How to Deal when Your Bt Friend Is Gay: 12 Steps

Contents:

• GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN'S HEALTH
• HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS: AN LBGT FRIENDSHIP GUI
• YET ANOTHER STUDY CONFIRMS GAY LIFE EXPECTANCY 20 YEARS SHORTER
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
• LIFPAN OF A GAY IEND
• HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY
• CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
• I THOUGHT I DIDN'T NEED GAY FRIENDS; I WAS WRONG

GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN'S HEALTH

This webse provis an overview of the different health and other issu faced by gay and bisexual and bisexual men are part of a very diverse muny.

HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS: AN LBGT FRIENDSHIP GUI

For a long time, iendships between gay men and straight men – what some now ll “bromosexual” iendships – were unmon. Homophobia was likely one reason; another was that straight men probably assumed they didn’t have much mon wh gay men.

Specifilly, we’re terted lookg at the reasons gay men and straight men bee iends (or rema iends after the gay iend out). We currently have a survey vtigatn unrway that explor some of the posive out of “bromosexual” iendships, cludg our theory that gay men and straight men n be optimal wg men for one another.

YET ANOTHER STUDY CONFIRMS GAY LIFE EXPECTANCY 20 YEARS SHORTER

Gay men – particularly those nservative and ral environments – rema wary about tryg to beiend straight men, fearg prejudice-fueled rejectn. At the same time, many straight men still doubt that they’ll be able to relate to gay men any meangful way and, for this reason, may not try to iate a iendship. If they’re open-md about beiendg gay men and make the effort to try to fe iendships based upon mon terts, gay men should feel more fortable reciprotg.

Gay men who disclose their sexual orientatn to their straight male iends earlier life may be able to build more open and hont iendships wh them to adulthood. Send, recent rearch has argued that genr and sexual orientatn might not be as black and whe as prevly thought, which opens up new avenu for explorg how gay and straight men n relate to one another.

If a straight guy and his gay male iend are ls rigid about their masculy and sexualy, they’ll probably be more likely to discs tails about their sexual and romantic liv openly wh one another. Recent rearch has suggted that advice sharg uld be a ccial reason that straight women seek out gay men as iends. In short, women are able to tst the datg advice om gay male iends bee they know their gay iends don’t have any ulterr motiv: They’re not tryg to hook up wh them or pete wh them for guys.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY

We believe that this same sort of unbiased advice sharg might also foster iendships between gay and straight men. Bee of the tst they engenr om straight women, gay men are uniquely posned to be excellent “wg men” for sgle straight men. However, straight women do tend to tst the datg advice of gay men (pecially more than advice om straight men or women).

Jt as a gay man might be able to pass on advice about women to his straight iend, a straight man uld nnect his gay male iend wh another sirable gay man, sce neher the gay man nor his straight iend are petg for the same person. We believe that havg a tstworthy nfidant to help wh romantic pursus is one of the major reasons straight and gay men are leavg the fort of their same-sex, same-orientatn iend groups to form “bromosexual” iendships. Prev timat om obuari and pre-1994 sex surveys suggted that the median age of ath for homosexuals is ls than 50 yr.

Four ntemporary databas were ed to tt that timate: (1) obuari the homosexual prs om 1993 through 1997 reflected treatment succs for those wh AIDS but suggted a median age of ath ls than 50 years; (2) two large random sexualy surveys 1994--one the USA and the other Bra--yield rults nsistent wh a median age of ath for homosexuals of ls than 50 years; (3) the median age of those ever married Denmark, Swen, and Norway was about 50 years, while that of the ever homosexually partnered was about 40 yr; further, the married were about 5 tim more apt to be old and 4 tim ls apt to be widowed young; and (4) traveno dg abers and homosexuals takg HIV tts Colorado had almost intil age distributns. The four l of evince were nsistent wh prev fdgs suggtg that homosexual activy may be associated wh a lifpan shortened by 20 to 30 years.

LIFPAN OF A GAY IEND

Over the past few months we have learnt of a number of reports regardg a paper we published the Internatnal Journal of Epimlogy on the gay and bisexual life expectancy Vanuver the late 1980s and early 1990s.

