Is Your Dad Gay—or Are You a Gay Dad? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• SGLE GAY DADS GIVE TIPS FOR FIRST-TIME PARENTS: ‘I CREATED THE VILLAGE AROUND MYSELF’
• THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS
• WHAT’S A MOTHER TO DO WHEN HER GAY TEENAGE SON IS DATG A MAN TWICE HIS AGE?
• DREAM DADDY: HOW THE GAY DAD DATG SIM BEME A H GAME OF THE SUMMER
• IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?
• MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI
• SHOULD I LET MY (MAYBE) GAY TEENAGE SON HAVE SLEEPOVERS WH BOYS?

SGLE GAY DADS GIVE TIPS FOR FIRST-TIME PARENTS: ‘I CREATED THE VILLAGE AROUND MYSELF’

Stt Takacs, a 46-year-old and father of three, penned a personal say about his experience g out as a gay man to his sons. There wasn't much of a plan, no guibook hand, only goals that I hoped my boys would start the procs of unrstandg and acceptg their dad for whom I tly was: a gay Stt TakacsIt had been a long 15 months sce g out to my wife, an experience I unfortunately wouldn't scribe as posive, fun or somethg I ever want to repeat.

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THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS

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WHAT’S A MOTHER TO DO WHEN HER GAY TEENAGE SON IS DATG A MAN TWICE HIS AGE?

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DREAM DADDY: HOW THE GAY DAD DATG SIM BEME A H GAME OF THE SUMMER

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IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?

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MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI

When I do somethg right, like help him bag the groceri or tell him I'm game to let his gay neighbor be "our third" tonight, he tells me I'm a good a few weeks, 's zy and surreal to play the son of a man who's not my real father, pecially when my real one liv across the untry.

SHOULD I LET MY (MAYBE) GAY TEENAGE SON HAVE SLEEPOVERS WH BOYS?

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