Gay Relatnships Can Be More Stable Than Straight On | Psychology Today

Contents:

• GAY LOVE, STRAIGHT SENSE
• GAY RELATNSHIPS CAN BE MORE STABLE THAN STRAIGHT ON
• GAY OR STRAIGHT, LOVE IS LOVE WHEN TO MEMORI
• ARE YOU GAY OR STRAIGHT?
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

GAY LOVE, STRAIGHT SENSE

LZ GranrsonThe myth of the gay agenda17 mut 34 sendsIn a funny talk wh an urgent msage, LZ Granrson pots out the absurdy the ia that there's a "gay liftyle, " much ls a "gay agenda.

Wh fect joy, Tiq and Kim qutn our misnceptns about who they might be and offer a visn of an clive, challengg love that grows day by Tillett WrightFifty shas of gay18 mut 1 sendiO Tillett Wright has photographed 2, 000 people who nsir themselv somewhere on the LGBTQ spectm -- and asked many of them: Can you assign a percentage to how gay or straight you are?

GAY RELATNSHIPS CAN BE MORE STABLE THAN STRAIGHT ON

Most people, turns out, nsir themselv to exist the gray areas of sexualy, not 100% gay or straight.

Yoba RichenWhat the gay rights movement learned om the civil rights movement17 mut 28 sendsAs a member of both the Ain Amerin and LGBT muni, filmmaker Yoba Richen is fascated wh the overlaps and tensns between the gay rights and the civil rights movements.

Jok Church tells a short, movg story of the teacher who sheltered him as a young gay teen and helped him grow -- and how, many years later, he and his partner had the privilege of returng the favor. ” — Edgar Allan PoeRELATED: Why Havg A Csh On Your Friends Is Much Harr When You're Gay11.

GAY OR STRAIGHT, LOVE IS LOVE WHEN TO MEMORI

“Equaly is the prime rib of Ameri, but bee I’m gay, I don’t get to enjoy the greatt cut of meat my untry has to offer.

“Whether we’re gay or straight don’t matter. “You don’t have to be gay to be a supporter you jt have to be human. “The Lord is my Shepherd and he knows I’m gay.

Comg of age wh “a very nfed inty, ” wrer Andrew Solomon was certa he had to make a choice between creatg a fay and beg gay. The margalizatn that attend growg up homosexual saw ank exprsn Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Inty, his 2012 exploratn of how parents raise children who are markedly different om themselv any one of a number of ways. ” He now liv openly as a gay spoe and father.

ARE YOU GAY OR STRAIGHT?

Gay men and lbian women typilly report siarly tortured experienc reckong wh their own sexualy, nstantly lculatg the sts of hidg or revealg one of the most fg arcs of beg, self-policg their behavr for mannerisms that might betray their clatns before they themselv are prepared to acknowledge them. It’s a ttament to urage that so many eventually do, spe the possibily of rejectn om those clost to them and a self-hatred ternalized om a wir culture that still often revil homosexualy.

For Solomon, as for many gay men and lbian women, the very stggle to be and to love on their own terms is reemg.

Straight or gay, we all have a sire to be eply known, yet often fear that some private flaw mak ultimately unlovable.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

Some, however, reflect the unique social legacy of homosexual partnerships. And some stem om doublg, the pound dose of a sgle genr, which sometim brgs out the bt partners (emotnal openns among lbians)—and sometim the worst (domance stggl between gay men, emotnal enmhment lbians). When partners don’t have to divi up rol by genr, they are also ee to share rol, and many gay upl do, reports Boston psychologist Richard Miller.

Lbian partners are pecially apt to work as a team, says Maya Kollman, a New Jersey–based therapist whose practice clus both gay and straight upl. Add to that the fiance assumg a stigmatized sexual inty and a claratn of homosexualy be an act of sexual liberatn, as “we n have whatever sex we want. “Our sexual IQ is bigger, ” says psychologist Joe Kort, who teach at the Universy of Michigan and se both heterosexual and homosexual upl his clil practice.