He says he’s bisexual, but I’m worried he’s actually gay.
Contents:
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- IS HE GAY?
- CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
- CELEBRATG LGBTQ SPORTS HISTORY: MIKE PIAZZA ANNOUNC, ‘I’M NOT GAY. I’M HETEROSEXUAL.’
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
- LIL NAS X TEMPORARILY DECIS HE'S NOT GAY AFTER LOSG AT THE GRAMMYS
- HE IS GAY / HE IS A GAY.
- LIL NAS X RPOND TO SOMEONE WHO SAID HE'S NOT "REALLY GAY" AND I CHOKED ON MY SP
- STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
- HERSCHEL WALKER’S SON PRI MONTH TO REMD EVERYONE… HE’S NOT GAY
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
- HE'S NOT GAY LYRICS
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?" * hes not a gay *
In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn.
IS HE GAY?
* hes not a gay *
This populatn is the foc of his new and much-need book: Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi? Number one is the high cince of male-female upl enterg my office bee the woman thks her man might be gay. He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been havg sex wh men.
CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
There are lots of reasons why you might want to know if your iend is gay. There are some important thgs that you have to unrstand about this suatn before gog forward, however. Someone's sexualy is highly plex and highly... * hes not a gay *
A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me? And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay. That’s unual, bee most gay men, even most gay therapists, believe that if a guy is havg gay sex, he’s gay.
CELEBRATG LGBTQ SPORTS HISTORY: MIKE PIAZZA ANNOUNC, ‘I’M NOT GAY. I’M HETEROSEXUAL.’
I know the mon sayg is, "He is gay." However, gay is a untable noun, so isn't "He is a gay" more grammatilly appropriate? * hes not a gay *
” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way. Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
The show "My Hband’s Not Gay” has ed an uproar. * hes not a gay *
When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic. The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist.
LIL NAS X TEMPORARILY DECIS HE'S NOT GAY AFTER LOSG AT THE GRAMMYS
If you're a woman, you may have noticed thgs about your boyiend that lead you to believe he's gay or terted men. Sexualy is highly plex and sensive, and there are a lot of accurate stereotyp out there that don't tly... * hes not a gay *
A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them.
So if a client is stgglg wh his sexual orientatn and he’s got a lot of homophobia, he’s probably gay.
A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way. Even if he’s nfed and don’t want to e out as gay, this is who he is and over time that will e out. So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met.
HE IS GAY / HE IS A GAY.
The reason is that the guy really is gay and he wants to exprs that sexually and romantilly. Eher they’re worried that their man will eventually ci he’s gay and end the relatnship, or they want monogamy, and his cheatg is a threat to the marriage regardls of who he’s dog wh. And I should pot out here that the men when they’re engagg this behavr (regardls of whether they’re gay, straight or bi) nearly always tell themselv that what they’re dog is not cheatg bee they’re dog wh a guy.
LIL NAS X RPOND TO SOMEONE WHO SAID HE'S NOT "REALLY GAY" AND I CHOKED ON MY SP
I hear this qutn at least once a week as a female client wonrs about a man she started datg: If he isn't a tradnal Alpha and don't toss her on the bed and rip off her cloth on the first date, he mt be gay, right? When women turn on their "gaydar, " 's often bee they fear beg taken and makg a mistake about a potential mate. Keep md that many gay mal are tuned to their orientatn before puberty, so an adult man will probably be perfectly aware that he's gay.
STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual, ” but chew the “gay” label. Bee “gay” impli an embracg of the gay liftyle — gay bars, gay pri paras, perhaps multiple sex partners, or even anonymo sex.
Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia. I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them.
HERSCHEL WALKER’S SON PRI MONTH TO REMD EVERYONE… HE’S NOT GAY
I have treated many men who are of Mormon, Orthodox Jewish, Catholic, and other religns who thk of homosexualy as a pathology.
Their pa is excciatg, but I honor their bravery riskg losg everythg to ensure they have a qualy life as a gay man. They may need, om time to time, to seek further therapy, but wh the right therapist, one who has thoroughly unrstood the dangers of such practic of “reparative therapy” which the therapist seeks to change the client’s sexual inty om gay to straight.
Bee the labels “homosexual” or “gay” rry such a stigma, some of the men seek help for their “sex addictn” and see their homosexualy as an actg out of same-sex urg.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
Beg homosexual, gay, or havg same-sex attractn is not sex addictn, and should never be treated as such. In the June/July 2002 issue of Details magaze, then-New York Mets manager Bobby Valente said he believed baseball was ready for an openly gay player.
There is a persistent mor around town that one Mets star who spends a lot of time wh pretty mols clubs is actually gay and has started to thk about clarg his sexual orientatn.
HE'S NOT GAY LYRICS
Amidst swirlg mors that the gay player is him, the next day New York Met tcher Mike Piazza held a prs nference to clare, “I’m not gay.