Dave Sebastian tells the story of his own past and prent: g to terms wh, acceptg, and eventually embracg his inty as a gay man. He rells his transn om "self-disgt" to "nfince" and "pri", stg a msage of love as a dogma that will prevail over prejudice.
Contents:
- HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
- WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE A GAY MAN?
- HOW I LEARNED IS OKAY TO BE GAY
- IT’S “OKAY” TO BE GAY, AND YOU NEED TO KNOW WHY
- HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
- WHY DO SOME CHRISTIANS BELIEVE ’S OK TO BE GAY, WHEN THE BIBLE SAYS ISN’T?
- AM I GAY?
- WHY GAY IS NOT OK
HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
Bible vers about Is It Okay To Be Gay * it is okey to be gay *
Most people the LGBTQ+ muny know om experience that acceptg your sexualy will lead to your beg a happier, more open this gui, the term gay has been ed to clu all forms of non-heterosexual attractn, whether that be people who are lbian, gay, bisexual, queer, pansexual, or otherwise not straight. Know if you are gay.
Consir takg an onle sexualy quiz, like this one, to see if intifyg as gay feels right for you.
There isn't any need to change yourself - beg gay is jt another way of simply existg, and there is nothg wrong wh at all. Neher is there anythg wrong wh you for beg gay. The fact that I am gay is jt another facet of who I am, jt as beg creative, or optimistic, or havg brown ey is.
WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE A GAY MAN?
* it is okey to be gay *
Remember that beg gay do not require you to nform to typil gay stereotyp. Most people who are gay are distguishable om those that aren't.
HOW I LEARNED IS OKAY TO BE GAY
The lennial is reared differently om olr folks. Moral l were clearer then: s was a s, e.g., beg gay. But 's "okay" now. * it is okey to be gay *
Beg gay do not necsarily make you any ls mascule or feme, and there is no need or prsure to nform to stereotyp that don't feel right to you - bee you are who you are. You do not need to f to the gay muny jt as much as you don't need to f to the straight muny. In 100 years, "gay" will be an entirely different ncept.
There is no evince that "helpg gay people to bee heterosexual" is possible.
IT’S “OKAY” TO BE GAY, AND YOU NEED TO KNOW WHY
Homosexualy is not viewed as an illns and short, won't be treated as such. There are many, many gay people all sorts of muni, and there are many people there for you when you need support. Fd a group or a hangout where you feel fortable, and where there will be other gay people to talk wh.
If you were raised an environment that owns on homosexualy, you are not worth any ls. The laws the Bible were maly for health purpos - shunng homosexualy is right next to not gettg tattoos, not eatg pork, and not wearg mixed lens, but you n bet your bottom dollar all your neighbors do those thgs. Your iends and fay love "you, " not straight you or gay you, they love you.
Unrstand that a person who is gay is no different om any other person. Like everyone else, gay people have dreams and goals and want pannship and love jt like anyone else you know.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
If you are the USA, there is the Gay-Straight Alliance. What if my whole fay is agast homosexualy? I don't want to e out bee my siblgs may get bullied for havg a gay brother.
It is important to note that the Amerin Psychologil Associatn has clared that groups claimg to cure homosexualy are dangero and unhealthy.
If you are still beg supported by parents whom you are que sure would disown you for beg gay, may be pnt to wa to tell them until you are pennt. You may regret the acceptance of your orientatn the future, pecially if you're a part of the world where the gay muny is beg prosecuted by a specific culture. Article SummaryXIf you stggle wh acceptg your attractn to the same sex, know that beg gay is pletely normal and you n be proud of who you are by fdg support and embracg your dividualy.
WHY DO SOME CHRISTIANS BELIEVE ’S OK TO BE GAY, WHEN THE BIBLE SAYS ISN’T?
It’s also important to unrstand that you don’t need to nform to gay stereotyp or tl, as they are artificial social nstcts. So many gay men grow up believg there is somethg “wrong” wh bee we are different om other supposedly “normal” mal. It’s not surprisg that a term like “straight-actg” shows up so often gay men’s onle personal ads.
AM I GAY?
It prumably means the advertiser nsirs himself a “real” man—real, that is, acrdg to a standard of masculy he don’t attribute to other gay men.
WHY GAY IS NOT OK
So many gay men learn we are different om other boys by havg the fact poted out and ridiculed by bulli durg our young, most imprsnable, years. As every gay man knows who has been sulted or asslted for his actual or perceived sexual orientatn, there are steep penalti for vlatg the Boy Co as there are for anyone who is “different” om the prumed (typilly whe, heterosexual, middle-class) standard. How do a gay kid survive the trma he suffers for beg different a culture that still nmns his difference as somethg bad or “ls-than” and wants to mold him to the same shape tri to mold every boy?
Robert Pollack says the most important thg a fay n do to support their gay son is to keep lovg him, “to nvey to him, as soon as he shar his feelgs, that he is still loved through and through, that his sexual orientatn will not any way dimish how much he is admired and rpected.
He needs to know that ’s okay not only to be gay if that's what he is, but to be a man who choos what beg a man means for himself. Fortunately there is a long history of gay men who bucked the accepted fns of masculy and created liv that exprsed their unrstandg of themselv and how they choose to exprs their inty as men who don’t necsarily f tradnal molds.