After 20 Years of Marriage, My Dad Came Out As Gay — Gay Parents

Contents:

• MY DAD COMG OUT AS GAY CHANGED OUR LIV — AND GAVE ME THE COURAGE TO BE MYSELF
• TOUCHG VIO SHOWS SON E OUT AS GAY TO MORMON DAD
• HOW A SON AND DGHTER RPOND TO A GAY DAD COMG OUT
• AFTER 20 YEARS OF MARRIAGE, MY DAD CAME OUT AS GAY
• DAD FULLY ACCEPTS GAY SON AFTER G-OUT — UNR ONE NDN
• HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY
• GAY SON COM OUT TO MORMON DAD, GETS SHOCKED FOR ALL THE RIGHT REASONS
• GROWG UP WH A GAY FATHER – CONFSNS OM A STRAIGHT SON

MY DAD COMG OUT AS GAY CHANGED OUR LIV — AND GAVE ME THE COURAGE TO BE MYSELF

I'm gay.

I n't remember exactly what I unrstood of the word "gay" at that pot my life, but whether me om hearg my classmat e to disparage our peers or the nate unrstandg that s existence our life meant plete and utter change to our fay dynamic, I stantly registered the word as synonymo wh "bad. The word "gay" was not a taboo word our hoe.

I never hated to pull asi even the tought bulli after hearg them make fun of our gay classmat to give them a piece of my md, and I preached csantly about why the f-word should be dropped om everyone's vobulari anytime was uttered my prence. We would se together as adults and share stori om our childhoods about our gay parents that others wouldn't unrstand. It's te that children of gay adults tend to grow up quicker than most bee we e to know a different world at an early age that some adults are not yet able to fully prehend.

TOUCHG VIO SHOWS SON E OUT AS GAY TO MORMON DAD

Stt Takacs, a 46-year-old and father of three, penned a personal say about his experience g out as a gay man to his sons. There wasn't much of a plan, no guibook hand, only goals that I hoped my boys would start the procs of unrstandg and acceptg their dad for whom I tly was: a gay Stt TakacsIt had been a long 15 months sce g out to my wife, an experience I unfortunately wouldn't scribe as posive, fun or somethg I ever want to repeat.

Wh many emotns and strs, I accepted her requt to keep the reason for our divorce -- due to me beg gay -- a secret for at least another year. Chigo offered the stabily I need a job, iendship and at this pot, a new relatnship that all ntributed to my healg this new gay world.

HOW A SON AND DGHTER RPOND TO A GAY DAD COMG OUT

Homosexualy wasn't a topic well discsed our fay. Gay iends were jt iends -- rpected but their relatnships not necsarily discsed. Gay marriage was the news, but not discsed our hoe other than the ocsnal negative ment om a close relative.

In many ways, a lovg place for them, but I me to realize that teachers spoke openly agast gay culture and textbooks labeled homosexualy as sful and evil. My kids listened and followed their prr to g out, was hard for me to hear my kids e home wh stori of teachers gradg gay marriage or gay people, to see their workbooks, rercg the bias agast beg gay.

The last thg I wanted was for my kids to be treated differently bee they had a gay dad, which I felt was a the year followg my divorce, I agreed not to tell the kids I was gay, so I had to be reful.

AFTER 20 YEARS OF MARRIAGE, MY DAD CAME OUT AS GAY

We were reful to avoid referenc to "gay" discsns and plac, although I lived the Gayborhood of Chigo, an upsle, predomantly gay area on Chigo's North Si. He was a few years ahead of his brothers beg doctrated by his school agast homosexualy. He was fiant at tim and generally embarrassed about his gay dad.

DAD FULLY ACCEPTS GAY SON AFTER G-OUT — UNR ONE NDN

Eventually, though, that started to four years, my olst son's iends knew he had a gay dad, and, to put teenage terms, wasn't so bad. I thk he unrstands beg gay isn't a choice anymore, and I believe that will ex-wife certaly bore the bnt of the day-to-day wh the kids.

I helped start a group for gay fathers Chigo and has shown me that there are other gay fathers ahead of me their g-out journey wh posive experienc to share.

HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY

LUCIE - Comg out as gay is hard, but g out as gay to your Mormon dad is really Swk was preparg to go on his first missn trip wh the Church of J Christ of Latter-day Sats when he cid to reveal the news that he was gay to his dad, Vghn Swk. He cid to vio rerd his g out to his dad, and posted the reactn the vio above to see how Swk’s dad reacted to him g out as gay. On this Father’s Day, some 34 years after the ath of my own father, I reflect on my two amazg children, who were the bt enablers I uld hope for when I me out as a gay man.

In fact, I was not even fully aware that I was a gay man when we parted ways after more than 15 years of married life. My greatt apprehensn durg this time was if my kids, Sean, then 24, and Rachel, then 17, uld al wh their father beg gay. I would obss over the thought of how I would have reacted if my father had dropped on me and my six siblgs that he was gay.

I reasoned that tellg my children I’m gay would surely stun them like droppg a pallet of bricks on them.

GAY SON COM OUT TO MORMON DAD, GETS SHOCKED FOR ALL THE RIGHT REASONS

I told her “I am gay, ” and scribed a b of what I had been gog through the last few years.

Beg a gay father has meant many thgs to me, cludg beg a grandfather four tim. I am one of a growg number of gay men wh children.

GROWG UP WH A GAY FATHER – CONFSNS OM A STRAIGHT SON

The first time my dad tried to tell me he was gay, didn't go well.