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Are you qutng your sexualy? Fd out if you’re gay, straight, bisexual, or asexual. Learn what the terms mean and if they apply to you.

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LONGEST GAY TEST!

Are you gay? Fd out now by takg what might be the longt 'Am I gay?' tt EVER ma! Answer all 45 qutns hontly and you will get to the tth! * i am gay and i like a guy *

Here’s gay and straight, which are rigid and bary, bisexual is an umbrella term, scribg everythg between, up to and cludg only havg one stance of same-sex attractn. But people get sred off by the label bee there’s still such a stigma attached to , by both the gay and straight we uld get rid of the heavy burn that wh bi-cursy, people like our buddy T here wouldn’t need to "totally eak out" if they have a stray same-sex attractn.

If you’re all as close as you say, that uld be the e of some ser plitns your relatnship, bee while you may not see yourself as beg able to love another man, he as a gay man most likely buddy isn’t the only du wh a big stick out there. As every gay man knows who has been sulted or asslted for his actual or perceived sexual orientatn, there are steep penalti for vlatg the Boy Co as there are for anyone who is “different” om the prumed (typilly whe, heterosexual, middle-class) standard.

How do a gay kid survive the trma he suffers for beg different a culture that still nmns his difference as somethg bad or “ls-than” and wants to mold him to the same shape tri to mold every boy? Robert Pollack says the most important thg a fay n do to support their gay son is to keep lovg him, “to nvey to him, as soon as he shar his feelgs, that he is still loved through and through, that his sexual orientatn will not any way dimish how much he is admired and rpected.

