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Contents:

• JAGS' MAXEN IS FIRST MALE AMERIN PRO SPORTS ACH TO E OUT AS GAY
• STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS
• KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY
• SERIAL KILLER DOCERI 'LAST CALL' RECKONS WH NYC'S HISTORY OF ANTI-GAY VLENCE
• ‘IT’S MY FLORIDA TOO’: PULSE SHOOTG SURVIVOR BRANDON WOLF ON BEG BLACK, GAY AND THE ANTI-RON DESANTIS
• CAN A STRAIGHT GUY ETHILLY ACCEPT ORAL SEX OM HIS GAY BUDDY?
• ‘PUMPG’ IS DANGERO NEW FAD AMONG GAY MEN

JAGS' MAXEN IS FIRST MALE AMERIN PRO SPORTS ACH TO E OUT AS GAY

As I wre this lumn, I’m stg the middle of Northampton, Massachetts, once emed “the lbian pal of the world” and now home to a btlg LGBTQ+ (lbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer, + the wi spectm of inti between) muny.

Meang, the worri created when we’re tght to thk bary terms like male or female, vaga or penis, gay or straight, are often migated by the eedom that n be felt when we jt give ourselv permissn to be who we are, how we are. I Experimented Wh A GuyIf you are a guy that experimented wh a guy, you are not alone, and is not somethg that you should be bothered about, bee is pletely normal to want to explore one’s sexualy and there’s no reason guys shouldn’t do parts of society own upon guys experimentg wh other guys, which is not somethg that tends to affect women as much, and fact, women beg bicur or bisexual is much more mon than guys experimentg wh each possible reason for this may be that the manls or genr inty of men is often associated, unfortunately, wh their sexual orientatn, and they are often tght that if they experiment wh other guys, means that they are lser somehow, or not “man enough” is extremely unfortunate bee one needs to be able to experiment wh and explore their sexualy whout any worri of what that means for their genr inty, and this is not somethg that one should be prived has also been extensive rearch on guys experimentg wh other guys, and one such survey was found that the stigma agast men experimentg wh other men is so harsh that about 63% of women say that they wouldn’t even date a man who had sex wh another man, while the oppose is not te, and most men said that they would gladly date a woman who had experimented wh other women, which shows how accepted female homosexualy and sexual fluidy are. Savs Williams, who wrote the book Mostly Straight, says, “I know of no evince that shows that men are ls likely than women to have an ‘experimental phase, I do believe men are ls likely to report to rearchers, on surveys, or to their iends and fai due, part, to the ‘homohysteria’ that pervas our culture.

If your partner is havg trouble alg wh the ia of you experimentg wh another guy, the healthy thg to do is also to clarify wh her exactly what’s behd her ncern bee sometim the partner may be ncerned that you may leave her for a man or they may feel disfort wh a certa sexual act, but most s may be a batn of the factors, the important thg to work through this is to talk to your you have heard her ncerns you n tailor your approach to the nversatn ways that bt addrs them like if she is ncerned about you beg gay and possibly leavg her for another man eventually, you n tell her that was jt a phase and that you don’t feel the same kd of attractn towards men as you do may also help to alleviate her fears about you leavg her by showg her rearch of how mon is for men to seek sexual timacy wh other men but not be attracted to them, and this may help her feel better, pecially if she is someone who rponds to facts and figur or ratnal may fd that when you give your partner an aquate explanatn of sexual orientatn, your inty, and your behavr, may often help her accept your past, but if she is stnchly agast on moral grounds or a way that spells that she is perhaps a ltle homophobic, then you might want to nsir lookg for a different partner. ConclnIn this brief gui, we discsed the statement “I experimented wh a guy”, and shared some experienc of people who have experimented wh other guys and how they felt about is very mon and much more acceptable for girls to experiment wh their sexualy, and is even somethg of a trope many TV shows and movi, n be very taboo for guys to do the same thg, and bisexualy men is nmned much more than is reason for this is probably bee same-sex relatnships of any kd, even if they are merely experimentatn or exploratn of one’s sexualy, are immediately nnected wh how manly the guy is or how macho he is, and some people the society ci that he is not worthy of rpect or do not have the same value as iology is what mak so many men homophobic to beg wh, and n be extremely problematic for any guy that is even slightly bicur, bee they may not be able to explore that aspect of themselv, leavg them que unfulfilled you have any more qutns or ments or if you relate to the statement “I experimented wh a guy”, please feel ee to reach out to .

STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS

Whether you want to experiment wh another guy you should do , bee if you are fact gay, you will only be able to figure out if you are when you experiment or explore your mon is to experiment wh another guy? It is not that mon for guys to experiment wh another guy, but is not rare eher, however, when guys experiment wh other guys they may be more likely to go nial about the experience due to how society looks at homosexualy n be more mon for guys to experiment wh another guy when they are plac where there isn’t as much stigma about sexual relatnships and relatnships that volve experimentatn are not all boys experiment wh homosexualy? No, all boys don’t experiment wh homosexualy, but often that is a functn of the way society tends to thk of homosexualy boys and the fact that exerimentatn of a homosexual nature boys is stigmatized much more than that girls.

-- Jaguars assistant strength and ndng ach Kev Maxen has bee the first male ach major Amerin men's profsnal sports to publicly e out as gay, tellg he ma the cisn bee he didn't want to hi who he is any longer and to possibly spire others siar 's a cisn and move that drew praise and support om owner Shad Khan, who was a vol and emphatic supporter of a cy ordance that expand protectns on the grounds of sexual orientatn, genr inty and genr exprsn.

KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY

DILL obvly is not worried about the fact that Randy is drkg to excs or the fact that he is out partyg when his unhappy wife and child are at home, bee the obv rponse would have been to avoid tellg Randy about those evengs he is htg gay bars.

Tell him that he’s your iend, and you don’t re if he’s gay, straight, bi, or heteroflexible, but he’s married and that is disrpectful to his fay unls he and his wife have an open marriage and you don’t date workers and if he’s stgglg wh likg the male body but seeg himself as straight, maybe he should see a unselor to explore that rather than puttg you this awkward posn. Or, if LW wants to be Machiavellian, he and his bt iend should troduce their rpective cur/closeted workers and hang out wh them together a few tim, then make plans to meet them at a gay bar, text them at the time they are supposed to meet them that they are nng late so the guys don’t bail right away, and then ghost them or show up really late and see what happens between them, if anythg. I'm sure most of those the assembled pany have on ocsn enuntered straight men who thk All Gay Men Are After Them (and, for the benef of Ms Lava, I'll allow that they are generally about as unappealg as those who thk All Women Are After Them).

He's a posn where he uld e out, acrdg to DILF, so perhaps 's bt to take his statement at face value: he's not gay - he's primarily or mostly attracted to/terted a relatnship wh a woman (a specific woman, his wife), but he also fds male bodi sexy ("appreciat") sometim, and sounds like this heavy flirtatn do for him. Worst of all, though, the shame attached to the memori of those first tim marred how I would approach sex for was listeng to Years & Years’ new song “Sanctify, ” and seeg the band’s out gay sger Olly Alexanr talk about how the song was spired his sexual trysts wh straight men, that I realized that the feelgs are way more mon than people let on.

SERIAL KILLER DOCERI 'LAST CALL' RECKONS WH NYC'S HISTORY OF ANTI-GAY VLENCE

Sure, I know all about gay guys havg sex wh straight guys, but felt reassurg to see him scribe the “sat and sner role” he embodied durg those experienc, and to hear the uncertaty and melancholy weaved to the than anythg though, was the repeated lyril mantra of “I won’t be ashamed. We have a bromance where we are very fortable around each history of homosocial relatnships, or heterosexual male iendships, is eply plex and steeped social stigmas, myth, rejectn and aggrsn, the thors expla their rearch.

“But there is a generatnal effect here: Olr men who grew up the 1980s may still feel the need to prent a very straight versn of themselv, but more posive attus toward homosexualy ntemporary culture mean that younger men are simply ls ncerned about how other people view their behavrs. PREVIOUS REPORT: 'I'll never get my baby back': Fay of woman killed crash on North Freeway angry over lossHoton police said Sarah Gay was toxited when she drove northbound the southbound lan of the I-45 North Freeway near the Whe Oak ex and h two rs. After more than three s of safer sex msag agast the backdrop of gay men sickeng horribly and then dyg, new medil treatments have stemmed the ti of the panmic and offered real hope for longer-term survival to people wh HIV.

Queer theorist Tim Dean (2000) wr: "In view of statistics on new seronversns, some AIDS tors have begun to acknowledge that, unlikely though may seem, remag HIV-negative fact pos signifint psychologil challeng to gay men" (p. To those who have not been workg the gay men's muny for the past 25 years, this statement might seem absurd, but is te that HIV-negative gay men face unique challeng that make seem almost easier to seronvert. New York social worker Steve Ball (1998) scrib how durg the height of the AIDS epimic HIV-negative gay men often found themselv the role of regiver, mourner/widower, or outsir, due to their not beg fected wh HIV.

