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Contents:

• 'WE ARE FAY BY EVERY FN': GAY DADS' BABY IS NIED CIZENSHIP
• 33 FAMO GAY DADS FOR FATHER'S DAY
• THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS
• GAY POLY THROUPLE MAK HISTORY, LISTS 3 DADS ON A BIRTH CERTIFITE
• ‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD
• DAD AND DAD: A JOURNEY TO GAY FATHERHOOD – PICTUR
• DOCUMENTARY ABOUT VANUVER FAI WH GAY DADS SCREENS AT R THEATRE
• ONE OF BRA'S FIRST GAY DADS TO MARRY DGHTER'S EX-BOYIEND AFTER PROPOSG ON TRIP
• THIS GAY SGLE DAD FLED RSIA OVERNIGHT TO SAVE HIS BABYPUTIN’S CRACKDOWNILLTRATN BY ELIZABETH BROCKWAY/THE DAILY BEAST/GETTYHIS NIGHTMARE BEGAN WHEN A STATE NEWS OUTLET ANNOUNCED THAT LAW ENFORCEMENT PLANNED TO ARRT GAY FATHERS WH BABI OM SURROGATE MOTHERS AND PLACE THE KIDS ORPHANAG.ANNA NEMTSOVAPUBLISHED OCT. 09, 2020 4:34AM EDT NIZHNY NOVGOROD, RSIA—VALY’S NIGHTMARE BEGAN LAST THURSDAY MORNG WHEN HE READ A NEWS ARTICLE ON THE WEBSE OF TASS, THE RSIAN NEWS AGENCY. IT SAID THAT THE INVTIGATIVE COMMTEE, A POWERFUL LAW ENFORCEMENT AGENCY, PLANNED A NUMBER OF ARRTS OF SGLE GAY FATHERS WH BABI OM SURROGATE MOTHERS. THE WORST NIGHTMARE OF RSIAN LGBTQ PARENTS—POLICE TAKG CHILDREN AWAY AND PLACG THEM ORPHANAG—WAS G TE. TO VALY, A 40-YEAR-OLD IT SPECIALIST, MEANT ONE THG: H THE ROAD, N.THE AGENCY TARGETED MEN LIKE HIM, WHO HAD BABI BORN VIA VRO FERTILIZATN AND SURROGACY. THE TASS ARTICLE SAID THAT THE INVTIGATIVE COMMTEE HAD TARGETED 10 RSIAN SGLE DADS OF “UNTRADNAL SEXUAL ORIENTATN,” AND PLANNED TO ARRT THEM FOR “BABY TRA.”A FEW HOURS AFTER HE READ THE TASS ARTICLE, VALY, WHO ASKED TO CHANGE EVEN HIS FIRST NAME TO PROTECT HIS SAFETY, HAD A BRASTORMG MEETG WH HIS IENDS. THEY MET AT HIS APARTMENT MOSW, LOOKED AT THE MAP AND CHOSE A UNTRY TO E AS HIS TEMPORARY SHELTER. VALY BOUGHT A PLANE TICKET, PACKED HIS SUSE, GRABBED HIS 6-MONTH-OLD BABY BOY, AND LEFT RSIA. ANNA NEMTSOVA
• MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI
• AFTER ORLANDO, 21 PHOTOS OF GAY DADS AND THEIR KIDS TO HELP YOU SE AGA

'WE ARE FAY BY EVERY FN': GAY DADS' BABY IS NIED CIZENSHIP

Egg donatn and surrogacy allow two gay men to have children geilly related to one partner and the egg donor, but not to both. It’s been one of the tes of anti-gay activists for s: “Two men n’t have a blogil child, and two women n’t have one eher.” For some anti-gay people, that seems to make the relatnships somehow wrong, as though any relatnship that n’t rult a child should somehow be forbidn.

Anti-gay forc will not want to hear this news, but science will ntue to explore an attempt to expla blogy. Jt like straight upl, many gay men and lbians are eager to have a geic relatnship wh their children.

33 FAMO GAY DADS FOR FATHER'S DAY

At tim, I’ve taken sperm om one gay man and matched wh the eggs of his partner’s sister to create a stronger geic bond between the uple and their child. Relig and nservative lears around the world still vehemently oppose same sex marriage and homosexual acts, let alone a gay uple havg a child of their own. Studi have shown this, and I have seen first hand the hundreds of gay fai om around the world who I’ve helped to nceive.