ASK O'LEARY: I'M STRAIGHT BUT ATTRACTED TO A MALE FRIEND!{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}CULTUREBY TIM O'LEARYJUNE 5, 2014/4:13 PMBY TIM O'LEARYJUNE 5, 2014 / 4:13 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"ASK O'LEARY: I'M STRAIGHT BUT ATTRACTED TO A MALE FRIEND!","DATEPUBLISHED":"2014-06-05T20:13:53.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2014-06-05T20:13:53.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"TIM O'LEARY","KEYWORDS":"THE BACKLOT","ARTICLESECTN":"CULTURE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DEAR TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’M A 23-YEAR-OLD STRAIGHT GUY, BUT NOW SOMETHG HAPPENED THAT MAK ME NOT SURE I N STILL LL MYSELF THAT. I WENT ON A MPG TRIP WH FIVE OF MY GUY IENDS LAST WEEKEND BEE ONE OF THEM WAS GETTG MARRIED. WE FIGURED WOULD BE OUR LAST HURRAH AS A GROUP OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ONE OF MY IENDS (WE’LL LL HIM PETE) IS GAY, AND THAT’S NEVER EVEN BEEN AN ISSUE FOR ANY OF . SO WE WERE MPG BY A LAKE, AND CID TO GO SKNY-DIPPG AT NIGHT. WHAT I LEARNED WAS THAT PETE WAS THE MOST WELL-ENDOWED OF THE GROUP, AND I ULDN’T STOP STARG AT HIM. HE SEEMED TO NOTICE, AND I SAW THAT HE WAS STARTG TO GET HARD, SO HE JT STAYED THE WATER FOR THE RT OF THE TIME WE WERE SWIMMG (EVEN THOUGH EVERYONE ELSE WAS G AND OUT).{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOTHG HAPPENED AFTER THAT, BUT I N’T STOP THKG ABOUT HIS C@*K. I NEVER WANTED TO DO ANYTHG WH A GUY BEFORE, AND I N’T SEE MYSELF KISSG HIM OR HAVG SEX, BUT I’VE ACTUALLY FANTASIZED ABOUT GOG DOWN ON HIM. IS WEIRD TO JT WANT THAT AND ONLY THAT? AND DO THAT MEAN I’M BI? I’VE NEVER BEEN ATTRACTED TO A GUY AT ALL BEFORE, EVER. AND I THK ABOUT ALL THE GUYS I KNOW OR SEE ON TV AND FEEL NOTHG. THIS IS TOTALLY EAKG ME OUT. SO WHAT GIV?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WELL, IF YOU’RE CRAVG YOUR IEND’S DONG, T, I THK ’S SAFE TO SAY YOU’RE PROBABLY NOT 100% {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO IS THE NEXT STOP BI-TOWN?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YOU’VE SPENT A LIFETIME LTG AFTER LADI AND LADY-BS, BUT ONLY GOT DISTRACTED BY ONE VERY SPECIAL AND UNIQUELY WELL-PROPORTNED FLH-PENDULUM. SURELY THAT N’T MEAN YOU’RE REALLY BI, RIGHT?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NO, TOTALLY DO-- AND THAT'S OKAY. HERE’S {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}UNLIKE GAY AND STRAIGHT, WHICH ARE RIGID AND BARY, BISEXUAL IS AN UMBRELLA TERM, SCRIBG EVERYTHG BETWEEN, UP TO AND CLUDG ONLY HAVG ONE STANCE OF SAME-SEX ATTRACTN. BUT PEOPLE GET SRED OFF BY THE LABEL BEE THERE’S STILL SUCH A STIGMA ATTACHED TO , BY BOTH THE GAY AND STRAIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF WE ULD GET RID OF THE HEAVY BURN THAT WH BI-CURSY, PEOPLE LIKE OUR BUDDY T HERE WOULDN’T NEED TO "TOTALLY EAK OUT" IF THEY HAVE A STRAY SAME-SEX ATTRACTN. BEE HERE’S THE THG: THE LE BETWEEN STRAIGHT AND BI (OR GAY AND BI) IS RAZOR TH. IT’S A ACTN OF A CENTIMETER. I’M NOT SAYG EVERY SGLE BRO-IT OF BROS IS SECRETLY HANKERG FOR THE KNOB. I’M JT SAYG IF HE DO ACCINTALLY FALL FACE-DOWN ON HIS BT BRO’S LAP, ’S NOT REALLY THAT BIG OF A AL, AND SHOULDN’T NECSATE A HUGE CRISIS OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO MY ADVICE TO YOU, T? TREAT YOUR SUDN TERT AS YOU WOULD ANY OTHER SUDN TERT: DULGE AND SEE WHAT YOU THK. I’M NOT SAYG HOOK UP WH YOUR MEAT-PACKG IEND, THOUGH. IF YOU’RE ALL AS CLOSE AS YOU SAY, THAT ULD BE THE E OF SOME SER PLITNS YOUR RELATNSHIP, BEE WHILE YOU MAY NOT SEE YOURSELF AS BEG ABLE TO LOVE ANOTHER MAN, HE AS A GAY MAN MOST LIKELY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YOUR BUDDY ISN’T THE ONLY DU WH A BIG STICK OUT THERE. FD ANOTHER AND GO TO TOWN. YOU MIGHT LIKE , AND WANT TO DO AGA. OR YOU MIGHT FD S REALLY NOT FOR YOU. EHER WAY,  WON'T FUNDAMENTALLY CHANGE ANYTHG ABOUT WHO YOU {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HEY TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WRG QUTN HERE. I JT GRADUATED OM LLEGE WH A GREE CREATIVE WRG AND FEEL KD OF LOST. I’VE WRTEN A FEW NOVELLAS THAT I DON’T FEEL ARE UP TO PAR WH BOOKS I’VE READ, BUT AREN’T TOO BAD. MY QUTN TO YOU IS: HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN ’S TIME TO GIVE UP ON A PROJECT AND MOVE ON? SHOULD I JT LET THE OLD NOVELLAS GO AND WORK ON SOMETHG NEW, OR SHOULD I WORK ON WHAT I HAVE? I’M ALSO WORRIED THEY’RE A LTLE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOT QUE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HERE’S AN ANSWER THAT SHOULD TRATE YOU: DO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}FIRST OF ALL, YOU SHOULD PAT YOURSELF ON THE BACK FOR FISHG ANYTHG, BEE THAT AND OF SELF N SEEM IMPOSSIBLE. BUT YOU DID ! YAY YOU!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOW, YOU SHOULD ALWAYS WORK ON SOMETHG NEW TO KEEP YOUR JUIC FLOWG, BUT NEVER GIVE UP ON AN OLD PROJECT. I'LL GIVE YOU A TOTALLY DULGENT EXAMPLE. FOUR YEARS AGO, MY BUDDY JOSH BERRFORD (OF TV’S DANTE’S COVE) ASKED ME TO WRE A PILOT FOR HIM. SOMEHOW HE ME UP WH THE IA OF WEREWOLV ON A TROPIL ISLAND, AND BASILLY JT LEFT ME TO DO WHAT I DO, WHICH IS TRY TO WRE LIKE I'M DOG MY BT JOSS WHEDON {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I ACTUALLY ME UP WH A SCRIPT I WAS PRETTY HAPPY WH, BUT OVER TIME LOST THE DRIVE TO KEEP PHG AT . MY BUDDY, ON THE OTHER HAND, KEPT AT AND YTERDAY THE SAG FOUNDATN HELD AN DTRY READG OF THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE POT, BEYOND TOTALLY BRAGGG? NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR PROJECTS, BEE YOU NEVER KNOW WHICH ON MIGHT BE THE BREAKOUTS. JT BE SURE TO ALWAYS BE WORKG ON SOMETHG NEW AT THE SAME TIME, TO KEEP YOUR JUIC FLOWG. AND REMEMBER, REVISN, REVISN, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HEY TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THIS IS BUGGG ME AND I DIDN’T KNOW WHO ELSE TO ASK. NOW THAT THEY MA MALEFICENT, WHO’S NEXT? URSULA THE SEA WCH? SR? WHY IS DISNEY G EVERYTHG WH GRTY REBOOTS?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DISNEY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I HAVEN’T ACTUALLY SEEN MALEFICENT YET - I’VE BEEN TOO BY SHAMELSLY PLUGGG MY OWN PROJECTS (SEE ABOVE) - BUT I DON’T SEE AS DISNEY G EVERYTHG. I SEE AS NEW WRERS EXPLORG IAS CREATED BY PAST WRERS AND SPNG TO SOMETHG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OR, AS I LIKE TO LL - {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THOUGH SHE WASN’T THE FIRST TO DO , THE MAJOR AWARD FOR "RE-IMAGGS OM THE VILLA’S POT OF VIEW" WOULD HAVE TO GO TO MARN ZIMMER BRADLEY FOR HER EPIC SP ON ARTHURIAN LEGEND, THE MISTS OF AVALON, TOLD LARGELY THROUGH THE EY OR MAN LE FEY. AND THEN, TWELVE YEARS LATER, GREGORY MAGUIRE STCK GOLD WHEN HE DID THE SAME THG WH THE WIZARD OF OZ AND ME UP WH {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ANYWAY, MY POT IS THAT WRERS HAVE ALWAYS BEGGED, BORROWED, AND STOLEN - MOSTLY STOLEN - OM OTHER WRERS WHO HAVE E BEFORE THEM. IT’S HOW THE WHOLE NCEPT OF WRG BEGAN, IF YOU WANT TO GET SUPER-NERDY-AMIC ABOUT . STORI WERE FIRST TOLD THROUGH THE ORAL POETIC TRADN, PASSED DOWN BY WORD OF MOUTH, EACH TELLER ADDG THEIR OWN TWIST. AND AS WE N SEE WH MALEFICENT, THAT’S STILL HAPPENG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO HERE’S WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO, DL. REMEMBER THAT 55 YEARS AGO, AT THE TIME WAS MA, SLEEPG BETY WASN’T A CLASSIC WH S OF INOGRAPHY EMBEDD TO . IT WAS JT A BRAND NEW MOVIE THAT HAD THE DACY TO REVENT AN AGE-OLD FAIRY TALE FOR A NEW {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}KDA LIKE MALEFICENT IS DOG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MORE OF THE LUMN FORMERLY KNOWN AS ASK JT! HERE. {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TO ASK TIM A QUTN, EMAIL HIM AT (AND TRY TO KEEP TO THREE PARAGRAPHS OR LS). OR YOU N BE SUPER TECH-SEXY AND ASK VIA {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

