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Whether you're sgle aga or you've been around the block, gay datg isn't easy.

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THE GAY MAN'S GUI TO DATG AFTER 50

Neher is datg at midlife — pecially if you're a gay man.

Right, gay datg isn't easy. You're never too old to fd love, but that's not a msage gay men hear very often. The gay muny's — OK, let's get real, mostly the gay male muny's — ageism.

"Wh the gay muny, negative stereotyp rerce the belief that gay relatnships are based solely on physil attractn, and that once youth starts to fa, we are unlikely to have any real or lastg relatnships, " says Rik Isensee, thor of Are You Ready? The Gay Man's Gui to Thrivg at Midlife. For every 20-somethg enterg the gay datg scene full of wi-eyed wonr, there's a 50-somethg (or a 60-, 70- or olr-somethg) man back on the market after a relatnship ends.

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