‘IT’S MY FLORIDA TOO’: PULSE SHOOTG SURVIVOR BRANDON WOLF ON BEG BLACK, GAY AND THE ANTI-RON DESANTIS

Gay men who were recently surveyed about their failure to e ndoms durg anal sex repeatedly told rearchers that current AIDS preventn msag do not feel relevant to them and do not nvey an urgency about why ndom e is important (Halkis, Parsons, & Wilton, 2003; Carballo-Dieguez & L, 2003; Mor et al., 2003).

Crossley suggts that is impossible to evaluate the efficy of safer-sex msag and of themselv sce ncurrent to when they first began appearg, gay men were overwhelmed by the terror that they might be fected by the then-new disease that was rapidly killg their iends and lovers. As psychologist and former rearcher at the CDC Ron Stall was quoted as sayg an article the Manhattan gay newspaper Gay Cy News, "There are studi that monstrate a variety of psychosocial health issu, cludg prsn, antigay vlence, childhood sexual abe, or substance abe, n lead gay men to have unsafe sex" (Stall, quoted Osborne, 2002, p.

In my own practice, I have intified several factors that appear to lead to sexual risk-takg: lonels, beg HIV-posive, havg unmet timacy needs, feelg alienated om the gay muny, beg love, and a cravg for eper timacy and tst.

CAN A STRAIGHT GUY ETHILLY ACCEPT ORAL SEX OM HIS GAY BUDDY?

Even when gay men posss a sophistited unrstandg of how HIV is transmted and accurate perceptns of how dangero risky sex n be, many gay men unrtimate their vulnerabily to HIV fectn (McKick, Horstman, & Coat, 1985; Bman & Siegel, 1987; Richard et al., 1988). Suarez and Miller (2001) feel that many gay youth who bareback fall to the tegory of irratnal risk takers sce they may have never known anyone wh HIV and hold psimistic attus about the future largely related to their beg gay. As evince, they pot to the plethora of personal ads on Web s voted exclively to barebackg as well as on Web s where gay men cise for sex where men state their own HIV stat and the sired stat of potential partners.

The many levels of meang and special signifince that givg and receivg of semen has for gay men nnot be unrtimated as a ntributg factor to the rise barebackg -- pecially romantic upl, as will be examed Sectn 2 of this book. In ntrast to the rearchers above who have shown that for some gay men barebackg is a ratnal activy, there are social scientists who have tried to terme whether men who bareback have a documented higher level of mental disorrs than do men who do not take sexual risks. Rearch by Halkis and Wilton (2005) on the meangs of sex for HIV-posive gay and bisexual men found that of the 250 men terviewed, most discsed the role of sex as a mood stabilizer, strs rcer, and facilator of timacy.

Even though a rrelatn has been shown to exist between high sensatn-seekers and impulsivy, this alone do not necsarily mean that all gay men who are high sexual sensatn-seekers exhib characteristics that would em them diagnosable as havg a personaly disorr, though obvly some do.

‘PUMPG’ IS DANGERO NEW FAD AMONG GAY MEN

Wh the mental health profsns' long history of diagnosg gay men as psychologilly abnormal and disturbed bee of their homosexualy, is important that the simple fact that a man has high-risk sex do not bee the sole crern for him to be diagnosed as exhibg psychopathology. Do an dividual's sire to behave ways that may be labeled as eher impulsive or sensatn-seekg now place him at risk for receivg yet another diagnosis that reflects society's tense negativy toward gay male sexualy? This is where astute diagnostic skills and cultural sensivy to particular reali the liv of gay men are required orr to not appropriately pathologize men who are behavg a manner that the society or clician is unfortable wh or se as appropriate, whout nyg the possibily that for some gay men their sexual risk-takg may be part of a nstellatn of symptoms that jtifi a psychiatric diagnosis.

In discsg the multiple meangs and implitns of sex, Frost (1994) expands upon Carballo-Dieguez's fdgs, statg, "For many gay men, sexual behavr is a statement of their sense of beg gay, an affirmatn of their right to be gay, an exprsn of love, a vehicle through which to achieve timacy, and a repudiatn of the felt prohibn by the greater society.

Speakg specifilly about gay men, Yep, Lovaas, and Pagonis (2002) suggt that for many gay men the ternnectn between the sexual and emotnal or psychologil aspects of their psych speaks not only to the realy that some gay men e sex as an attempted "panacea" for their problems but also ntribut to active ristance to changg risky sexual behavr.

One study nducted durg the height of the epimic found that a majory of men surveyed agreed wh the statement, "It is hard to change my sexual behavr bee beg gay means dog what I want sexually" (Aspwall, Kemeny, Taylor, Schneir, & Dudley, 1991, p. 433) All therapists workg wh gay men who bareback mt spend nsirable time explorg the numero and layered meangs that sex has for each dividual and how sex wh and whout ndoms affects the abily of var sexual opportuni and suatns to meet the needs.