“God Ma me Gay for a Reason”: Young Men who have Sex wh Men’s Riliency Rolvg Internalized Homophobia om Relig Sourc - PMC

Contents:

• ‘I AM GAY – BUT I WASN’T BORN THIS WAY’
• THE ONE THAT TURNED YOU GAY (THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY PARODY)SHANE DAWSON1 VIEWER1 CONTRIBUTORTHE ONE THAT TURNED YOU GAY (THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY PARODY) LYRICS[INTRO]YOU MIGHT ALSO LIKEEMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTHAVE THE SI SOP ON THIS SONG?SIGN UP AND DROP SOME KNOWLEDGESTART THE SONG BASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHO WROTE “THE ONE THAT TURNED YOU GAY (THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY PARODY)” BY SHANE DAWSON?CREDSWRTEN BYSHANE DAWSONMIC VIO DIRECTED BYTOTALLYSKETCHTHE ONE THAT TURNED YOU GAY (THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY PARODY) SAMPLTHE ONE THAT GOT AWAY BY KATY PERRYVIEW THE ONE THAT TURNED YOU GAY (THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY PARODY) SAMPLTAGSPOPLGBTQ+EXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE
• WOULDN'T THAT MAKE YOU GAY?
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• IS ANYONE BORN GAY?
• AM I GAY?
• WHAT WAS THE ONE THG THAT MA YOU FALLY SAY, "OMG... I'M GAY"?
• THE MOMENT I TOLD MY FIRST GAY CSH I LIKED HIMI DID EVENTUALLY TELL THE GUY WHO MA ME REALIZE I WAS GAY THAT I LIKED HIM. IT DIDN’T GO HOW YOU THK.BRIAN ROWE·FOLLOWPUBLISHED THE PARTNERED PEN·13 M READ·APR 9, 2020--1SHAREPHOTO BY ASAF R AT UNSPLASHIN JANUARY I TOLD THE STORY OF THE MOMENT I REALIZED I WAS GAY.IT WAS AT MY ORIENTATN WEEKEND AT LOYOLA MARYMOUNT UNIVERSY JUNE 2003. I WAS EIGHTEEN YEARS OLD. I’D HAD CSH ON A FEW GUYS HIGH SCHOOL, BUT NOTHG LIKE THE STRONG FEELGS I VELOPED OVER JT TWENTY-FOUR HOURS FOR ANOTHER G HMAN AT LMU NAMED ALEX.WE END UP BEG DORM MAT FOR ONE NIGHT THAT WEEKEND. WE TALKED FOR HOURS. AND WHEN I RETURNED TO MY DORM ROOM AFTER ALEX HAD ALREADY LEFT, I DISVERED A SMALL NOTE HE HAD LEFT ME ON MY SUSE THAT SAID TO E-MAIL HIM THAT SUMMER.I ALREADY DISCSED THIS PART OF THE STORY TAIL…THE MOMENT I KNEW I WAS GAYWE ALL E TO THE REALIZATN ABOUT OUR SEXUALY AT DIFFERENT AG AND MOMENTS. THIS WAS BUT NOTICE THAT SENTENCE I WROTE NEAR THE END: THERE’S MORE TO THE STORY WH ALEX. MORE THAT HAPPENED BETWEEN THE NEXT FOUR YEARS.WELL, TODAY IS THE DAY I TELL THE RT OF THE ALEX STORY. BEE THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. MORE TIME SPENT HANGG OUT TOGETHER. MORE TIME GETTG TO KNOW THIS SPECIAL GUY, OVER THE URSE OF MANY YEARS.OH, AND THE MOMENT I ACTUALLY TOLD ALEX HOW MUCH I LIKED HIM.BUT THAT ME LATER.I THOUGHT ABOUT ALEX ALL THROUGHOUT THE SUMMER OF 2003.
• MY SO-CALLED EX-GAY LIFE
• ABOUT THE CENTERSCE 1983 THE CENTER HAS BEEN SUPPORTG, FOSTERG AND CELEBRATG THE LGBT MUNY OF NEW YORK CY. FD MORE RMATN ON AND OUR WORK ABOUT THE CENTER. VIS ABOUT THE CENTEROUR MISSNCYBER CENTERCENTER HISTORYRACE EQUYMEDIA CENTERLEARSHIP & STAFFEMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNICORPORATE PARTNERSHIPSANNUAL REPORTS & FANCIAL INFORMATNCONTACT USHOURS & LOTNSEMAPSUPPORT THE CENTER
• TALKG DOG   GAY CHRISTIAN ROURC
• “GOD MA ME GAY FOR A REASON”: YOUNG MEN WHO HAVE SEX WH MEN’S RILIENCY ROLVG INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA OM RELIG SOURC
• TOP TEN THGS THAT PROBABLY MA ME GAY
• I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN
• IS IT MY FLT THAT I WAS SEXUALLY ABED? DID IT MAKE ME GAY?
• 3 LANDG SPOTS FOR FORMER UTAH JAZZ PLAYER RUDY GAY
• STRAIGHT GUYS, DO WEED MAKE YOU FEEL GAY (AS HOMOSEXUAL)?
• #978: “IF YOU WERE A TEN-YEAR-OLD BOY WHO JT TOLD YOUR MOM YOU’RE GAY, WHAT WOULD YOU WANT HER TO SAY?”
• I'M A GAY GUY, BUT THERE'S THIS GIRL....
• ‘GOD MA YOU THIS WAY,’ POPE IS SAID TO HAVE TOLD GAY MAN
• "I REALIZED I WAS GAY": MEN WHO CAME OUT LATER IN LIFE ARE SHARG WHAT IT WAS LIKE FOR THEM TO REVEAL THAT TTH AND LIVE AUTHENTILLY