And has helped people—gay and straight, black and whe, Christian, Jews, and Buddhists—to bee parents. Read next: Italian Polician Looks to Highlight Gay Rights by Gettg Married Canada.

THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS

NPR spoke to three men, sgle gay fathers, who chose to bee dads via surrogacy, after years of g to terms wh their inti, their fai, and the technologil advanc that have ma journeys like this possible. "At that pot 1994, you didn't see many gays [on] the mp. So I realized I was gay, but I was like sred, nfed.

But the procs for sgle people, particularly relatively olr gay men, he says, was difficult. Black, gay and heavyset the South, he was raised by a sgle mother a fay of sgle mothers.

GAY POLY THROUPLE MAK HISTORY, LISTS 3 DADS ON A BIRTH CERTIFITE

DUSTIN LING "Sometim the gay muny is seen as, oh, 's the funny guy who's always about fashn or always about travel, " says Dt Lg.

"Fathers – gay fathers and mothers – e different and var forms, not jt that one-note inty. " Raised on the island natn of Aba to Asian parents, Lg says there weren't many exampl of gay men around. Dpe the challeng of life as a sgle gay dad New York, Lg remas an optimist.

Adam* said was dangero to e out as gay his home untry and feared beg forced to an arranged marriage wh a said he was "so lucky" to wed his soulmate, Ray, Manchter and wish everyone uld marry who they love. There are more than 60 untri wh laws that crimalise same-sex sexual acts acrdg to the Internatnal Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Associatn, cludg Sdi Arabia. 'Authentilly myself'Ray said he had also stggled growg up gay the 1970s and 80s England, which was "tough" said his relig school "dmmed to you, 'you are gog to hell'" Adam returned home to Sdi Arabia, spe beg more than 3, 000 apart and later rtricted by the Covid-19 panmic, they kept touch daily and the romance years ago, Ray proposed on a vio ll and after succsfully applyg for a UK fiancé visa, Adam moved to Manchter December 2022.

‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD

Adam said he had been aaid to even wear lours his home untry so the first thg he did when he moved was start to "grow my mullet, got my ears pierced and booked appotments for tattoos" relled how, ntrast, one of his gay iends Sdi had been forced to marry a woman, addg: "It has ed not only his life but the life of his wife. The uple, who live London, said a "really betiful memory" was on the way home when one of their sons shouted out of the black b wdow to Trafalgar Square, "My dads jt got married" and cheered "Yay, gay marriage".

A gay, polyamoro California throuple ma history 2017 when they beme the first fay the state to list three dads on a birth certifite. [But] ’s really remarkably ordary and domtic our hoe and fely not ‘Tiger Kg, ’” referrg to Joe Exotic’s wild gay throuple featured the buzzy Netflix doceri.

“Gay upl don’t stumble to parenthood by accint. The dads-to-be didn’t thk anythg of , until they learned another gay uple had been turned away om the same doctor bee their se seemed “too plited, ” which the dads took as a sign that she didn’t like workg wh same-sex partners.

DAD AND DAD: A JOURNEY TO GAY FATHERHOOD – PICTUR

Heynen planned to photograph for a book of photography featurg gay fathers and their children. ”Amerin culture has not been particularly starved of imag of gay fatherhood, particularly recent years. Celebri like Anrson Cooper have helped normalize the ia of gay men raisg children, and no longer feels revelatory to see them on televisn, as did when “Morn Fay” premiered mon, Mr.

DOCUMENTARY ABOUT VANUVER FAI WH GAY DADS SCREENS AT R THEATRE

Heynen said, are imag of gay fathers who aren’t Instagram ready — like two men bg their dghters’ hair or tossg a football the ont yard. It’s an unrstandable impulse, which he attribut to a sire among gay parents to feel “normal” after havg their pabili as parents ntually lled to qutn.

Heynen said, but rather a celebratn of the day-to-day liv of gay Jt for the YoungCly Rose, 61, and Ryan, 12Cly Rose, who liv Manhattan, was first photographed for “Dads” three years ago after meetg Mr. Heynen at an event at the Lbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgenr Communy Center New York Cy.

Heynen “a lot of cred” for cludg a father like him — a sgle dad his 60s — sce he said there is often a lack of reprentatn of olr gay people art and media, which tends to foc on young, f men. As a Black, gay man raisg a son on his own, Mr. Clton, MarylandThey are the first both their fai to bee gay fathers, and received a warm wele to parenthood.

