Should Gay Marriage Be Legal? 6 Pros and Cons

Contents:

• ‘HONEY, I’VE GOT A SECRET’ : WHEN GAY MEN E OUT TO THEIR WIV
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• STRAIGHT UPL GET MARRIED EARLIER THAN GAY UPL. HERE'S A LOOK AT WHY.
• GAYS AND LBIANS HAVE DIFFERENT REASONS TO GET MARRIED, STUDY SAYS
• HERE ARE THE STAT WHERE GAY COUPL CAN GET MARRIED
• GAY PEOPLE WHO WERE IN HETEROSEXUAL MARRIAG ARE SHARG THEIR STORI, AND THEY WERE INCREDIBLY HONT
• HERE’S WHAT LIFE IS LIKE WHEN YOU’RE GAY BUT MARRY HETERO
• WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY
• WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN, PART 2
• SHOULD GAY MARRIAGE BE LEGAL?

‘HONEY, I’VE GOT A SECRET’ : WHEN GAY MEN E OUT TO THEIR WIV

” Jim, now 62, ns a group Boston lled GAMMA – the Gay and Married Men’s Associatn – one of many siar groups which meet ci around the a month they gather for two hours to share stori.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

”He patiently explas to them that the group is actually for gay men heterosexual marriag. In Boston, Jim says he’s seen men outed after beg arrted cisg at gay bears, or outed by private vtigators hired by their those who are still the closet, n be paful, terrifyg, and exhstg.

STRAIGHT UPL GET MARRIED EARLIER THAN GAY UPL. HERE'S A LOOK AT WHY.

He knew he had been attracted to men adolcence, but was somethg he tried not to thk was the mid-70s, but spe the sexual revolutn happeng around him, he says homosexualy jt wasn’t somethg you thought loved his wife.

GAYS AND LBIANS HAVE DIFFERENT REASONS TO GET MARRIED, STUDY SAYS

“Some guys believe that beg gay has lerally jt happened then, but then you dig a ltle eper and you often fd out that they’ve had [those feelgs] sce childhood, ” he both Sydney and Boston, the average age of men who e to group meetgs has been fallg.

“A lot of the younger people we see knew they were gay and realised but wanted to have the tradnal fay and kids and thought they uld ratnalise , or told themselv they were bi, ” Jim says.

HERE ARE THE STAT WHERE GAY COUPL CAN GET MARRIED

”Rippg off the band-aidJim says didn’t que click for him that he was gay until he was his early 30s and accintally stumbled upon a gay beat a public bathroom.

A world of gay cisg opened up to him, he realised there were others like him, and that they were everywhere. The married father of two sudnly found himself navigatg the gay datg world for the first time. Sometim a woman may have been a heterosexual relatnship for years and yet feel somethg is somehow "off;" and she may fd herself askg, "Is my hband gay?

GAY PEOPLE WHO WERE IN HETEROSEXUAL MARRIAG ARE SHARG THEIR STORI, AND THEY WERE INCREDIBLY HONT

" Many women fd this qutn unthkable but acrdg to Bonnie Kaye,, an expert women married to gay men, is timated that 4 ln women have been, or are, married to gay men. If a hband is gay, n vastate not only the relatnship but the straight wife as well.

HERE’S WHAT LIFE IS LIKE WHEN YOU’RE GAY BUT MARRY HETERO

If the hband is hont wh both you and wh himself (read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay?

Unfortunately, is timated that 50% of gay hbands hi their homosexualy om their wiv and don't reach this place of honty on their own. In many s, is the wife, who after spectg that somethg is wrong, mt nont the gay hband wh the evince, and only then n hontly be achieved.

But if you're wonrg, "Is my man gay, " might be helpful to know that there are signs to look for, acrdg to Kaye.

WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY

Kaye has veloped the Official Gay Hband Checklist to help women know if their hbands are gay. You fd pop-ups of gay pornography on the puter while he claims they are not his. A hband may be gay and display none of those signs or a hband may display the signs and not be gay.

Kaye advis that women "follow their stcts" when cidg whether their hband may be gay. If turns out that a hband is, fact, gay, the fallout n be difficult to al wh, particularly for the straight partner. (If you're thkg that you n cure the gay by havg your hband go to gay nversn therapy, read this.

WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN, PART 2

What's important to remember is that the hband's homosexualy is entirely his rponsibily and has nothg to do wh the wife. The wife has not been aquate any way and likely the gay hband married her bee he tly red about her. And until 2015 – when the Supreme Court legalized gay marriage – that didn't clu data shows that the average age at first marriage for homosexual upl was olr than heterosexual upl.

Same-sex marriage is now legal across the Uned Stat, but rearch on the reasons gays and lbians get married is sparse. ) The 1, 381 upl the study—672 lbian and 709 gay upl—were enterg their first unns and were between the ag of 20 and 64.

SHOULD GAY MARRIAGE BE LEGAL?

) The thors found that gays and lbians got married for very different reasons. Most gay upl entered their unn whout kids, and that number remaed close to zero after marriage; the thors nclud that “the ma functn of registered partnership for gays is rource poolg, ” they wre the paper. ” In other words, gay upl were more likely to get married to be and rourc; lbians tend to e marriage as a steppg stool towards creatg a fay, further emphasized by a spike lbians registerg for marriage 2002, the year when jot adoptn was ma legal.

Havg kids is pecially expensive for gay mean, who need to fd an egg and a gtatnal rrier—a problem lbian upl don’t have. What’s astonishg about the new rearch is that showed that lbian upl are often not as assortatively matched as heterosexual upl, or even gay men.