‘In gay years, you’re rather past your sell-by date, aren’t you?’ the person ont of me said, raisg an eyebrow.  * i am gay and i like a guy *

Fortunately there is a long history of gay men who bucked the accepted fns of masculy and created liv that exprsed their unrstandg of themselv and how they choose to exprs their inty as men who don’t necsarily f tradnal molds. The late Harry Hay often lled "the father of the morn gay movement, " found the Mattache Society Los Angel the fall of 1950 for gay men to gather and ponr the qutns Hay had long been askg: Who are gay people? Hay didn’t tend the Mattach to be a polil anizatn per se, but a group that would e together to enhance their self-unrstandg and explore the ntributns gay people had ma to the human race through the ag.

In a 1987 say tled “A Separate People Whose Time Has Come, ” Hay scribed homosexuals as “spir people, ” who, throughout the ag, had served society their rol as “msengers and tercers, shamans of both genrs, prits and prits, imagemakers and prophets, mim and rhapsos, poets and playwrights, healers and nurturers, teachers and preachers, tkers and tkerers, searchers and rearchers. Hay believed that gay people had somethg special to teach nongay people about human life, and for that reason should be nurtured, rather than reviled, by society.

He said gay men look at the world differently, are uniquely nonaggrsive, nonpetive, oriented toward sharg and cled to velop what Hay lled “subject-subject” love relatnships of equals. The people around me cludg my mother lls me "half ladi" but the fact that my newer classmat, wh whom ive met jt 3 months ago, ll me gay for my style of walkg and for my personaly is ncerng me.

I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN

A prevly anonymo IRS whistleblower ttifyg about an vtigatn to Hunter Bin me forward Wednday, intifyg as a gay Democrat. * i am gay and i like a guy *

Adam* said was dangero to e out as gay his home untry and feared beg forced to an arranged marriage wh a woman.He said he was "so lucky" to wed his soulmate, Ray, Manchter and wish everyone uld marry who they love. There are more than 60 untri wh laws that crimalise same-sex sexual acts acrdg to the Internatnal Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Associatn, cludg Sdi Arabia.'Authentilly myself'Ray said he had also stggled growg up gay the 1970s and 80s England, which was "tough".He said his relig school "dmmed to you, 'you are gog to hell'".When Adam returned home to Sdi Arabia, spe beg more than 3,000 apart and later rtricted by the Covid-19 panmic, they kept touch daily and the romance blossomed.Three years ago, Ray proposed on a vio ll and after succsfully applyg for a UK fiancé visa, Adam moved to Manchter December 2022.

Adam said he had been aaid to even wear lours his home untry so the first thg he did when he moved was start to "grow my mullet, got my ears pierced and booked appotments for tattoos".He relled how, ntrast, one of his gay iends Sdi had been forced to marry a woman, addg: "It has ed not only his life but the life of his wife."Danny Beard on Same Sex Love and MarriageDanny explor same-sex weddgs, fdg out why upl chose to get married, the challeng unrpng this cisn and what mak the wedd relatnships work.The uple said they now wanted to help people who were not as ee and strive for "equaly for everyone"."Now I'm here a safe place I want to fight for others to be able to marry who they want," Adam said."I'm so lucky but I want everyone else Sdi to marry the one they love whout facg discrimatn and persecutn." Image source, Fay photographImage ptn, Peter McGrah and David Cabreza say they are "very proud" to have been the first same-sex uple married EnglandMore than 40,000 same-sex marriag took place between 2014 and 2020, acrdg to the Office for Natnal StatisticsPeter McGrah and David Cabreza, origally om Stland and the US, ma history when they beme the first same-sex uple to marry England on 29 March 2014.The trailblazers married jt after midnight at Islgton Town Hall. The uple, who live London, said a "really betiful memory" was on the way home when one of their sons shouted out of the black b wdow to Trafalgar Square, "My dads jt got married" and cheered "Yay, gay marriage"."It was so sweet seeg him so happy," Mr Cabreza said. In a culturally nservative muny, where gog to church and buildg a fay were heavily emphasized, Ahn felt his gay inty kept him “om beg able to participate Korean culture.

WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE A GAY MAN?

