Narcissism among gay men and LGBT culture is explored by Steven Surman reviewg The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs. This is part two of two.
Contents:
- THE VELVET RAGE BY ALAN DOWNS | SIX LSONS ABOUT GAY NARCISSISM | PART 01
- 9 SIGNS YOU’RE LOVE WH A GAY NARCISSIST – FROM AN LGBTQ THERAPIST
- THE GAY NARCISSISTIC RELATNSHIP GLOSSARY
- NARCISSISTIC PERSONALY DISORR AND GAY MEN – A VIEW OM A LEADG LONDON PSYCHOLOGIST FOR GAY MUNY
- GAY NARCISSISTIC RELATNSHIPS, SUBTLE GASLIGHTG, AND DISTORTED PRRI
- THE VELVET RAGE BY ALAN DOWNS | SIX LSONS ABOUT GAY NARCISSISM | PART 02
THE VELVET RAGE BY ALAN DOWNS | SIX LSONS ABOUT GAY NARCISSISM | PART 01
Gay narcissism as a ncept is explored by Steven Surman this analysis of the Velvet Rage by Alan Downs. Part one of two. * the gay narcissist *
Watch the vio on The Homosexual Narcissist. What is the typil profile of a homosexual narcissist?
I am a heterosexual and th prived of an timate acquatance wh certa psychologil procs, which allegedly are unique to homosexuals. Rearch failed to fd any substantive difference between the psychologil make-up of a narcissist who happens to have homosexual preferenc - and a heterosexual narcissist.
9 SIGNS YOU’RE LOVE WH A GAY NARCISSIST – FROM AN LGBTQ THERAPIST
As an LGBTQ therapist I have helped many clients who have fallen love wh a narcissist. Here are 9 signs you’re love wh a gay narcissist. * the gay narcissist *
There is, however, one element, which might be unique to homosexuals: the fact that their self-fn hg on their sexual inty. Homosexualy has been flated to the level of a sub-culture, a separate psychology, or a myth.
Preoccupatn wh body and sex mak most homosexual narcissists SOMATIC narcissists.
Moreover, the homosexual mak love to a person of the SAME sex - a way, to his REFLECTION. In this rpect, homosexual relatns are highly narcissistic and toerotic affairs.
THE GAY NARCISSISTIC RELATNSHIP GLOSSARY
As I’ve been velopg the ongog narrative of my gay narcissistic relatnship, I’ve started g key words to scribe thgs... * the gay narcissist *
It is ls manift re, ego-syntonic, homosexual transsexuals. Autogynephilic transsexuals start off as heterosexuals and end up as eher bisexual or homosexual. Homosexual and Transsexual Narcissists, HealthyPlace.
I’ve often wonred if gay men have a greater propensy for narcissism than other groups of people. I’ve worked around gay men for a long time.
I’ve socialized wh many gay men sce g out years ago. I’ve spent way too much time on gay-oriented “datg” and “social” apps starg at curated photos and readg posturg profil. And, of urse, I was my own gay narcissistic relatnship for years that end wh an unceremon disrd and replacement.
NARCISSISTIC PERSONALY DISORR AND GAY MEN – A VIEW OM A LEADG LONDON PSYCHOLOGIST FOR GAY MUNY
But I’ve always tsted my keen sense of observatn and tun, and there has always somethg od that’s bothered me about the gay muny’s propensy for toxic, narcissistic behavr. We would meet for happy hour about once a month a Wt Village gay bar, and he’d gracly listen to all of my bile about my ex, who I refer to as the Gay Narcissist.
I origally read Beg Homosexual: Gay Men And Their Development by Dr.
Alan Downs and The Velvet Rage: Overg The Pa Of Growg Up Gay In A Straight Man’s World was also remend to me, but I saved for another day.
GAY NARCISSISTIC RELATNSHIPS, SUBTLE GASLIGHTG, AND DISTORTED PRRI
What prompted me to fally pick up The Velvet Rage was this—my own personal wrgs on narcissism and toxic relatnships om a gay perspective on this blog. Lson 06: “Toxic Shame” Is How Alan Downs Dcrib The Root Cse Of Dysfunctn In Gay Men’s Liv.
Alan Downs lays out three stag of velopg, experiencg, and managg what he lls “toxic shame” a gay man’s life:. Downs postulat that the toxic shame gay men face today’s world is due to the herent knowg of beg different. A gay kid isn’t que sure what’s gog on, except for one obv tth.
Assumg I am readg them rrectly, both Alan Downs and Richard Isay, thor of Beg Homosexual: Gay Men And Their Development, say that durg this stage of early velopment, the father pulls away om the gay son bee he too sens the buddg homosexualy and don’t que know how to al wh .
THE VELVET RAGE BY ALAN DOWNS | SIX LSONS ABOUT GAY NARCISSISM | PART 02
The gay youth will ually (but not always) beg actg ways to pensate for that shift attentn and validatn om his parents. Downs may say “toxic shame, ” but om the armchair I am stg , “pathologil secury” is a worthy ntenr for scribg the darkns that driv the dysfunctnal liv of many gay men.
To sooth that shame and secury, gay men act predictable ways—grandse, arrogant, and attentn-seekg ways. Pot 05: Gay Men Need A Steady Supply Of Admiratn, Validatn, And Attentn.
Rare are the gay men who live quiet and subtle liv eher alone or wh partners. We need validatn to assure that as gay men, we are worthwhile and ultimately servg of love. Over the years, I’ve been the pany of many gay upl, and there’s ually an air of vapidns.