Is Your Man Gay, Straight, or Bisexual? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• I AM GAY AND I'M LOVE WH A STRAIGHT, WHAT N I DO?
• I'M A GAY GUY, BUT THERE'S THIS GIRL....
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• I AM A STRAIGHT GIRL, BUT WISH I ULD BE WH A GAY GUY.
• CAN A STRAIGHT GUY ETHILLY ACCEPT ORAL SEX OM HIS GAY BUDDY?
• HER BOYIEND ISN'T GAY OR BI BUT HE IS SUCKG DICKS GLORY HOL
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
• THE AM I GAY TT (MEN ONLY!)
• I AM A GUY, AND I GET SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO OTHER MEN. AM I GAY?
• IS FLIRTG BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN OKAY?
• THE GAY-O-METER! ?️‍? LGBTQ QUIZ
• DO SEX WH A TRANS WOMAN MAKE ME GAY?TOPICSALL LIVGSAVAGE LOVETRAVELASTROLOGYFROM THE VLTHEALTHSTYLELGBT+SEX & ROMANCEBT OF VANUVERTRANSPORATNCARTOONSHOMELS VANUVER SAVAGE LOVE COLUMNDO SEX WH A TRANS WOMAN MAKE ME GAY?
• CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
• LONGEST GAY TEST!
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX

I AM GAY AND I'M LOVE WH A STRAIGHT, WHAT N I DO?

Those lov are like fallg love wh a teacher, or a straight fallg love wh a gay, or fallg love wh a married person, or fallg love wh a sger or an actor.

But you need to know that if the person dont want to do somethg wh you, you need to pass no matter have to rpect that the person you like is straight jt like how he rpect and accept you beg Gay. Fally, when I get the mdset and nfince to say I'm fully gay, I meet this betiful, sweet, hilar, and hontly perfect girl who I nnect wh wicked well. Tell her that you want to date her, you've intified as gay, but that you're wantg to explore your sexualy more, and you want her to be aware of that.

Sometim a woman may have been a heterosexual relatnship for years and yet feel somethg is somehow "off;" and she may fd herself askg, "Is my hband gay? " Many women fd this qutn unthkable but acrdg to Bonnie Kaye,, an expert women married to gay men, is timated that 4 ln women have been, or are, married to gay men.

I'M A GAY GUY, BUT THERE'S THIS GIRL....

In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn. And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay. Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women.

When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic.

A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them. A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met. Eher they’re worried that their man will eventually ci he’s gay and end the relatnship, or they want monogamy, and his cheatg is a threat to the marriage regardls of who he’s dog wh. And I should pot out here that the men when they’re engagg this behavr (regardls of whether they’re gay, straight or bi) nearly always tell themselv that what they’re dog is not cheatg bee they’re dog wh a guy.

Of urse, some intify as straight but are realy closeted bisexuals or gays by sexual orientatn—perhaps likely to e out at a later age (if ever).

It n also feel nfg if your attractn don't seem to match wh the "straight", "gay", or "bisexual" tegori, or the ways you might see those prented the media or onle. An important thg to note is that both wh genr inty and sexual orientatn (as well as our blogil sex and the way that we exprs our genr) is not always black and whe, male and female, straight or gay.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

Someone might intify as 100% male or 100% gay, but many people fd they feel more like somethg between, or some variatn (for stance, beg attracted to a specific type of person, or personaly, or sexual orientatn, like gay men). If you do fd yourself sexually attracted to gay men, that n be a ltle b trickier terms of meetg a partner, but we n talk a ltle more about that below. It might also be worth rememberg, if you're feelg jealo of the physil enjoyment you're seeg gay porn, that porn is very often que different om real life sex.

You might fd that you like to keep your attractn to gay men as a fantasy, but are ultimately attracted to straight men when to beg a relatnship. However, if you fd that beg sexually attracted to gay men is more than a fantasy, and is somethg that is important that you explore a sexual relatnship, is possible to meet partners that you are sexually attracted to and that are also sexually attracted to you. Beg a romantic relatnship wh a 100% gay man is unlikely to make eher of you happy if he is not attracted to you, but many men who intify as queer or bisexual enjoy sex wh both men and women, or wh people of all different genr inti.

Which means I have no way of knowg for sure why that woman ghosted you or if your boyiend is gay—or your se, THROAT, how Sam feels about the four unreciproted blow jobs he’s given you. I wouldn't have any problems wh this—I dated women for ten years prr to him—but he emphatilly swears he's straight and often pots out that he don't like gay porn, he don't like to see gay men beg affectnate, etc. But sure, GLORY, this may be a fetishistic sire on your boyiend's part or he uld be the tit b bisexual and this is how your boyiend exprs his ty b of bisexualy and only his unrolved homophobia/biphobia prevents him om nceivg of himself as bisexual.

I AM A STRAIGHT GIRL, BUT WISH I ULD BE WH A GAY GUY.

But the fact your boyiend don't like to see gay men beg affectnate smacks ls of, "Not gay or bi, not at all gay or bi, nothg to see here, " and more of, "Internalized homophobia and other issu and possibly bi or maybe even gay.