Beg Asian Amerin and LGBTQ+ n feel lonely, wh stutns such as ethnic church often disavowg non-heterosexual relatnships while tradnal LGBTQ+ spac such as gay bars n be unwelg. * i am gay and i like a guy *

Beg Asian Amerin and LGBTQ+ n feel lonely, wh stutns such as ethnic church often disavowg non-heterosexual relatnships while tradnal LGBTQ+ spac such as gay bars n be unwelg to people of lor. “Fdg plac like GAMeBoi, where beg queer and Asian do -exist … It’s not like a 1, 000-year-old Korean cultural rual, but I uld create a new rual, ” said Ahn, a recent Friday, hundreds packed QT Nightlife’s monthly K-Pop Night at Micky’s, a Wt Hollywood gay club a block or so east om the old GAMeBoi posed for selfi a pk Barbie box wh dis balls hangg overhead. ” (Michael Owen Baker / For The Tim) Even historilly gay neighborhoods like Wt Hollywood or San Francis’s Castro district, Asian Amerins have long been ignored or fetishized, seen as feme and weak.

In 2019, then-Wt Hollywood Mayor John Duran argued that he did not appropriately touch a member of the Gay Men’s Chos of Los Angel bee “he’s a skny Korean kid wh pimpl on his cheek.

” Asian Amerin advocy groups cricized Duran’s remark, wh API Equaly-LA potg to the long history of discrimatn agast Asian men gay muni such as Wt Hollywood, whose clubs “ed to require three forms of photo intifitn om anyone they perceived as Asian. One of your top ten experienc was at a Pri para where you were surround by the most tertg, fun strangers you have ever enuntered, and no one you knew was there to judge you, or the only people you knew there were gay.

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* i am gay and i like a guy *

And while there were a surprisg number of negative ments on the vio, we’re choosg to gloss over those…Marvel nfirmed the first-ever gay Spir-Man, Web-Weaver, last year. Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr. Sure, an ocsnal teenage girl falls for a boy who's gay, but don't take most girls very long to figure out that, this se, where there's smoke, there's most fely not fire.

In general, the attractn women feel for gay men tends to be emotnal nature, clearg the way for a highly satisfyg relatnship that outlasts most other relatnships gay men and straight women have.

Send, straight women love gay men bee closens wh gay men provis a wdow to how the mds of men work, somethg that women want to know as they navigate datg waters wh their straight male peers.

MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX

Straight women get om gay men what they don't get om straight men. * i am gay and i like a guy *

When to the sexualy of young straight and gay men—meang, how equently they thk about sex, want , or feel impatient to get to the actual sex part—there are undoubtedly siari.

In general, gay men, and gay women, too, tend to be more fearls than their straight unterparts—particularly straight men—bee they’ve ually experienced bullyg and prejudice bee of their sexual orientatn. If straight women and gay men foc on fdg iendships where there's te emotnal patibily and rpect, they n velop one of the most rewardg relatnships a person uld have.

The first time I talked to him (you know, when I wasn't sanely attracted to him), I thought for sure he was gay based on the way he was movg his arms and talkg. But the se of a celebry, the tabloid headl the labels may be ed sensatnalistic ways, or even clu more vilently homophobic nam like pedophile and predatory pervert.

HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)

Have you ever wonred,"am i gay, am i straight, am i bi?" Well now is your chance to fd out! this tt will tell you if you are gay, straight or bi. Well what are you wag for, TAKE THE TEST!!! * i am gay and i like a guy *

It has been suggted that satisfyg sex nnot occur whout wet kiss and swellg ans, which rc gay sexualy to nothg more than sex, and impli that olr men are pable of havg erectns. I don’t believe we have a choice about our sexual attractns, but gay men and women—jt as any heterosexual person—have a choice about how they rpond to sexual sire. Sayg “I am gay” is a statement that our attractns, our behavr, and our self-inty are unison, and when that happens—if ever do— suggts a willgns to proclaim our sexualy regardls of the nsequenc.

I AM A GUY, AND I GET SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO OTHER MEN. AM I GAY?

Do beg terted receptive anal sex mean a guy is gay? * i am gay and i like a guy *

That same guy might also feel that way about kissg and who he kiss, but if he told people he was terted kissg -- jt kissg, not kissg any given genr of people -- you wouldn't hear anyone suggtg that probably means he's gay, right? But if when you talk about beg gay beg somethg "worth nsirg, " you mean you thk 's somethg you need to nsir jt bee you're terted anal sex, or jt bee you thk you're supposed to, then know you certaly don't have to.

Unls that chang for you, or you fd that while you n be attracted to girls, but are ually, if not almost always, attracted to men, homosexualy, as 's ually fed, is probably not where you're at. Which means I have no way of knowg for sure why that woman ghosted you or if your boyiend is gay—or your se, THROAT, how Sam feels about the four unreciproted blow jobs he’s given you. Its te that people like to be around like md people and so socially may spend more time among their own however s not set stone and many lbgt people cludg myself have a mixture of gay/bi/straight iends.

17 SIGNS YOU'RE ACTUALLY GAY (AND JT DON'T KNOW IT)

Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?" * i am gay and i like a guy *

In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn.

And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay. Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women.

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Is my hband gay? is an unthkable qutn to many wiv, and some hbands do turn out to be gay. Learn the signs of a gay hband. * i am gay and i like a guy *

Eher they’re worried that their man will eventually ci he’s gay and end the relatnship, or they want monogamy, and his cheatg is a threat to the marriage regardls of who he’s dog wh.

And I should pot out here that the men when they’re engagg this behavr (regardls of whether they’re gay, straight or bi) nearly always tell themselv that what they’re dog is not cheatg bee they’re dog wh a guy. A Gui for Women Concerned About Their Men, but simply put, some men have no sire to be nnected wh gay culture, and scerely nsir themselv to not be gay or bisexual.

" Many women fd this qutn unthkable but acrdg to Bonnie Kaye,, an expert women married to gay men, is timated that 4 ln women have been, or are, married to gay men.

