Gays vs. Straights: Any Differenc Sexual Satisfactn? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• GAYS VS. STRAIGHTS: ANY DIFFERENC SEXUAL SATISFACTN?
• SOME GAYS CAN GO STRAIGHT, STUDY SAYS
• AM I GAY?
• GAY-STRAIGHT/GENRS & SEXUALI ALLIANC
• ARE YOU GAY OR STRAIGHT?
• CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
• ÜBERSETZUNG FüR "GAY OR STRAIGHT" IM DTSCH

GAYS VS. STRAIGHTS: ANY DIFFERENC SEXUAL SATISFACTN?

Someone n be transgenr, but also be gay, straight, bisexual, asexual, or a whole host of other sexual inti that exist. Rather than jt male or female, gay or straight, there are now 37 scriptns to choose om on the app, as well as the optn to wre your genr inty.

In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn.

SOME GAYS CAN GO STRAIGHT, STUDY SAYS

Number one is the high cince of male-female upl enterg my office bee the woman thks her man might be gay.

He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been havg sex wh men. A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me?

AM I GAY?

And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay. That’s unual, bee most gay men, even most gay therapists, believe that if a guy is havg gay sex, he’s gay.

” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way. Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women. When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic.

The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist. A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them.

GAY-STRAIGHT/GENRS & SEXUALI ALLIANC

So if a client is stgglg wh his sexual orientatn and he’s got a lot of homophobia, he’s probably gay.

A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way. Even if he’s nfed and don’t want to e out as gay, this is who he is and over time that will e out.

ARE YOU GAY OR STRAIGHT?

So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met. Eher they’re worried that their man will eventually ci he’s gay and end the relatnship, or they want monogamy, and his cheatg is a threat to the marriage regardls of who he’s dog wh. And I should pot out here that the men when they’re engagg this behavr (regardls of whether they’re gay, straight or bi) nearly always tell themselv that what they’re dog is not cheatg bee they’re dog wh a guy.

If you’re a young man, you might assume that eher you’re straight or you’re not, meang you’re likely gay and maybe bisexual.

CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?

Yet the evince suggts that more young men intify or scribe themselv as mostly straight than intify as eher bisexual or gay bed. Yet when the men were forced to choose between straight, bisexual or gay, about three-quarters marked straight bee for them bisexual, even if is unrstood as “bisexual-leang straight, ” is too gay to accurately scribe their inty. Tradnally, our unrstandg has been that if you’re male and have even a slight attractn to the same sex, then you mt be gay.

He’s not a closeted gay man who fears beg gay yet wants to keep a slight, perhaps secretive, gay si by danglg his potential for guy sex. He may retreat om a full intifitn wh heterosexualy, but rarely do he gravate toward bisexualy, and almost never do he move toward homosexualy of any sort. ” Many people, cludg sex rearchers and scientists, believe that sexual orientatn is like a sle wh entirely gay on one end and entirely straight on the other.

Sexual inty is how you label yourself (for example, g labels such as queer, gay, lbian, straight, or bisexual). Some people may engage same genr sexual behavr but not intify themselv as bisexual, lbian, or gay.

ÜBERSETZUNG FüR "GAY OR STRAIGHT" IM DTSCH

It's amazg how ltle rearch has foced on this — jt two studi (1983 and 1991, and they provi only a cursory look at parative gay/straight sexual satisfactn). Dire cl long-term upl, but on average, men reta more sire than women, so we would expect men gay upl to feel the most sire, and women lbian upl the least, wh the men mixed-sex upl exprsg more libido than the women. But the survey, sexual sire was pretty much the same for all upl, wh gay men and lbians exprsg slightly more sire than heterosexuals.

Siary breeds fort, so pared wh those heterosexual upl, we would expect people lbian and gay upl to feel more satisfied wh their sexual munitn.