‘I AM GAY – BUT I WASN’T BORN THIS WAY’

You so obvly nnot be gay, was her implitn, bee this is good was 2006, a full five years before Lady Gaga would set the Born This Way argument atop s unassailable cultural perch, but even then the popular unrstandg of orientatn was that was somethg you were born wh, somethg you uldn’t change.

THE ONE THAT TURNED YOU GAY (THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY PARODY)SHANE DAWSON1 VIEWER1 CONTRIBUTORTHE ONE THAT TURNED YOU GAY (THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY PARODY) LYRICS[INTRO]YOU MIGHT ALSO LIKEEMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTHAVE THE SI SOP ON THIS SONG?SIGN UP AND DROP SOME KNOWLEDGESTART THE SONG BASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHO WROTE “THE ONE THAT TURNED YOU GAY (THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY PARODY)” BY SHANE DAWSON?CREDSWRTEN BYSHANE DAWSONMIC VIO DIRECTED BYTOTALLYSKETCHTHE ONE THAT TURNED YOU GAY (THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY PARODY) SAMPLTHE ONE THAT GOT AWAY BY KATY PERRYVIEW THE ONE THAT TURNED YOU GAY (THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY PARODY) SAMPLTAGSPOPLGBTQ+EXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE

Throughout the same perd, the number of Amerins who believe homosexualy is “due to someone’s upbrgg/environment” fell om jt unr 60% to ias reached cril mass pop culture, first wh Lady Gaga’s 2011 Born This Way and one year later wh Macklemore’s Same Love, the chos of which has a gay person sgg “I n’t change even if I tried, even if I wanted to. In fact, the homophobic and non-homophobic rponnts he studied shared siar levels of belief a Born This Way Samantha Allen not at The Daily Beast, the growg public support for gays and lbians has grown out of proportn wh the rise the number of people who believe homosexualy is fixed at birth; would be unlikely that this small change opn uld expla the spike support for gay marriage, for stance.

The APA, for example, while notg that most people experience ltle to no choice over their orientatns, says this of homosexualy’s origs:“Although much rearch has examed the possible geic, hormonal, velopmental, social and cultural fluenc on sexual orientatn, no fdgs have emerged that perm scientists to nclu that sexual orientatn is termed by any particular factor or factors.

” Acrdg to LeVay’s rearch, a specific part of the bra, the third terstial nucls of the anterr hypothalam (INAH-3), is smaller homosexual men than is heterosexual as they might, scientists have stggled to inty any particular gen that nsistently predict the directns of our love and sire (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)Read moreYou n spot the problem wh this study a e away: were the gay bras LeVay studied born that way, or did they bee that way? Bis the dividual criqu leveled agast each new study announcg some gay gene disvery, there are major methodologil cricisms to make about the entire enterprise general, as Grzanka pots out: “If we look at the raveno pursu, particularly among Amerin scientists, to fd a gay gene, what we see is that the ncln has already been arrived at.