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Why are people gay? Are they gay by choice or is beg gay geic? Are they born gay? Learn about the and reasons for beg gay. * i am gay and i like a guy *

The kd of hate I’m seeg lately towards mori is sry as gay, and livg where I do, I’ve never… well, had a romantic relatnship and obvly, I’ve never gone the distance wh anyone eher.

Our society has a much more plited relatnship wh sex than simply “high regard” — although tradnal heterosexual society and gay muni are neher the same nor monolhic. The person may be emotnally or geographilly unavailable, married or otherwise a long-term monogamo relatnship, gay or straight or simply not attracted to , and so on.

AM I GAY?

I'm a straight girl, so why do I want to be wh a gay guy? * i am gay and i like a guy *

You don’t feel fortable or safe beg out publicly, which means you n’t openly look for a man you’d want to date or sleep wh, and likely means other gay men who live where you do feel siarly. But who is more likely to be able to help you learn to flirt, to regnize other gay men, to fd someone who will help you experiment sexually a safe, nsensual way? People who are homosexual are romantilly and physilly attracted to people of the same sex: Femal who are attracted to other femal are lbian; mal who are attracted to other mal are often known as gay.

WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN

Transgenr people may have the body of one genr, but feel that they are the oppose genr, like they were born to the wrong type of who are transgenr are often grouped wh lbian and gay as a way to clu people who don't feel they f to the tegory of beg "straight. Bee of this, some gay and lbian teens may feel different om their iends when the heterosexual people around them start talkg about romantic feelgs, datg, and sex.

A 2012 survey by the Human Rights Campaign found that 92% of LGBT teens had heard negative thgs about beg lbian, gay, bisexual, or teens might feel like they have to pretend to feel thgs that they don't orr to f wh their group, fay, or muny. They might feel they need to ny who they are or that they have to hi an important part of of prejudice, rejectn, or bullyg n lead people who aren't straight to keep their sexual orientatn secret, even om iends and fay who might support gay or lbian teens tell a few close iends and fay members about their sexual orientatn.

Some live muni or fai where beg gay is not accepted or who feel they need to hi who they are or who fear discrimatn or vlence n be at greater risk for emotnal problems like anxiety and prsn. Many gay and lbian teens and their fai have no more difficulti than anyone Importance of TalkgFor people of all sexual orientatns, learng about sex and relatnships n be difficult. Whether gay, straight, bisexual, or jt not sure, almost everyone has qutns about physilly maturg and about sexual health — like if certa body chang are "normal, " what's the right way to behave, or how to avoid sexually transmted fectns (STIs).

THE AM I GAY TT (MEN ONLY!)

Although not everyone is fortable wh the ia of sexual orientatn differenc and there's still plenty of prejudice around, beg gay is gettg to be ls of a "big al" than ed to be.

THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN

” Some people’s doubts are further plited by havg such experienc as hearg other people talkg or lookg their directn and thkg that the people mt be analyzg their behavr or appearance and talkg about them – discsg how they mt be gay (or straight). I have sometim wonred if those who experience the most distrs om such thoughts as the do so bee they were raised wh more strongly homophobic or anti-gay attus to beg wh, or if is simply bee one’s sexualy n be such a basic doubt. Lookg at attractive men or women, or pictur of them, or readg sexually oriented lerature or pornography (hetero- or homosexual), to see if they are sexually excg.

I'M A GUY TERTED RECEPTIVE ANAL SEX: DO THAT MEAN I'M GAY?

The flip si of this is when they look at thgs havg to do wh sex of an oppose orientatn and then feel aroed some way, which they then nclu to mean that they liked , which means that they are gay (or straight). Makg a seri of three-mute tap that based on the wrgs gradually suggt more and more that you are gay, and listeng to them several tim a day changg them when they no longer bother you).

Let me put this way: I'm a crossdrser who has no issu puttg myself out there on the terwebs or stttg about public om time to time, but to date, the most hostily I've enuntered has not been om the homophobic fuckws you'd expect, but om trans women. Sce my only ame of reference was bad jok or sexual fetish or gay men, I thought "Well I mt be at least bisexual, " so I spent a lot of time tryg to f a square peg a round hole before fally beg able to separate sexual orientatn om genr inty.

CAN A STRAIGHT GUY ETHILLY ACCEPT ORAL SEX OM HIS GAY BUDDY?

It very much appears that same-sex sexual attractn is not a choice but actg on is; so if you fe gay as the mere prence of same-sex attractn, then om everythg we unrstand, beg gay is not a choice.

It n also feel nfg if your attractn don't seem to match wh the "straight", "gay", or "bisexual" tegori, or the ways you might see those prented the media or onle. An important thg to note is that both wh genr inty and sexual orientatn (as well as our blogil sex and the way that we exprs our genr) is not always black and whe, male and female, straight or gay. Someone might intify as 100% male or 100% gay, but many people fd they feel more like somethg between, or some variatn (for stance, beg attracted to a specific type of person, or personaly, or sexual orientatn, like gay men).

However, if you fd that beg sexually attracted to gay men is more than a fantasy, and is somethg that is important that you explore a sexual relatnship, is possible to meet partners that you are sexually attracted to and that are also sexually attracted to you.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

Beg a romantic relatnship wh a 100% gay man is unlikely to make eher of you happy if he is not attracted to you, but many men who intify as queer or bisexual enjoy sex wh both men and women, or wh people of all different genr inti. Adam* said was dangero to e out as gay his home untry and feared beg forced to an arranged marriage wh a said he was "so lucky" to wed his soulmate, Ray, Manchter and wish everyone uld marry who they love.

