I like guys but I don’t want to be gay. How do I stop beg gay? – The Answer Wall

Contents:

• OVERG THE SHAME OF BEG GAY
• LIVG AUTHENTILLY THE LGBTQ COMMUNY: HOW TO MOVE PAST “GAY SHAME” [VIO]
• HOW TO OVERE FEELGS OF SHAME AROUND BEG GAY
• WATCH VIRAL FOOTAGE OF KG VON ADMTG TO BEG GAY TO THE POLICE
• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
• HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY

OVERG THE SHAME OF BEG GAY

I remember that when I disvered that my son was gay, I felt shame. Bee of society's expectatns that everyone should live a bary world, I envisned that havg a gay child uld be looked upon as a stigma.

I didn't like the posn that I was thst to once I found out my son was gay.

Acrdg to psychiatrist Jonathan Tobk, -thor of my book, When Your Child Is Gay, "guilt tends to be limed to an actn that we have taken or not taken, whereas shame is a pervasive negative emotn about how we feel overall. A straight parent, Dorothy spected that her son Kev was gay and tried to redirect him.

LIVG AUTHENTILLY THE LGBTQ COMMUNY: HOW TO MOVE PAST “GAY SHAME” [VIO]

Once ashamed of havg a gay son, now Dorothy refers gay people the muny to her ntal office, where she is a ntal hygienist. The ntist's office is known as "the office of the gay muny" bee of Dorothy's support. Siarly, Jab Thomas, origally om Northern Geia, was ashamed of beg gay.

HOW TO OVERE FEELGS OF SHAME AROUND BEG GAY

"Gay and lbian children should not only get the msage that they are loved, but also that they are not damaged or ls than.

Parents should not thk that havg a gay child or beg gay is somewhat unsirable or ferr. If you are worried about how others will treat you bee you have a gay child, you need to reexame the nature and strength of your relatnship the same way you would tell your child to do if one of her iends sudnly rejected her upon fdg out she was gay.

Parents don't e their child to be gay so they shouldn't blame themselv. I foc on keepg eye ntact wh objects the distance but then the thoughts pop so quickly…Don’t look gayCan they see if I am gay? I also have ught myself on very few ocsns when I was younger (not so much now thankfully) when tellg someone ‘I am gay’ I would say a quieter tone so as not to draw attentn.

WATCH VIRAL FOOTAGE OF KG VON ADMTG TO BEG GAY TO THE POLICE

I was not fortable my own sk as I do not I thk I have fully accepted who I am, a gay man livg this world. So om then on I answered hontly and tell them before they asked me that y, I was datg this great guy and the embarrassed feelgs would subsi and I would feel more a kid growg up Mayo the early 1980’s I heard the term gay beg ed but always a negative manner. I knew om a very early age I was gay so my earlit beliefs of myself were negative, shameful, disgtg and then my anxiety and shyns veloped.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

Red flag, look at the gay boy playg rounr’s.

HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY

Then I started Irish dancg wh the rt of the kids, all the lads hated , I loved , I was really good at but I felt embarrassed, look at the gay boy Irish dancg. I knew this looked gay and the kids were judgg me so I jt stopped after primary school. I stopped somethg I loved so that I uld f by pretendg to like thgs I hated other kids still picked up on my gayns, my differenc.

I never talked about girls, didn’t follow an English football team, talked more to girls as I felt more relaxed around them as they were not llg me gay, queer, homo, well at the begng they didn’t. I looked like the other guys but I was different, I was gay, I stood out to them and they hated me. Even up to my early 20’s as I spoke to people about beg gay I would say if someone offered me a tablet to be straight I would take two so I uld be like the rt of the lads out there, to f , to fa to the background, to be one of the mak me feel ls than, not good enough, not handsome enough, not smart enough.