ONE OF BRA'S FIRST GAY DADS TO MARRY DGHTER'S EX-BOYIEND AFTER PROPOSG ON TRIP

Asbury Park, New JerseyThe most stunng takeaway om photographg gay dads is the equaly of their partnership while raisg their children. Brooklyn, New YorkWhile makg Dads I was surprised to fd out how many gay sgle dads there are creatg their fay through adoptn or surrogacy. It was hard to fd black fai wh gay fathers livg NYC.

THIS GAY SGLE DAD FLED RSIA OVERNIGHT TO SAVE HIS BABYPUTIN’S CRACKDOWNILLTRATN BY ELIZABETH BROCKWAY/THE DAILY BEAST/GETTYHIS NIGHTMARE BEGAN WHEN A STATE NEWS OUTLET ANNOUNCED THAT LAW ENFORCEMENT PLANNED TO ARRT GAY FATHERS WH BABI OM SURROGATE MOTHERS AND PLACE THE KIDS ORPHANAG.ANNA NEMTSOVAPUBLISHED OCT. 09, 2020 4:34AM EDT NIZHNY NOVGOROD, RSIA—VALY’S NIGHTMARE BEGAN LAST THURSDAY MORNG WHEN HE READ A NEWS ARTICLE ON THE WEBSE OF TASS, THE RSIAN NEWS AGENCY. IT SAID THAT THE INVTIGATIVE COMMTEE, A POWERFUL LAW ENFORCEMENT AGENCY, PLANNED A NUMBER OF ARRTS OF SGLE GAY FATHERS WH BABI OM SURROGATE MOTHERS. THE WORST NIGHTMARE OF RSIAN LGBTQ PARENTS—POLICE TAKG CHILDREN AWAY AND PLACG THEM ORPHANAG—WAS G TE. TO VALY, A 40-YEAR-OLD IT SPECIALIST, MEANT ONE THG: H THE ROAD, N.THE AGENCY TARGETED MEN LIKE HIM, WHO HAD BABI BORN VIA VRO FERTILIZATN AND SURROGACY. THE TASS ARTICLE SAID THAT THE INVTIGATIVE COMMTEE HAD TARGETED 10 RSIAN SGLE DADS OF “UNTRADNAL SEXUAL ORIENTATN,” AND PLANNED TO ARRT THEM FOR “BABY TRA.”A FEW HOURS AFTER HE READ THE TASS ARTICLE, VALY, WHO ASKED TO CHANGE EVEN HIS FIRST NAME TO PROTECT HIS SAFETY, HAD A BRASTORMG MEETG WH HIS IENDS. THEY MET AT HIS APARTMENT MOSW, LOOKED AT THE MAP AND CHOSE A UNTRY TO E AS HIS TEMPORARY SHELTER. VALY BOUGHT A PLANE TICKET, PACKED HIS SUSE, GRABBED HIS 6-MONTH-OLD BABY BOY, AND LEFT RSIA. ANNA NEMTSOVA

Province, Rho IslandArt and Jim were one of the first gay upl to bee fathers through adoptn. Tom and Mike wh their son Jack at a lacrosse practice at Horace Mann School, Bronx, New YorkThroughout the book the children of gay dads grow olr.

MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI

Although the school and Jack’s iends know that Jack has two gay dads there was some tensn the air while posg for this photo the middle of a sports field wh all the other players around. New York CySome gay dads choose not to share who the blogil father of their children is.

Fatherhood Dreams followed three Vanuver fai wh gay dads as they built their fai — via surrogacy, adoptn and -parentg — shortly after Canada beme the fourth untry the world to legalize same-sex unns. Multi-lnaire Barrie Drewt-Barlow, 50, is also expectg a baby dghter October wh 25-year-old Stt Hutchson, his dghter Safon's former partnerVio LoadgVio UnavailableGay dad gets engaged to dghters ex-boyiendOne of Bra's first gay dads has proposed to his dghter’s ex-boyiend while all three holidayed Croatia together.

AFTER ORLANDO, 21 PHOTOS OF GAY DADS AND THEIR KIDS TO HELP YOU SE AGA

Barry and his ex-hband Tony Drewt-Barlow ma news 1999 when they beme the first gay men to father tws through a surrogacy the UK, Star Onle reports. The pair, who are known as Bra’s “first gay dads”, have sce separated after a 32-year relatnship but still live together.

Barrie and Tony beme the first gay men the UK to father children through surrogacy.