WOULDN'T THAT MAKE YOU GAY?

“Limg our unrstandg of any plex human experience is always gog to be worse than allowg to be plited, ” he gay rights activists pared sexualy to relign - a ccial part of our life that we should be ee to practise however we like (Cred: Ignac Lehamann)So what are we to do wh the Born This Way rhetoric?

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

The One That Turned You Gay (The One That Got Away Parody) Lyrics[Intro]How to Format Lyrics:Type out all lyrics, even repeatg song parts like the chosLyrics should be broken down to dividual lUse sectn hears above different song parts like [Verse], [Chos], alics (<i>lyric</i>) and bold (<b>lyric</b>) to distguish between different volists the same song partIf you don’t unrstand a lyric, e [? Nilosi remas NARTH's most visible are no reliable statistics for how many patients have received ex-gay treatment or how many therapists practice , but the late 1990s and early 2000s, ex-gay therapy enjoyed a legimacy hadn't sce the APA removed homosexualy om s diagnostic manual. Among them were Alan Downg, the lead therapist of JONAH (Jews Offerg New Alternativ to Homosexualy), who ma his patients strip and touch themselv ont of a mirror; NARTH member Christopher At, who was nvicted of "unlawfully, tentnally and knowgly [g] peratn of" a client; and Exod-affiliated Mike Jon, who asked a patient to take off his shirt and do ph-ups for movement also suffered several high-profile fectns.

Morn gay Christians are leadg the way helpg others see the importance of gay Christians the admistratn and applitn of Christ’s love: Gene Robson, first ordaed Epispal Bishop, Mary Glasspool, the send Epispal Bishop–both out, and there are sr of good Anglin prits, Uned Church of Canada and Lutheran pastors–and there will be more. Given the unique velopmental stage of adolcence and emergg adulthood and the fact that most religns across the globe offer teachgs that nmn or rtrict homosexual behavr, is particularly important to unrstand YMSM’s experienc and challeng as they stggle to tegrate their sexual inty wh their relig/spirual beliefs. Rearch among olr populatns of MSM and other lbian, gay and bisexual (LGB) adults dite that religsy n ntribute to inty dissonance between sexual sir and relig beliefs for sexual mory dividuals, which n be rolved by changg religns, reexamg relig texts and doctre, abandong relign, or turng to a more dividualized sense of spirualy (Leong, 2006; Schuck & Liddle, 2001; Thumms, 1991; Yip, 1997, 2005).

Mory Strs and Internalized HomophobiaInternalized homophobia, also referred to as ternalized heterosexism (Szymanski & Chung, 2003) or sexual prejudice (Herek, 2004), n be fed as directg anti-gay social attus towards the self, leadg to a valuatn of the self, ternal nflicts and poor self-regard (Meyer & Dean, 1998).

IS ANYONE BORN GAY?

G., relig, school) such as: avoidg church altogether, seekg an alternative church, or g “selective listeng” to avoid ternalizg homophobic msag (McDavt et al., 2009) the range of cisns and experienc that YMSM will make durg their emergg adulthood, is important to unrstand the procs and growth that young men experience while sortg out potential nflicts between relig/spirual beliefs and their sexual inty. Young men were eligible to participate the study if they were: a) 18- to 24-years old; b) self-intified as gay, bisexual, or uncerta of their sexual orientatn and/or reported havg had sex wh a man; c) self-intified as Csian, Ain Amerin, or Lato of Mexin scent; and d) a rint of Los Angel County, and they anticipated livg Los Angel for at least six men were reced at public venu (e.

