Straight Women and Their Gay Hbands | Psychology Today

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• I WAS SURE I WAS GAY – UNTIL I FELL LOVE WH MY BT FEMALE IEND
• CAN A GAY MAN BE ATTRACTED TO A SPECIFIC GIRL, BUT NOT WOMEN GENERAL, AND STI
• ‘HE BROKE MY HEART TO A BILLN PIEC’: WHEN A STRAIGHT WOMAN FALLS LOVE WH A GAY MAN
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• ‘I FELL LOVE WH A GAY MAN AND NEARLY BROKE ME’
• I’M THE GIRL WHO FELL IN LOVE WH A GAY GUY
• GAY MEN HAVG SEX WH WOMEN?
• GAY WH A GIRLIENDI DON’T LL MYSELF BISEXUAL. WHY?FRED SHIRLEY·FOLLOWPUBLISHED JAM FN - THE BLOG·4 M READ·MAR 17, 2019--4SHAREPHOTO BY OM PEXELSI’VE BEEN THKG A B ABOUT MY INTY RECENTLY, THE WAY REFLECTS ON ME AS A PERSON AND HOW MY INTY HAS CHANGED OVER TIME. HOW DO VARYG LEVELS OF ATTRACTN IMPACT SELF-FED INTY LABELS?I’M A 20-YEAR-OLD GAY GUY WHO HAD A GIRLIEND.
• I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN
• CAN A GAY MAN FALL LOVE WH A WOMAN?
• I INTIFIED AS A GAY MAN, THEN I FELL IN LOVE WH MY FEMALE HOEMATE IN LOCKDOWN
• WHAT I LEARNED ABOUT MYSELF AFTER YEARS OF FALLG FOR GAY MEN

I WAS SURE I WAS GAY – UNTIL I FELL LOVE WH MY BT FEMALE IEND

61posted 12 years agoCan a gay man be attracted to a specific girl, but not women general, and still be gay, not bi? As a wrer, i'm wonrg if 's possible for a gay or straight character to be attracted to a person of the genr that oppos their typil sexualy? (maybe g Sanrda Bullock's character and her gay iend "My Bt Friend's Weddg" as an example) Or this se would simply be that the "gay" or "straight" person is fact bisexual?

While the general sexual urg tend to fall very specific tegori (gay, straight, bi, etc. I have seen and known several pletely gay men be " love" wh a woman, but 's the iendship that they love.

CAN A GAY MAN BE ATTRACTED TO A SPECIFIC GIRL, BUT NOT WOMEN GENERAL, AND STI

As a label fn, where cross the le of no longer beg gay, but beg bi, is when a guy enjoys havg sexual relatns wh both men and women.

‘HE BROKE MY HEART TO A BILLN PIEC’: WHEN A STRAIGHT WOMAN FALLS LOVE WH A GAY MAN

I've known men who intify as beg gay, but they also had a long marriage (and even children) wh one specific female. It might give you some ia of what kd of emotns might go to what you are talkg is very possible for a gay man to be love wh a woman. I'm not gog to speak for women, bee I wouldn't know how they, I know plenty of married and formerly married gay men.

And, some marry bee they don't want anyone to know that they are gay, and really don't even want to adm to gay is more plited then people, this was kda along the l of what i was thkg. 1 would reprent the extreme of heterosexualy and 10 would reprent the extreme of homosexualy.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

5 on that sle om what you a gay man married now 21+ years to a woman; my answer would be "y" apsolutlely.

If I am emotnally attracted to 1 man, and not physilly attracted to that man, am I gay? Possibly but not necsarily sce give the opportuny they would choose a woman over a same suatn uld be te if a gay man found himself strand on an island wh only women. He might experiment or even love a woman but once off the island return to his homosexual liftyle.

If a male character was gay, I'd say he was only terted men, as "bi" impli both/multiple genrs. But there are gay men who have loved and been attracted to women, had children, and then disvered their to answer your qutn, I'd say that a gay man n like a woman and not women general, if 's before he realiz that he is "gay".

‘I FELL LOVE WH A GAY MAN AND NEARLY BROKE ME’

I'm not 100% "straight", so I mata the label "bisexual", which I would nsir your character, as character may mata that he is gay, although he has feelgs/attractn for a woman, though. 77Ranziposted 9 years agoIt all pends on the person as when to love the ey don't see what the heart se and a gay man/women's heart uld sire the oppose sex. Maybe I jt haven't met the right man is off the why is that we are seeg more and more "gay" "lbian" and "bi" persons nowadays?

There was one time that I pletely nsired myself as gay, and I still loved a great pear of breasts! Don't fet, gay and straight is often unfortunately fed by who we are attracted to romantilly, not who massag our bra In simplt terms, I'd say that if he wants to have sex wh her as an exprsn of his love, he's bisexual. Although I am heterosexual, I work wh a largely homosexual populatn my role as an HIV preventn unselor.