There are more than 60 untri wh laws that crimalise same-sex sexual acts acrdg to the Internatnal Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Associatn, cludg Sdi Arabia. 'Authentilly myself'Ray said he had also stggled growg up gay the 1970s and 80s England, which was "tough" said his relig school "dmmed to you, 'you are gog to hell'" Adam returned home to Sdi Arabia, spe beg more than 3, 000 apart and later rtricted by the Covid-19 panmic, they kept touch daily and the romance years ago, Ray proposed on a vio ll and after succsfully applyg for a UK fiancé visa, Adam moved to Manchter December 2022.

Adam said he had been aaid to even wear lours his home untry so the first thg he did when he moved was start to "grow my mullet, got my ears pierced and booked appotments for tattoos" relled how, ntrast, one of his gay iends Sdi had been forced to marry a woman, addg: "It has ed not only his life but the life of his wife. The uple, who live London, said a "really betiful memory" was on the way home when one of their sons shouted out of the black b wdow to Trafalgar Square, "My dads jt got married" and cheered "Yay, gay marriage". In the rerdg leaked earlier this week, the Chigo rapper appears to claim he’s gay to law enforcement officers an effort to secure a cell transfer while servg time jail.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

At my school, the very place that I first observed queer cursy, I was sred to e out, fearg my own physil and emotnal wasn’t jt the school locker room where I heard homophobic remarks. Perhaps was the support of iends, nts, and those around me that ma me not want to feel ashamed about myself anymore, even if that meant God damng me to the begng of senr year, I went om “I’m gay” to whoever asked, to “Can you stop sayg faggot please? A month later, I cid to no longer participate the mentorship program, and every time I was asked why, I ma exc about beg too time, I retreated to my fantasy world, where I was not sixteen and gay a homophobic environment, but a world where I was olr, the future, when I would arrive to a betiful home om a long day at work, and be weled by a hband who lov me and bears my burns on his shoulrs.

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

I was thrilled to be leavg and movg on, but I uld see that many of my fellow graduat were facg siar hurdl, on that I had enuntered, and had only masked their tth wh homophobia. “Man I Am” released wh the rt of Barbie the Album, which clud standout songs like “Butterfli” by Gayle, “Hey Blondie” by Domic Fike, and “Journey to the Real World” by Tame Impala.

WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?

I AM A STRAIGHT GIRL, BUT WISH I ULD BE WH A GAY GUY.