So while I want to acknowledge the existence, the lived experience, and the validy of straight boys who like to suck ck but who are no other way attracted to men, this tail—your boyiend's disfort around gay men—uld be a sign that somethg else is gog on wh him. It was a shty, selfish thg to do and you have a right to be angry about , GLORY, and you aren't obligated to put up wh this sh jt bee he's explorg his sexualy or stgglg wh ternalized homophobia/biphobia. Has a history of repeatedly sharg unfound nspiraci that man-ma chemils the environment uld be makg children gay or transgenr and g the femizatn of boys and masculizatn of girls.

The basels claim that chemils – particularly tap water – uld turn people gay has gaed populary wh nspiracy theorists over the years, most memorably wh nservative rad host Alex Jon, who said chemils the water were “turng the igg’ ogs gay. Sex the Cy, Will and Grace), though a lot ls has been said about how gay and straight men regnize and negotiate the distct challeng, plitns, and rewards of their iendships. S., before there was such a thg as a gay inty, some straight men would, wh ltle shame, engage sexual ntact wh other men (ually allowg themselv to be fellated) when female partners were otherwise unavailable (see Gee Chncey’s semal book, Gay New York: Genr, Urban Culture, and the Makg of the Gay Male World 1890-1940) and there is good reason to believe this still occurs other untri and cultur.

CAN A STRAIGHT GUY ETHILLY ACCEPT ORAL SEX OM HIS GAY BUDDY?

Gay men have suffered physil, social, and psychologil abe at the hands of heterosexually intified mal who, thanks to homophobia and heterosexism, felt fully jtified flictg the terrors.

This legacy of vlence, both physil and psychologil, flicted by straight men toward those of who are gay naturally fuels our utn and distst at the thought of beiendg them. For the straight guy, iendship wh a gay man offers the opportuny to learn important lsons about masculy, male inty, sexual orientatn, and diversy. Incintally, if he rejects your advancement (and not particularly fond of homosexuals), uld make your time spent wh him progrsively more awkward and difficult.

HER BOYIEND ISN'T GAY OR BI BUT HE IS SUCKG DICKS GLORY HOL

Its te that people like to be around like md people and so socially may spend more time among their own however s not set stone and many lbgt people cludg myself have a mixture of gay/bi/straight iends. The vast majory of gay men are distguishable om their straight unterparts, they do all the same sorts of thgs their daily liv, except perhaps bed. NO I am not gay but I did have the chance to be wh a shemale one time and I sucked her dick and I did really like a lot but was a one time thg and i would never take a dick over psy but I am glad I did jt to see what was like.

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

I nsir "gay" to be two people of the same sex, love or wantg to be wh each other all of the time, not some horny old str8 guy lookg for an easy bj and giv one return. • Could a straight guy get dnk enough to fool around wh another guy jt bee “felt good”, or is more likely that he has some gay/bi/cur feelgs that perhaps he’s been reprsg? Even acuntg for the fact that he might remember some of what happened, don't mean he's bisexual, secretly gay, or that you're his magil "exceptn.

So until they fd themselv a siar suatn, they don’t see how n be possible for a straight person to have a sexual experience wh a person of the same sex and not be gay or at least bisexual. So, puttg out the box, you not beg heterosexual uld also mean that you’re homosexual, bisexual, asexual or even pansexual (a term that I jt learnt).

That same guy might also feel that way about kissg and who he kiss, but if he told people he was terted kissg -- jt kissg, not kissg any given genr of people -- you wouldn't hear anyone suggtg that probably means he's gay, right?

THE AM I GAY TT (MEN ONLY!)

Some people have the ia that for someone to engage any kd of receptive sex -- other words, where they're the "tcher" and not the "pcher" -- means that person mt not be a man, bee that's only somethg for women or people who some folks nsir "not real men." And for some people whose fn mascule also means only heterosexual, gay or bisexual men fall to that classifitn of "not man." Often as part and parcel of that, or separate om , some people thk that beg a person wh a stickg- body part takg another person's stickg-out body part means beg subordate: other words, thk means a receptive partner is tomatilly unrneath or on the bottom of a power dynamic where the other person is charge or on top. But if when you talk about beg gay beg somethg "worth nsirg," you mean you thk 's somethg you need to nsir jt bee you're terted anal sex, or jt bee you thk you're supposed to, then know you certaly don't have to. Unls that chang for you, or you fd that while you n be attracted to girls, but are ually, if not almost always, attracted to men, homosexualy, as 's ually fed, is probably not where you're at.

When someone is homosexual (gay or lbian), that ually means they are only or mostly attracted to people of the same or siar sex or genr as theirs.

I AM A GUY, AND I GET SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO OTHER MEN. AM I GAY?

Maybe you're straight and found out (or know) your csh isn't, or maybe you're gay or bi and they're straight, which is a particularly difficult suatn.

