I read a blog a uple years ago that has disappeared off the ter; was lled "You're Not Gay." The male wrer explaed that he ed to live a gay liftyle believg that he was gay bee of other people's opns. Somehow even though he didn't want to be gay other people thought he…
Contents:
- CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
- AM I GAY? HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY?
- YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD
- YOU’RE NOT GAY
CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
Am I gay? Some fd this hard to answer. Knowg whether you are gay or straight, though, down to attractns and behavrs. Fd out more. * you re not as gay as this *
So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual, ” but chew the “gay” label.
Bee “gay” impli an embracg of the gay liftyle — gay bars, gay pri paras, perhaps multiple sex partners, or even anonymo sex. Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia. For example, gay men the Mormon fah are moral nflict.
AM I GAY? HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY?
Durg the’90s, I beme a “gay-affirmative therapist.
I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them.
YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD
Beg a gay man, I was tryg to brg them to where I was at.
YOU’RE NOT GAY
Durg this time, a man don’t see himself as gay, only homosexual.
The term gay is too affirmative, and they are not ready to accept .