Axial dg was then nducted to piece the data back together to fully scribe the procs, leadg to the stcture of this paper which scrib: 1) the homophobic msag heard relig ntexts; 2) how the msag were ternalized; 3) the effects of the msag on inty and self perceptn; and 4) the often plited strategi the young men employed to pe wh the msag and ntue their spirual, relig, and/or personal velopment. The majory of the HYM sample (81%) intified as gay, wh 12% intifyg as 1Dcriptn of the Study Sample om Wave 3 Survey (N = 483) and Qualative Study (N = 36)VariablCategoriTotal Sample n (%)Qualative Rponnts n (%)Age18 – 19 yrs88 (18)6 (17)20 – 21 yrs195 (40)18 (50)22+ yrs200 (41)12 (33)Race/ethnicyAin- Amerin115 (24)12 (33)Csian192 (40)12 (33)Mexin scent176 (36)12 (33)RinceFay237 (49)16 (44)Own place/apartment203 (42)17 (47)Wh iends/partner31 (6)1 (3)No regular place/other12 (3)2 (6)EmploymentIn school50 (10)6 (17)In school, employed149 (31)6 (17)Employed, not school235 (49)19 (53)Not employed, not school49 (10)5 (14)Edutn levelLs than high school26 (5)2 (6)High school/GED110 (23)6 (17)Votnal17 (4)- (0)Some llege284 (59)26 (72)College gree46 (10)2 (6)Sexual intyGay390 (81)28 (77)Other same-sex inty23 (5)2 (6)Bisexual57 (12)4 (11)Straight6 (1)--Don’t know/Refe7 (1)2 (6)Sexual attractnMal only339 (70)25 (69)Mal and femal131 (27)10 (28)Femal only7 (1)1 (3)Neher/don’t know6 (1)--Immigratn statBorn outsi US74 (15)7 (19)Born US407 (84)29 (81)Level of religsyNot at all relig138 (29)10 (28)Not very relig124 (26)14 (39)Somewhat relig172 (36)11 (31)Very relig43 (9)1 (3)Level of spirualyNot at all spirual37 (8)4 (11)Not very spirual60 (13)8 (22)Somewhat spirual216 (45)12 (33)Very spirual168 (35)12 (33)Table 2 prents data related to relig affiliatn and the past and prent role of relign and spirualy rponnts’ liv.

AM I GAY?

In the church, was not unmon for rponnts to report that sermons seemed to often return to the subject of homosexualy, makg the young men feel unfortable or fearful as Royal, an Ain Amerin rponnt who reported that both his grandmother and mother were pastors a Christian church, scrib:It’s like he [the pastor] would preach a different thg but would always go back to homosexuals and sexualy for some reason.

Man whose fay nverted om Catholicism to Prottantism explaed:Yeah, I remember beg a Catholic church and not hearg anythg about homosexuals at all…It wasn’t until I got to the Prottant church that was blatantly like brimstone, hell fire…He [the pastor] would start to preach about God and blah, blah, blah. ‘But the people this untry, the gays, oh my god pecially the gays…The gays and the lbians and the atheists and the socialists, they are gog to brg this untry down and this untry was found on the grace of God’ many adolcents, about half of the YMSM this study felt they had few choic whether or not they attend relig servic growg up.

WHAT WAS THE ONE THG THAT MA YOU FALLY SAY, "OMG... I'M GAY"?

” Rodrigo, a young man who scribed himself as “spirual”, was born to a Catholic hoehold, and after his mother nverted to a nservative Evangelil church, he scribed a lengthy ternal stggle as this newer relign tght that homosexuals had a “mon” si of them:In the Evangelil belief, ’s not that ’s [homosexualy] jt a s, ’s a mon si of you…whenever they did mentn that, they’d say ‘Ooh, this person has the mon them.

THE MOMENT I TOLD MY FIRST GAY CSH I LIKED HIMI DID EVENTUALLY TELL THE GUY WHO MA ME REALIZE I WAS GAY THAT I LIKED HIM. IT DIDN’T GO HOW YOU THK.BRIAN ROWE·FOLLOWPUBLISHED THE PARTNERED PEN·13 M READ·APR 9, 2020--1SHAREPHOTO BY ASAF R AT UNSPLASHIN JANUARY I TOLD THE STORY OF THE MOMENT I REALIZED I WAS GAY.IT WAS AT MY ORIENTATN WEEKEND AT LOYOLA MARYMOUNT UNIVERSY JUNE 2003. I WAS EIGHTEEN YEARS OLD. I’D HAD CSH ON A FEW GUYS HIGH SCHOOL, BUT NOTHG LIKE THE STRONG FEELGS I VELOPED OVER JT TWENTY-FOUR HOURS FOR ANOTHER G HMAN AT LMU NAMED ALEX.WE END UP BEG DORM MAT FOR ONE NIGHT THAT WEEKEND. WE TALKED FOR HOURS. AND WHEN I RETURNED TO MY DORM ROOM AFTER ALEX HAD ALREADY LEFT, I DISVERED A SMALL NOTE HE HAD LEFT ME ON MY SUSE THAT SAID TO E-MAIL HIM THAT SUMMER.I ALREADY DISCSED THIS PART OF THE STORY TAIL…THE MOMENT I KNEW I WAS GAYWE ALL E TO THE REALIZATN ABOUT OUR SEXUALY AT DIFFERENT AG AND MOMENTS. THIS WAS BUT NOTICE THAT SENTENCE I WROTE NEAR THE END: THERE’S MORE TO THE STORY WH ALEX. MORE THAT HAPPENED BETWEEN THE NEXT FOUR YEARS.WELL, TODAY IS THE DAY I TELL THE RT OF THE ALEX STORY. BEE THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. MORE TIME SPENT HANGG OUT TOGETHER. MORE TIME GETTG TO KNOW THIS SPECIAL GUY, OVER THE URSE OF MANY YEARS.OH, AND THE MOMENT I ACTUALLY TOLD ALEX HOW MUCH I LIKED HIM.BUT THAT ME LATER.I THOUGHT ABOUT ALEX ALL THROUGHOUT THE SUMMER OF 2003.

