An sult, although not meant to disparage actual gay people. It is a pheneomenon which a heterosexual man unsuccsfully attempts to woo a woman and wds up beg an timate but wholly platonic iend stead. The man naively believ that if he jt sticks around long enough, and shows the woman his scery, a romantic relatnship will eventually velop. In actualy, this will never, ever happen. Hence the man is the "-facto gay iend." One n also be a "post-relatnship gay iend." In this suatn, a romantic relatnship ends, but the woman says, "let's be iends; I still want you to be my bt iend." The man, somewhat pathetilly, agre to this proposal bee of nfn, wardice, or simple foolishns." name="Dcriptn" property="og:scriptn
Contents:
- GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
- MEETG YOUR FIRST GAY FRIEND
- HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS: AN LBGT FRIENDSHIP GUI
- GAY IEND
- HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY
- CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
I have a gay iend (lets ll him Friend 1) and h always tegorizg our iend group by the energy we all seem to give off. For example, I have a guy iend who giv off gay energy and Friend 1 is always sistg that h gay (teasgly) bee thats the energy he giv off by his persona... * gay friend energy *
For a long time, iendships between gay men and straight men – what some now ll “bromosexual” iendships – were unmon. Homophobia was likely one reason; another was that straight men probably assumed they didn’t have much mon wh gay men.
Specifilly, we’re terted lookg at the reasons gay men and straight men bee iends (or rema iends after the gay iend out).
We currently have a survey vtigatn unrway that explor some of the posive out of “bromosexual” iendships, cludg our theory that gay men and straight men n be optimal wg men for one another. Many straight men hated to beiend gay men, fearg harassment, rejectn om their straight iends or beg lled gay. The growg acceptance of homosexualy, however, has allayed some of the fears.
MEETG YOUR FIRST GAY FRIEND
Could gay guys be the ultimate wg men for their straight, male iends? * gay friend energy *
Gay men – particularly those nservative and ral environments – rema wary about tryg to beiend straight men, fearg prejudice-fueled rejectn.
HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS: AN LBGT FRIENDSHIP GUI
Heterosexual and gay men n heal and grow as a rult of their iendships. * gay friend energy *
At the same time, many straight men still doubt that they’ll be able to relate to gay men any meangful way and, for this reason, may not try to iate a iendship. Of urse, the tradnal notn that gay men and straight men nnot be close iends is herently homophobic and unte.
GAY IEND
* gay friend energy *
We propose gay-straight male iendships are not only possible, but that they n grow to be extremely rewardg. If they’re open-md about beiendg gay men and make the effort to try to fe iendships based upon mon terts, gay men should feel more fortable reciprotg. So which straight men are the most likely to beiend gay men, and vice versa?
Gay men who disclose their sexual orientatn to their straight male iends earlier life may be able to build more open and hont iendships wh them to adulthood. Send, recent rearch has argued that genr and sexual orientatn might not be as black and whe as prevly thought, which opens up new avenu for explorg how gay and straight men n relate to one another. If a straight guy and his gay male iend are ls rigid about their masculy and sexualy, they’ll probably be more likely to discs tails about their sexual and romantic liv openly wh one another.
HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY
New rearch explor the benefs of iendship between gay and straight men. * gay friend energy *
Recent rearch has suggted that advice sharg uld be a ccial reason that straight women seek out gay men as iends. In short, women are able to tst the datg advice om gay male iends bee they know their gay iends don’t have any ulterr motiv: They’re not tryg to hook up wh them or pete wh them for guys.
We believe that this same sort of unbiased advice sharg might also foster iendships between gay and straight men. Bee of the tst they engenr om straight women, gay men are uniquely posned to be excellent “wg men” for sgle straight men.
However, straight women do tend to tst the datg advice of gay men (pecially more than advice om straight men or women).
CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
Acrdgly, straight men uld get a leg up datg om beg close iends wh gay men. For example, a gay iend uld vouch for his straight iend’s good tentns to women. Straight men who are fortable wh their sexualy may also act as wg men for gay male iends.
Jt as a gay man might be able to pass on advice about women to his straight iend, a straight man uld nnect his gay male iend wh another sirable gay man, sce neher the gay man nor his straight iend are petg for the same person. We believe that havg a tstworthy nfidant to help wh romantic pursus is one of the major reasons straight and gay men are leavg the fort of their same-sex, same-orientatn iend groups to form “bromosexual” iendships.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
I’ll never fet beg 15 years old and walkg to my first ever meetg for lbian, gay, bi, queer, and trans youth at BAGLY Boston.