Common Issu and 5 Helpful Qutns to Use wh Gay Male Coupl - Coupl Instute

Contents:

• NAVIGATG GAY RELATNSHIP QUTNS: THE ULTIMATE GUI
• A MORN GAY’S GUI
• HOW TO TACKLE GAY RELATNSHIP PROBLEMS
• ONE OF N.L.'S FIRST MARRIED GAY UPL LOOK BACK WH PRI

NAVIGATG GAY RELATNSHIP QUTNS: THE ULTIMATE GUI

In orr to help alleviate the ncerns, I have piled a list of qutns based on my personal experience as a gay man and as a gay relatnship ach that are specifilly tailored to gay relatnships.

This prehensive list of qutns, verg topics om gettg to know your partner to fosterg timacy, is a valuable tool tablishg a succsful and fulfillg gay relatnship. Be open, hont, and empathetic when discsg the topics, and remember that unrstandg and munitn are ccial for navigatg the plexi of a gay relatnship. Like heterosexuals, many lbian, gay, and bisexual people want to form stable, long-lastg relatnships and many of them do.

A MORN GAY’S GUI

In fact, rearchers have found that the majory of lbian, and gay, adults are mted relatnships and many upl have been together 10 or more years.

Empiril rearch also shows that lbian and gay upl have levels of relatnship satisfactn siar to or higher than those of heterosexual upl. The fai and iends of lbian and gay upl who are nied marriage rights may also experience negative physil and mental health nsequenc siar to those experienced by their loved on. The vast majory of scientific studi that have directly pared lbian and gay parents wh heterosexual parents have nsistently shown that the same-sex upl are as f and pable parents as heterosexual upl, and that their children are jt as psychologilly healthy and well adjted.

Rick’s practice the Boston area specializ work wh gay men and Clton’s Sydney serv the LBGTQ for this month’s blog, I reached out to Rick and Clton to help rears who work primarily wh heterosexual upl and want to expand your knowledge base for helpg gay men. I’ll start wh some of Rick’s sights on mon issu for gay male upl and follow up wh a set of qutns om Clton that open munitn l and pave the way for your Miller has been a popular prenter at the annual Coupl Conferenc that we -sponsor wh the Milton Erickson Foundatn. Last year his prentatn was amed around potentially difficult nversatns a therapist might iate wh gay upl the areas of sex, money and vulnerabily.

HOW TO TACKLE GAY RELATNSHIP PROBLEMS

I know om my own practice and also om the many s therapists have brought to me for nsultatn that the issu n be pecially challengg to heterosexual therapists workg wh gay upl. Wtern culture supports strength men and beltl ep ternal vulnerabily or is pound by the ternalized shame rried by most gay men.

For example:No gay upl are monogamoGay upl don’t have sexls relatnshipsAll gay men like anal sexGay men don’t have erectn issuHe suggted openg the topic of sexualy wh some ial you open or monogamo? Clton’s QutnsI recently asked Clton Power to give me a list of qutns that heterosexual therapists might not know to ask gay upl.

Here are some excellent qutns he gave me for your fortable are you wh showg affectn to each other public, such as holdg hands, kissg, huggg, or acknowledgg publicly you're a gay uple? I thk evinced-based approach don’t take the perspective of specific suatns like specific challeng of the gay, lbian etc muni. I appreciate that this article begs to open up potentially hidn issu gay male partnerships, and to dispel myths about such partnerships.

ONE OF N.L.'S FIRST MARRIED GAY UPL LOOK BACK WH PRI

2) A uple thoughts on sexual rol: Firstly, variatn sexual rol is not unique to gay male partnerships. Send, if your gay male clients intify as tops or bottoms, kdly do not assume that top = domant and bottom = submissive. I see both hetero and gay upl and I don’t treat them any different however, as I am gatherg and asssg, I will ask qutns relevant to that uple.

I too see a lot of siari between workg wh straight and gay upl, but the ma difference the gay male upl I work wh is they often place a lot of importance on sex and prent for therapy when there are sexual problems, betrayal issu, they want to explore and negotiate some form of non-monogamy, or a non-monogamo arrangement is not workg. They started hostg weddgs after their own venue told them — the week of their weddg — that would not acmodate a gay uple. Sce 1975, APA has lled on psychologists to take the lead removg the stigma of mental illns that has long been associated wh lbian, gay, and bisexual orientatns.

The prejudice and discrimatn that people who intify as lbian, gay, or bisexual regularly experience have been shown to have negative psychologil effects. This page provis accurate rmatn for those who want to better unrstand sexual orientatn and the impact of prejudice and discrimatn on those who intify as lbian, gay, or bisexual. In the Uned Stat the most equent labels are lbians (women attracted to women), gay men (men attracted to men), and bisexual people (men or women attracted to both sex).