Mart scribed how his brother would tell him that he was “no earthly good”, which he said “felt ugly and ma me feel ugly” and ultimately ma him leave this hoe as well:My brother knew I was gay and when I broke out of my shell, I got more volved I would want to have Bible ssns at my hoe. And he liked the fact that I was beg more volved but ’s like he’ll sometim try to cut short…So then we had a discsn about me, about me and my sexualy and he said that I am heavenly md but no earthly good…Meang I n thk about God and pray about God and talk about God as much as I want but I am no earthly good bee I am gay…I am a sner. In the most severe s, rponnts reported beg a prsive state, ntemplatg suici, and fastg or overeatg to alleviate their feelgs of spair and the most mon exprsns of what we nsir to be ternalized homophobia were rponnts’ ntug qutng of themselv, wonrg if the fact that they were attracted to other men tomatilly meant that they would not “be saved.

MY SO-CALLED EX-GAY LIFE

”Some rponnts scribed that hearg how “wrong” beg gay was ma them start to not only qutn their “goodns” as a human beg, but also to velop what some scribed as a sense of self hatred that rulted some young men wantg to hi that part of themselv, and wh some datg women or wearg “straight” cloth as a way to flect attentn.

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I hid the shadows…I slowly started to hate myself, hate relign and hate everybody who believed bee I was this and God ma me like some s, particularly those who were raised more nservative religns, the homophobic msag rulted feelgs of distrs, prsn and suicidaly, particularly for those who relied on the church muny for a great al of social support. He fasted to “feel closer to God”, and reported g dgs and alhol to numb the pa he felt, tryg to rencile his homosexualy wh the negative msag he heard om his church:What I did was stead of fdg proper help, maybe talkg to a unselor or somethg, I got to this huge prsn and ’s ridiculo but…I would fast four or five tim a week bee I felt that I need to be closer to God.

Ivan had been told by his parents that his homosexualy was due to a lack of paternal volvement; however, he disagreed wh their view bee he relled feelg “different” at an early age:When you are younger, ’s like you know that you are different but you don’t know why you are different and when you grow up you start to realize that… I knew I was [gay].

Explorg the beliefs sometim led the young men to pick aspects om the belief system that they rporated to their part of their exploratn tryg to fd a relign or fah that would provi them wh this tranquily and acceptance, several rponnts reported havg vised or wantg to vis a “gay church. ” The church and what they preached were difficult for some to procs, wh Royal remarkg that while his mother was beg more acceptg of his sexual inty, he would not feel at all fortable brgg her to that church, scribg his difficulti as:When I was the Christian church Tennsee, they’re like beg gay is not of God. Manuel, who scribed himself as spirual and someone who worships and prays to one God, reported that beg gay and embracg that part of his inty also ntributed to his sense of much I n say ’s not that I’m worshippg somethg for me to be gay but ’s jt like beg spirual about , like havg stuff that will say “Okay, I’m gay”…I’m spirual that sense.