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font-polysans-mono text-12 font-light leadg-130 trackg-1"> <ce class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup le not-alic text-gray-63 dark:text-gray-bd [&>a:hover]:text-gray-63 [&>a:hover]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&>a:hover]:text-gray-bd dark:[&>a:hover]:shadow-unrle-gray [&>a]:shadow-unrle-gray-63 dark:[&>a]:text-gray-bd dark:[&>a]:shadow-unrle-gray"><a href="><strong>Iouri Gosev/Flickr</strong></a></ce></div></figure></div></div></div></div><div class="relative md:mx-to md:flex md:max-w-ntaer-md lg:max-w-none"><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent-ntaer clearfix sm:ml-to md:ml-100 md:max-w-article-body lg:mx-100"><div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><a href="><em>Leah Reich</em></a><em> was one of the first ter advice lumnists. Her lumn "</em><a href="><em>Ask Leah</em></a><em>" ran on IGN, where she gave advice to gamers for two and a half years. Durg the day, Leah is Slack’s er rearcher, but her views here do not reprent her employer. How to be Human ns every other Sunday. You n wre to her at <strong> </strong>and </em><a href="><em>read more How to be Human here</em></a>.</p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>Hi Leah,</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>I’m a 21-year-old gay male who liv the Pacific Northwt. I’m out to those close to me, but I’m the closet publicly for now. I feel ’s a personal thg, my sexualy, so I only tell to those I re about. Pl, I live a super-nservative unty, and after the electn, tst me when I say ’s better I stay the closet for the time beg. The kd of hate I’m seeg lately towards mori is sry as hell.</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>Beg gay, and livg where I do, I’ve never… well, had a romantic relatnship and obvly, I’ve never gone the distance wh anyone eher. (I’ll eely adm, that’s a tough thg for me to say, pecially when we live a society where sex is held such high regard, and those who don’t have are eher unattractive or have ‘other’ issu.) I didn’t fake High School and pretend to be straight by havg a girliend or anythg like that. I jt managed to avoid the qutn, and sce I intify strongly on the mascule si of the spectm, most people haven’t a clue.</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>So whout any romantic background, I’ve found I velop csh fairly easily on guys I’m around, pecially those who are attractive both personaly and looks. Nothg’s ever e of the though, as I’ve never had the urage to act on them sce I’ve never been able to tell if the guys are actually gay or not. Let’s jt say that when to flirtg, relatnships, and sex, I’m hopelsly lost and experienced.</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>So, about a year ago at work, a new employee was hired. He’s olr than me by about ne years, but he’s still credibly young and extremely, extremely attractive. He’s a jock who’s very f, tall and handsome. But he’s also extremely kd and our personali kda clicked.</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>At first before I really got to know him, I veloped the ual csh on him. And as we beme iends, and as I got to know him more, that csh went away and somethg far more powerful replaced . I began to fall love wh him. I’m nfint ’s love bee well, when I’m around him, talkg to him, I feel good — extremely good, like I’m worth a ln bucks kda good. He mak me se and happy; he mak me lgh. I feel whole around him. And whenever I thk of him, I get such strong emotns that I sometim feel physilly sick. As I said, I’ve had several dozen csh over the years. None have ever e close to the feelgs I have for my worker. In a perfect world, I hontly thk he’s the one. Our chemistry seems almost too perfect. I would do anythg for him. Take a bullet for him, no qutns asked. This gets to the root of my problem. In a perfect world, my worker would be gay and sgle.</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>Sadly, this isn’t a perfect world, and my worker is straight, and very recently married.</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>Yay me. Fallg for someone I uld never, ever hope to ever be wh. I’m certaly not nial about , but here’s the thg, I don’t know how to <em>un-</em>fall love wh him. I’ve tried distancg myself om him at work and ignorg him, but that don’t work. And while I n never be there for him the way I’d like, I do not want to lose him as a iend. He’s lerally the only out-of-clost iend I have and losg him would only make the pa of our suatn unbearable.</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>Some thgs you should know. I have told him I’m gay (he was very supportive and thanked me for my tst him), and I’ve very recently told him about my feelgs towards him. I wasn’t pletely hont to the extent that those feelgs go, but he got the msage.</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>The part that kills me, is his rponse to my admtance was along the l of “I’m really sorry” and “I’ll be there for you if you want, whatever you need,” or “if you need some time or distance to work this out that’s ol…”</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>What I didn’t get and what I was hopg for was downright rejectn. He never told me that he didn’t feel the same. He never said explicly that he wasn’t open to beg somethg more.</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>Maybe he felt was implied, wh his marriage and all but hontly, my md is graspg at whatever hope remas. Sad, I know, but I don’t know how to get past this. All I do know is he’s a great guy, and he serv someone better than me. It’s not fair to him that I’m like this. It’s not right, and I feel pretty ashamed about actually.</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>Lastly, I’m someone who’s stggled wh beg alone for a long time. I would often spend sleepls nights paralyzed by lonels, but my worker and the feelgs I have for him has largely filled this void. I’m terrified of gog back to the way thgs were before he me along. I don’t want to feel that way aga, but I know if I do let him go that I will end up feelg this way aga.</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>Anyways, unrequed love. It kda sucks. So if you have any advice, or need more tails, I’m all ears. It’s not that I don’t know how to be human. I’m aaid that I’m feelg too much as a human. Please help.</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>Thank you,</strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe"><strong>-Sigma Tell  </strong></p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe">Hey ST,</p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe">Oh my iend, have you e to the right place. You know, the reason I lled this lumn How To Be Human is bee beg human is hard. It’s a challenge for most of — whether we feel too much, not much at all, or simply don’t know how to handle whatever feelgs we have. Hontly, most of a batn of the three at var pots our liv. </p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe">Here’s another reason this is the right place. Your humble advice lumnist spent much of her life pursu of people who were unavailable for one reason or other. I’ve had to e to some hont and paful realizatns about why I did that, and I want to share those tths wh you. They might be hard to hear, and you might dismiss them. That’s okay. Would you believe took me until I was 40 to fally listen to this advice myself, and to unrstand my behavr a way that’s allowed me to start changg ? This is my way of sayg that you should save this letter and read ocsnally. You’ll know when you’re ready to <em>hear </em> and to change. (It’s also my wkg way of sayg that ’s not surprisg a 30-year-old man still seems so youthful. He is!)</p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe">The first thg I want to acknowledge is that I n never know what ’s like to grow up as a young gay man. That don’t mean I n’t empathize wh you, though. I also want to addrs ia that beg a virg or beg sexually experienced means somethg is wrong wh you. Our society has a much more plited relatnship wh sex than simply “high regard” — although tradnal heterosexual society and gay muni are neher the same nor monolhic. Regardls, please know that while I unrstand ’s tough for you to adm your lack of experience, I want to enurage you to not see as a failure, as somethg wrong wh you, or even as somethg weird or bad. There are far more people like you out there than you realize. It’s jt that, like you, they don’t talk about , bee we don’t make fortable for people to talk about a lack of experience.