GAY MOTHERS OM CHILDREN’S BIRTH CERTIFIT

Surrogacy always wh ser legal and ethil challeng, whether is tradnal (g the surrogate’s eggs) or gtatnal; altistic or mercial; gay or straight. ” He is referrg to the Amerin Society for Reproductive Medice’s guil, but wh no official regulatn the US, there’s no pulsn for anyone to follow to the fear that gay surrogacy eras mothers, Maggipto is fiant. ”‘Let me go on rerd – I am not homophobic, ” Phyllis Chler tells me.

“Gay men now want surance pani to treat beg born male as a disabily or as a protected tegory, one which requir paid pensatn, ” she wrote an article for a femist webse published a few days after the men filed their plat. ”Author and psychology and women’s studi profsor Phyllis Chler says ‘geic narcissism’ mak gay men want surrogacy stead of adoptn. Gay men want surrogacy stead of adoptn, she says, bee of “geic narcissism” among Chler’s papers is a py of Maggipto and Brisk’s legal plat.

“If you balance the women who uld die pregnancy, the women who uld bee fertile bee of their eggs beg harvted, who mt endure pa and loss of time a way not mensurate to what they are beg paid, agast this new sire of a gay male uple to e surrogacy as their first optn, I thk the balance of sufferg is more on the female si. Schter, 38, has given birth five tim: three tim for herself and her hband, and then twice for a gay uple om France.