CNN — (CNN) — Somehow, the origal “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” premiered on Bravo two s ago this month, prentg five gay men – each specializg a specific liftyle area – as they scend upon a (ually) heterosexual male subject need of some support, whether was wh clothg choic, groomg, anizatn or perhaps an unrlyg issue around self was a novel take on the makeover ncept, not only terms of beg one of the first monstroly succsful programs the then-nascent realm of realy TV, but also one of the first tl to feature not one – but five – gay people as the leads.

Krsley agreed, sayg, “We meet people all the time who are probably their thirti now, who say, ‘I me om a very nservative fay, we were very relig, “Gay” was not somethg that was ever spoken about our home, and your show allowed to at least have that nversatn, if not make easier for me to e out. ’”He add that of urse, isn’t only gay people who approach them wh spiratnal msag, and that at the time the origal show aired, the st saw how their visibily as gay people wh a larger straight world was beg received firsthand.

IS FLIRTG BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN OKAY?

”That, particular, is what “QEFTSG” showsed and celebrated – the person-to-person nnectns that exist outsi of larger cultural, societal or polil shifts or trends, nnectns that showed and celebrated, the se of the show, jt some of the ways which LGBTQ+ people n for those who cricized the origal seri for rercg stereotyp by havg a gay fashnista or bety expert swoop to tidy thgs up, Colls creds his rint foodie Allen for a memorable moment at the show’s first NBC upont Los Angel back 2003, when he faced a slew of reporters and had the perfect retort. “Ted fally grabbed , really grabbed a hold of the answer, which was like, ‘Yeah, we are, as a matter of fact, owng the clich around the fact that gays have a different perspective, have a unique visn and perspective of a lot of different thgs. > Wrong Si Of Wild SiGive yourself a break,, y: you did the gayt thg a guy n do—you allowed someone to put a dick your man butt—but now you’re dog the send-gayt thg a guy n do.

THE GAY-O-METER! ?️‍? LGBTQ QUIZ

Be a man about this—be a straight man about this—and walk off, as the football ach this will help: like a lot of gay men, I had sex wh a woman before I me out.

Bee you’re not gay, WSOWS, and one ri on a trans rt’s dick n’t change nothg I’ve said has ma you feel better, WSOWS, maybe this will: gay men don’t hire trans women sex workers.

Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr. The parti eventually settled, and two months later, Page blasted Fieri wh separate a 2011 Cy Pag article prerved by the Inter Archive, Page alleged that Fieri ma homophobic ments durg DDD’s productn. ” Meanwhile, a source poted out to Gothamist that Fieri’s late sister was homosexual and that his longtime bs partner and close iend is also now, only time will tell how the Tmp photos will affect Fieri’s brand: Will this tank the goodwill he built durg the panmic, or n he ri out by keepg quiet?

DO SEX WH A TRANS WOMAN MAKE ME GAY?TOPICSALL LIVGSAVAGE LOVETRAVELASTROLOGYFROM THE VLTHEALTHSTYLELGBT+SEX & ROMANCEBT OF VANUVERTRANSPORATNCARTOONSHOMELS VANUVER SAVAGE LOVE COLUMNDO SEX WH A TRANS WOMAN MAKE ME GAY?

McKellan is a gay man who me out 1988, and although 33 years have passed sce he me out, n still be shockg to the world to see such a close same-sex iendship that cross sexual inti.

Siar to qutns that loom about whether straight men and women n ever tly be platonic iends, the same qutn lgers over the iendships between gay and straight men. In days past, this may have seemed as unlikely as a iendship between a ln and a moe, given the tradnally high levels of homophobia among straight men. McKie’s rearch reported that straight participants felt that a gay iend ma for the ultimate wgman bee the gay iend uld help to attract prospective partners for the straight iend.

CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?

Other rearch has shown that women prefer iendships wh gay vers straight men, partly bee the threat or loomg qutn of sexual attractn is renred moot. However, straight men bromosexual iendships have perhaps learned how to harns this ease of iendship between straight women and gay men for their own advantage.

LONGEST GAY TEST!

McKie noted that the straight men felt their gay iend was able to make succsful troductns to straight women bee the women tsted their gay male iends to troduce them to a good person. Gay men McKie’s rearch reported that their straight male iends often play the role of ‘matchmaker’ and troduce them to another of their gay iends.

The lack of petn for the same prospective partners allows the iendship to flourish a way that may be hred to some gree for gay or straight men iendships wh men who share the same sexual orientatn.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

Straight men also reported havg more emotnally vulnerable nversatns wh their gay iends bee they felt safer to do so, relative to attemptg to discs siar topics wh other straight men.

MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX

McKie’s rearch found that straight men livg the more central parts of Canada and the Uned Stat were ls likely to report a willgns or tert havg a gay man as a iend. I often thought (and have said) would have been better for me to live te to my genr variance if I had been ‘gay’ bee then I would f a socially accepted and promoted stereotype and my genr bendg would be expected— I unrstand there are problems, and assumptns wh that statement but my young thkg, I though that maybe beg gay would afford me some license wh a clearly fed inty where I uld be feme or drs and prent as a woman and nobody would thk ngo.