TALKG DOG   GAY CHRISTIAN ROURC

Although some rponnts stated that when they were younger, they too felt that religsy and homosexualy were mutually exclive, their efforts to al wh the homophobic msag they enuntered enabled many of them to rporate a strong sense of spirualy their most rponnts, the posive aspects of relign centered on the ia of a personal or dividual relatnship wh a higher power who was generally seen as lovg and non-judgmental, siar to the shift beliefs noted the NSYR, which intified a shift om prev generatns that have perceived God as mandg or punive (Smh & Denton, 2005) as well as studi among LGB adults which dite that belief God’s unndnal love and acceptance of all people is important rolvg inty dissonance (Thumms, 1991; Yip, 1997). This is siar to what others have reported among emergg adults (Art, 2002; Yip, 2002), wh dividuals often pickg and choosg om a menu of relig and spirual optns to form an “a la rte belief system”(Art, 2002) is different about the young men this sample is that they were often exposed to homophobic msag relig settgs and ma to feel unwele and fearful while attendg relig servic.

Clearly, the importance of relign and spirualy the liv of the young men should not be disregard, as many of them stggled to fd a way to effectively tegrate the two seemgly opposed rponnts this study are still relatively young and are velopmentally the stage of emergg adulthood (Art, 2000), a perd when many gay and bisexual youth are g to terms wh their sexual inty (Sav-Williams, 1998) and learng ways of pg wh homophobic fluenc (McDavt et al., 2009). Bee some rponnts scribed dissociatg om tense negative emotns they experienced rponse to the trma of repeatedly enunterg homophobic attus, therapists should offer an approach that is not only gay-affirmative, but that also foc on helpg dividuals pay attentn to and work through feelgs that are reprsed or difficult to face. Addnally, as dividuals this study sought support om a number of different sourc, cludg clergy, may be advantageo to engage gay-iendly clergy dialogu on how bt to support the orr to atta self-acceptance the face of homophobic msag, most rponnts relied on the ia that sexual orientatn is an nate and unchangeable aspect of their personali.

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“GOD MA ME GAY FOR A REASON”: YOUNG MEN WHO HAVE SEX WH MEN’S RILIENCY ROLVG INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA OM RELIG SOURC

There are more than 60 untri wh laws that crimalise same-sex sexual acts acrdg to the Internatnal Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Associatn, cludg Sdi Arabia.'Authentilly myself'Ray said he had also stggled growg up gay the 1970s and 80s England, which was "tough".He said his relig school "dmmed to you, 'you are gog to hell'".When Adam returned home to Sdi Arabia, spe beg more than 3,000 apart and later rtricted by the Covid-19 panmic, they kept touch daily and the romance blossomed.Three years ago, Ray proposed on a vio ll and after succsfully applyg for a UK fiancé visa, Adam moved to Manchter December 2022. Adam said he had been aaid to even wear lours his home untry so the first thg he did when he moved was start to "grow my mullet, got my ears pierced and booked appotments for tattoos".He relled how, ntrast, one of his gay iends Sdi had been forced to marry a woman, addg: "It has ed not only his life but the life of his wife."Danny Beard on Same Sex Love and MarriageDanny explor same-sex weddgs, fdg out why upl chose to get married, the challeng unrpng this cisn and what mak the wedd relatnships work.The uple said they now wanted to help people who were not as ee and strive for "equaly for everyone"."Now I'm here a safe place I want to fight for others to be able to marry who they want," Adam said."I'm so lucky but I want everyone else Sdi to marry the one they love whout facg discrimatn and persecutn." Image source, Fay photographImage ptn, Peter McGrah and David Cabreza say they are "very proud" to have been the first same-sex uple married EnglandMore than 40,000 same-sex marriag took place between 2014 and 2020, acrdg to the Office for Natnal StatisticsPeter McGrah and David Cabreza, origally om Stland and the US, ma history when they beme the first same-sex uple to marry England on 29 March 2014.The trailblazers married jt after midnight at Islgton Town Hall. But I won’t ny that at the time, as a person alg wh a lot of ternalized shame about beg gay and, nsequently, beg to gay sex, I found Tumblr a path to accs a different kd of knowledge of myself — of my sir, my terts and my tellectual that, I have the sex workers and creators of not-safe-for-work ntent at Tumblr to thank.

AdvertisementSKIP Casilli/RtersMay 21, 2018ROME — A Chilean survivor of cleril sex abe has said that Pope Francis told him a private meetg this month that God had ma him gay and that both God and the pontiff loved him that way, a remarkable exprsn of cln for the lear of the Roman Catholic Church. ”The Vatin cled to ment on the pope’s private Cz had already said that Francis had apologized the meetg for the large-sle sexual abe sndal volvg Chilean clergy members, but over the weekend, he also told the Spanish newspaper El País about the pope’s remarks about his homosexualy.

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