Self love is gay | - Involuntary Celibate

Contents:

• GAY MEN & RADIL SELF-LOVE
• LBIANS, GAY MEN, BISEXUALS, AND TRANSGENR PEOPLE: WHAT IF YOU LOVED YOURSELF?
• SELF LOVE IS GAY MEME GENERATOR
• [WHEPILL] SELF LOVE IS GAY
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

GAY MEN & RADIL SELF-LOVE

” I also knew that I was gay om a very young age, so hidg my inty beme my biggt prry growg up. Unfortunately, my story isn’t very different om that of a lot of gay men I work wh who have a relig background. Dpe my and my fay’s ntued progrs, homophobia n sometim still rear s ugly head.

LBIANS, GAY MEN, BISEXUALS, AND TRANSGENR PEOPLE: WHAT IF YOU LOVED YOURSELF?

Jt this week, my mom told me that one of her clost iends, a iend wh whom she’s had for nearly 40 years and fact, is like an nt to me and someone that I’ve loved—who I still love—said that God is punishg my mom for havg a gay son. Her iend said her “health problems” were bee she hasn’t “nmned my homosexual liftyle. Jt this week, three lleagu shared wh me stanc of homophobia that they’ve wnsed the workplace.

And earlier this week, a lleague, who is Clil Director at a theraptic boardg school, lled me to tell me about recent homophobic bullyg that they’d like to addrs. The pathology I had to heal om was homophobia, not homosexualy.

Someone else I know told me about a recent nversatn they overheard where a father said that if his son were to e out as gay, he would “smack the sh*t out of him" bee beg gay wouldn't be tolerated his hoe. It also ma me realize that although I n’t change anyone’s beliefs, I n share my experience, strength, and hope to help shift limed generatnal iology and challenge systemic cultural and relig homophobia. Specifilly for gay men, bee I’m a gay man who specializ workg wh gay men, ’s important to she a light on the trma and toxic shame that is often ternalized.

SELF LOVE IS GAY MEME GENERATOR

While the LGBTQ+ muny has ma tremendo progrs, there’s still eper healg work for to do around the effects of external homophobia unnscly seared to our psych. Most young gay men, even when they have affirmg parents, aren’t moled what ’s like to grow up wh an ner sense of self-acceptance for who they are as an LGBTQ+ person. In an article about gay men and an epimic of lonels, the thor wr, “I went to Wt Hollywood bee I thought that’s where my people were.

It’s ma by gay adults, and ’s not welg for gay kids.

You go om your mom’s hoe to a gay club where a lot of people are on dgs and ’s like, this is my muny? The Epimic of Gay Lonels. By Armando Sanchez of “Gay Men and Blog”.

[WHEPILL] SELF LOVE IS GAY

Why do matter that we, as gay men, radilly love ourselv? I gay gasped so many tim throughout this episo; pletely blew my md. One of the many tths om this episo that shook my unrstandg of life, and how we live as gay men particular, is that acceptance is not enough.

I recently participated a gay men’s healg group wh Ryan Allen, a life ach, spirual healer, and fns traer. The purpose of the group was to gather gay men to acknowledge, not only our personal pa, but the pa of gay men who me before . The realy is that the shame and rejectn that’s transmted om one gay man to another is rooted the shame and rejectn that liv si of .

When go unchecked and unhealed, we ntribute to the very aspect of the gay muny that most of spise. Admtedly, n feel difficult to do this bee shame and rejectn the gay muny is like a vic cycle — we show up to gay spac wh our shame and rejectn, we pick up more shame and rejectn, and we dish right back onto others.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

Thgs like thirst trap acunts on social media, postg selfi for validatn, gay datg/hook up apps, etc. Reflect on and acknowledge the shame and rejectn that occupi space your md, heart, and leage of gay men before you. How would radilly lovg yourself change the way you engage wh other gay men, whether they be iends, lovers, or strangers?

What would be like to be muny wh other gay men who radilly loved themselv?????