I’M THE GIRL WHO FELL IN LOVE WH A GAY GUY

I have worked wh many men and women who are strictly attracted to people of the same sex, however there are also people I work wh that claim to be homosexual yet have sexual experienc wh people of the oppose sex. I image that if a pletely heterosexual person n have a bi sexual experience than a gay person uld have a heterosexual one jt as well.

I have a very gay iend and he even gets sick at the mentn of the word vaga, but he has always told me that if he was to ever be wh a woman would be me, he's love wh his boyiend and they want to get married but at the same time he is love wh me secretly but has never acted on , 's nice to be someone's fantasy!

GAY MEN HAVG SEX WH WOMEN?

I love him wh all my heart and we would never be together bee he is gay but I am his female of choice so I feel great about that. I personally know of a plete gay man, flamboyant speech and drs clud, whom spised women general.

Bisexual persons on the other hand, have sexual enunters wh any genr at will as a matter of bls everyone wh the abily to have iends, don't matter whether 'straight' or 'gay'. I like the Ksey ia that we all have a different place on a le between totally gay and totally straight.

I absolutely do thk possible for a gay man to be attracted to a specific woman, but not women general. So I told him, that even if he were gay, even if we had e om different relig backgrounds, if he were black, whe or yellow, or severly disfigured.... He told me that although he knows that he's gay, fortable his body, and is fely attracted to men, he lov me, and affirmed he wants to grow old wh me.

GAY WH A GIRLIENDI DON’T LL MYSELF BISEXUAL. WHY?FRED SHIRLEY·FOLLOWPUBLISHED JAM FN - THE BLOG·4 M READ·MAR 17, 2019--4SHAREPHOTO BY OM PEXELSI’VE BEEN THKG A B ABOUT MY INTY RECENTLY, THE WAY REFLECTS ON ME AS A PERSON AND HOW MY INTY HAS CHANGED OVER TIME. HOW DO VARYG LEVELS OF ATTRACTN IMPACT SELF-FED INTY LABELS?I’M A 20-YEAR-OLD GAY GUY WHO HAD A GIRLIEND.

He himself uldn't unrstand how a gay man, who knows he's 100% gay is love wh a woman... I uldn’t say was bee he was gay, ” said the Davidson, om Sydney, says she’s not the first straight woman to fall for a gay bloke.

But both refer to the same thg — straight women who have strong, often highly tense and mutually supportive, relatnships wh gay men.

The days, straight woman and gay men who get along would probably jt be lled mat, but “handbags” were often vol and visual supports of the homosexual muny when discrimatn — legal and otherwise — was still rampant. “So many women have acted as protectors, cheerlears and supporters of their gay iends, but always the background, ” Ms Davidson says. Her grandmother was a “beard”, or fake girliend, to gay men she was close to; while her mother helped when the muny was beg vastated by AIDS.

I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN

“I’d been raised a fay wh lots of gay men so I should have known better than anyone (not to fall love wh one), ” Ms Davidson says. ”Most of the time a gay bt iend might be obliv if his female iend has fallen for him.

“The wonrful thg about gay men is they talk to me like I’m a person bee they don’t want to get your knickers. Why do some people bee so outspoken and judgmental about marriag wh one straight and one gay spoe? Fally, the relatnships suggt to some people “reparative therapy, ” the uhil and impossible claim that a person n be changed om gay to straight.

CAN A GAY MAN FALL LOVE WH A WOMAN?

The men this televisn program aren’t claimg to be ex-gay nor that they n change their sexual orientatn (at least not on the show). They report they are attracted to men but choose not to live as a gay man and their straight wiv accept this.

People seem to get up arms when a man says he is not gay but rather simply attracted to men. Later, their gay sexual inti surface and here they are—heterosexually married wh children.

There are plenty of wiv who choose to stay married even after fdg out later the marriage that their hband is gay and attracted to men. They make this choice wh open discsns, which are very paful and emotnal for both the gay man and the straight wife.

I INTIFIED AS A GAY MAN, THEN I FELL IN LOVE WH MY FEMALE HOEMATE IN LOCKDOWN

” To the man, I say, “Consir whether you n really keep your homosexual feelgs and sir check.

WHAT I LEARNED ABOUT MYSELF AFTER YEARS OF FALLG FOR GAY MEN

You might be able to claim your inty by meetg ocsnally wh gay men, stayg touch on Facebook, and lettg your gay iends know that you want to rema sexually fahful to your wife. I warn mixed-orientatn upl that he may feel differently later life and his gayns may surface more strongly and bee more of an inty for him and th bee an issue their marriage. Both straight and gay muni put enormo prsure on the man and woman a mixed-orientatn marriage, and few marriag n stand up unr this social, fay, and relig prsure.

Some upl try to “live straight” and image that they will be able to not acknowledge the hband’s gayns any way.

Generally, a gay man will feel a lot of emotnal distrs, grief, and prsn if he is livg so eply the closet. This will happen even if, or maybe I should say pecially if, he is nial about his gayns. If your hband says he didn’t know he was gay when he married you, he most likely didn’t know.