</p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe">But your letter isn’t about sex. It’s about unrequed love, specifilly for your worker. Even though I’ve <a href=">wrten about</a> <a href=">unrequed love before</a>, I haven’t had the chance to wre what I want to say to you. Which is this:</p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe">Fallg for unavailable people is a very easy thg to do. Many of do , sometim for most of our liv. The person may be emotnally or geographilly unavailable, married or otherwise a long-term monogamo relatnship, gay or straight or simply not attracted to , and so on. Emotns are not always very logil thgs. Attractn is often a mystery nctn of physil and mental chemistry, timg, mood, and more. Humans are still animals at some level, right? I get that your attractn to your worker is a very real thg that you n’t totally ntrol, and I don’t want to dismiss that part of .</p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe">The problem is that fallg for unavailable people is a way to avoid realy. This is pecially temptg when our realy is, like yours, ls than ial. You live a place where you have an extremely limed chance of meetg someone available to you. You don’t feel fortable or safe beg out publicly, which means you n’t openly look for a man you’d want to date or sleep wh, and likely means other gay men who live where you do feel siarly. LGBTQ muni have long relied on signs, s, and hidn spac, many of which are still pafully necsary around the world and, unfortunately, here the US. The ter n help wh nnectns as well, for people who don’t live urban areas wh more active gay, lbian, or trans muni. But you still live where you live, and maybe there aren’t many spac like this where you are, or maybe you haven’t found the people who n show them to you, bee no one feels safe talkg publicly and you pass as straight, so your cycle ntu. </p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent clear-both block md:float-left md:mr-30 md:w-[320px] lg:-ml-100"><div class="duet--article--article-pullquote mb-20"><div class="mb-10 h-[22px] w-[65px] bg-ankl"></div><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup relative bg-repeatg-l-dark bg-[length:1px_1.2em] pb-8 font-polysans text-28 font-medium leadg-120 trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:bg-repeatg-l-light dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple">Fallg for unavailable people is a very easy thg to do</p></div></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe">Your realy is more than jt this, though. You’re secure about a lot of thgs, cludg your lack of sexual experience. There’s a lot you want to hi. You don’t have the nfince to go out and look for men who might be available to you. What if they judge or lgh at you? What if you don’t know what to do? I also n see you have a ep sense that somethg is wrong wh you. Not only do you mentn this relatn to sex, you brg up aga wh rpect to your worker: He serv someone better than you. When you thk of yourself as a flawed, broken, not-good-enough person, you fd yourself attracted to the people you thk you serve. The people tend to also be flawed, broken, not-good-enough — or people who are so totally unavailable you n create an entire fantasy about who they are and what your life wh them would be like. And by you, I also mean me and all of .</p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe">I promise I’m not dismissg your feelgs for this guy. I have felt exactly as you do about people who were so unavailable to me ’s md-bogglg when I thk about after the fact. And much of my unrequed love has e om my own sire to avoid realy. Why? Bee realy is hard and ’s not always fun. It’s easier to go after people who aren’t available so you n pe forever rather than adm you’re sred to be a relatnship or to m to someone, or so the relatnship n fail for reasons that you n blame on someone or somethg else. Longg for an unavailable person means you don’t have to get hont wh yourself about why, ep down si, you don’t thk you serve someone wonrful, or why you believe someone wonrful serv a better partner than you uld ever hope to be. It is much easier to believe someone else is perfect or at least perfect for you than to regnize and act on your own realy.</p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe">ST, I do not want you to go back to your cshg lonels. I would not wish that on almost anyone. You are a tough spot, lerally and figuratively. You have to thk not only about yourself but about where you live and what your optns are. I don’t have an easy answer for you, but I do have a place for you to beg: You have to get real about your suatn, and you have to start workg on feelg good about yourself. You need to fd more people you n feel safe around, cludg other gay men. Maybe also a therapist, one who is very LGBTQ iendly. You need to feel okay wh yourself so you n <em>be</em> yourself. It’s easier to tell this straight guy about your lack of experience but to tell another gay man probably feels impossible, right? But who is more likely to be able to help you learn to flirt, to regnize other gay men, to fd someone who will help you experiment sexually a safe, nsensual way? I don’t know if you n move, or if you want to, but you do need to fd a way to expand your iend circle and support work. Look for rourc near you, or the neart cy. There are fely other gay men near where you live, you jt have to try and fd them a more stctured way. I bet if you searched for volunteer groups or book clubs or gyms or lerally anythg a nearby large cy, you’d fd somethg. It will be terrifyg, but you n do . Carve out the space to start workg toward a better realy.</p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe">Right now, you have vted nearly all your emotns to a sgle person. He’s your only close iend and your heart’s te sire. This is not staable, eher for you or for him. Give this iend of yours a break and be willg to see the realy that suatn too. He has rejected to you, but an credibly kd way. I thk is a ttament to him as a human and to your iendship that he handled your admissn of feelgs wh kdns. Not bee you’re gay and he’s straight, but bee ’s hard to rpond gracefully when anyone lik you a way you n’t reciprote. It’s awkward, and sometim brgs up feelgs you’re not ready to al wh. Maybe he’s qutned his sexualy, or maybe he’s feelg uncerta about havg gotten married, or maybe he’s feelg god knows what. Don’t ph for him to give you an outright rejectn when ’s you who needs to be willg to honor his iendship by hearg what he’s sayg. And don’t ph yourself to be iends wh him if the romantic feelgs are too overwhelmg.</p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent clear-both block"><div class="duet--article--article-pullquote mb-20"><div class="mb-10 h-[22px] w-[65px] bg-ankl"></div><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup relative bg-repeatg-l-dark bg-[length:1px_1.2em] pb-8 font-polysans text-28 font-medium leadg-120 trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:bg-repeatg-l-light dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple">It is much easier to believe someone else is perfect for you than to regnize and act on your own realy</p></div></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe">You and I are a lot alike. We have big feelgs and romantic sensibili. We thk hearg someone apologize or reject will somehow solve a suatn or make easier. We kd of want to be rcued rather than diggg and fixg our suatns by ourselv. We vt way too much one person, all our hop and expectatns and energi, and then are thst back to lonels and isolatn when that don’t pan out. I’ve spent a long time figurg out why I’m like this, and how I’d like to be different. I want you to do the same.</p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe">The tth is that fdg relatnships of all sorts, iends or romantic and sexual partners is a msy bs. It’s hard even for people who feel nfint or who live plac where there are more optns than you have. That’s why people like lumns like me. Hey, I’m an advice lumnist and I often don’t don’t know what to do when to my own datg life! Jt last night, I was tryg to figure out how to have a drk wh someone I’m attracted to whout makg totally obv I want to have a drk wh them! </p></div><div class="duet--article--article-body-ponent"><p class="duet--article--dangeroly-set-cms-markup duet--article--standard-paragraph mb-20 font-fkroman text-18 leadg-160 -trackg-1 selectn:bg-ankl-20 dark:text-whe dark:selectn:bg-blurple [&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-ankl dark:[&_a:hover]:shadow-highlight-blurple [&_a]:shadow-unrle-black dark:[&_a]:shadow-unrle-whe">Beg a human is hard. It’s somethg you kd of have to work on every day. I don’t want you to spend the next two s thkg the only optns are “cshg lonels” and “this person is THE ONE and we are sted to be together, if only they would see .” It is a lossal waste of your time and of your love. I want you to be able to love this iend the way you both serve—as a te iend, one who n be there for him the way he is for you. I want you to have other close iends you tst. I want you to be able to love men who are available to love and sire you. I want you to have really great sex. 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