1 From the reports appears that our rearch is beg ed by select groups US2 and Fland3 to suggt that gay and bisexual men live an unhealthy liftyle that is stctive to themselv and to others. The homophobic groups appear more terted rtrictg the human rights of gay and bisexuals rather than promotg their health and well aim of our rearch was never to spread more homophobia, but to monstrate to an ternatnal dience how the life expectancy of gay and bisexual men n be timated om limed val statistics data.

HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY

In our paper, we monstrated that a major Canadian centre, life expectancy at age 20 years for gay and bisexual men is 8 to 21 years ls than for all men. If the same pattern of mortaly ntued, we timated that nearly half of gay and bisexual men currently aged 20 years would not reach their 65th birthday. Unr even the most liberal assumptns, gay and bisexual men this urban centre were experiencg a life expectancy siar to that experienced by men Canada the year 1871.

In ntrast, if we were to repeat this analysis today the life expectancy of gay and bisexual men would be greatly improved.

If timat of an dividual gay and bisexual man's risk of ath is tly need for legal or other purpos, then people makg the timat should e the same actuarial tabl that are ed for all other mal that populatn. Gay and bisexual men are clud the nstctn of official populatn-based tabl and therefore the tabl for all mal are the appropriate on to be summary, the aim of our work was to assist health planners wh the means of timatg the impact of HIV fectn on groups, like gay and bisexual men, not necsarily ptured by val statistics data and not to hr the rights of the groups worldwi. Overall, we do not ndone the e of our rearch a manner that rtricts the polil or human rights of gay and bisexual men or any other group.

CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?

"All homosexuals are aware that their lifpan is about 20 years ls than for normal people so voters should know that a homosexual print may not live to fish his term. Among men wh AIDS their lifpan was 39 years, however even whout AIDS a male homosexuals lifpan is jt a short 42 years. [3] The liberal Southern Poverty Law Centre dubbed Cameron an "anti-gay extremist", and the Amerin Psychologil Associatn expelled him for exposg the tth about the homosexual liftyle and acced him of scientific data "d".

Another 1997 study om pro-homosexual rearchers who were tryg fend homosexuals, examed data of AIDS aths between 1987 to 1992 Toronto, and found that the life expectancy for the homosexual men was 8 to 20 years lower than heterosexuals. Outsi of LGBTQ+-specific meetups, a great way to fd LGBT iendships is actually by attendg meetups that gay people typilly like. WASHINGTON, DC, June 6, 2005 () – A new study which analyzed tens of thoands of gay obuari and pared them wh AIDS aths data om the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), has shown that the life expectancy for homosexuals is about twenty years shorter than that of the general public.

The study, entled “Gay obuari closely track officially reported aths om AIDS”, has been published Psychologil Reports (2005;96:693-697).

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

The Vanuver study was nducted by a team of pro-gay rearchers, who, upon fdg that pro-fay advot were g the rults of their rearch as nfirmatn for their beliefs about the risks of the homosexual liftyle, issued a statement tryg to curb this untend after-effect. “The aim of our work, ” said the rearch team, “was to assist health planners wh the means of timatg the impact of HIV fectn on groups, like gay and bisexual men, not necsarily ptured by val statistics data and not to hr the rights of the groups worldwi. Dpe their attempts to downplay the practil nsequenc of their rearch, is difficult to ignore that the study nclud wh the statement that “unr even the most liberal assumptns, gay and bisexual men this urban centre [Vanuver, BC] are now experiencg a life expectancy siar to that experienced by all men Canada the year 1871.

” Corrpondg almost exactly wh Cameron’s study, the Vanuver study dited that “life expectancy at age 20 years for gay and bisexual men is 8 to 20 years ls than for all men.

Cameron dited that he hoped the soberg rults of the new study, addn to such siar past studi, would fally e a “reexamatn”, sayg that “our society needs to reasss what ’s dog wh those who engage homosexualy. “Here we have homosexual activy, which, lerally, is much worse than smokg, ” and yet the schools ntue to teach that is normative and safe behavur.

I THOUGHT I DIDN'T NEED GAY FRIENDS; I WAS WRONG

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