New iends, old iends. Good iends, bad iends. Straight iends, dnk iends, unreliable iends. Gay iends. “Tell me who your iends are and I tell you who you are.” I don’t see what's really the big al? I never red if my iends were gay or straight, male or female, as long as we were…
Contents:
- GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
- ARE YOU A GAY MAN WH MOSTLY STRAIGHT FRIENDS?
- WHY HAVE ALL MY BOYIENDS TURNED GAY?
- WHY ALL MY IENDS ARE GAY?
- SCIENTISTS MAY HAVE FALLY UNLOCKED PUZZLE OF WHY PEOPLE ARE GAY
- WHY ARE ALL MY FRIENDS GAY?
GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
Heterosexual and gay men n heal and grow as a rult of their iendships. * all my friends are gay guys *
Sex the Cy, Will and Grace), though a lot ls has been said about how gay and straight men regnize and negotiate the distct challeng, plitns, and rewards of their iendships. Acrdg to Garfield, among the many obstacl to male-male platonic timacy, fear of homosexualy looms large. Straight men et that if they get too close, others will see them as gay; which their mds means feme (horrors!
S., before there was such a thg as a gay inty, some straight men would, wh ltle shame, engage sexual ntact wh other men (ually allowg themselv to be fellated) when female partners were otherwise unavailable (see Gee Chncey’s semal book, Gay New York: Genr, Urban Culture, and the Makg of the Gay Male World 1890-1940) and there is good reason to believe this still occurs other untri and cultur. The mid 20th century this behavr beme associated wh gay inty, new at the time and seen as crimal and then sick.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
There are lots of reasons why you might want to know if your iend is gay. There are some important thgs that you have to unrstand about this suatn before gog forward, however. Someone's sexualy is highly plex and highly... * all my friends are gay guys *
As a rult of this behavr-inty lk, sexual ngrs between gay and straight men creased nsirably, or at least went unrground. Gay men have suffered physil, social, and psychologil abe at the hands of heterosexually intified mal who, thanks to homophobia and heterosexism, felt fully jtified flictg the terrors.
This legacy of vlence, both physil and psychologil, flicted by straight men toward those of who are gay naturally fuels our utn and distst at the thought of beiendg them.
ARE YOU A GAY MAN WH MOSTLY STRAIGHT FRIENDS?
Until Augt last year, I’d pretty much been back to back relatnships for the prev seven years. The guys I dated varied height, race, age, style and personaly. But one thg lked them together. What? Almost all turned out to be gay. And the few that weren’t would rather sleep their jeans * all my friends are gay guys *
As turns out, the gay iend worried that if he hugged too closely his iend would thk he was g on to him. For the straight guy, iendship wh a gay man offers the opportuny to learn important lsons about masculy, male inty, sexual orientatn, and diversy. As the quote go: You n never have too many iends—and iendships between gay and straight guys n be healg and uniquely satisfyg for all volved.
For example, his fay may be vlently homophobic and by cidg that he's gay, you may out him by accint by treatg him different or implyg somethg whout meang to. If you're tryg to figure out if your iend is gay bee you want to date him (as a woman), 's important to remember that jt bee he might be terted men don't mean he's not terted women.
WHY HAVE ALL MY BOYIENDS TURNED GAY?
* all my friends are gay guys *
One of the theori about why some people are gay has to do wh the hormon that they're exposed to before they're born.
The hormone exposure levels may manift actual, physil ways which n be a vague ditor that a guy might be gay.
WHY ALL MY IENDS ARE GAY?
Theory: Lbians get om their fathers, gay men om their mothers. * all my friends are gay guys *
It is possible that your guy iend is not gay but stead falls somewhere else on the Ksey sle of unirns and awomens. Although some people the gay culture may put on a certa voice or a way of speakg, your iend talkg a siar or "effemate" way is still not a very good way to judge. Everyone n enjoy different thgs; jt like a woman might enjoy watchg football, guys n also enjoy thgs that are more monly associated wh women or the gay muny.
The movi he watch and the mic he listens to are also not fair methods to gge if he is straight or gayer than Elton John and Gee Takei put together.
There's the stereotype that if a guy is a good drser or if he spends a bunch of time on his hair, he's gay. Sometim you might assume that jt bee a guy only hangs out wh girls or jt bee his bt iend also seems gay, then he might also be gay.
SCIENTISTS MAY HAVE FALLY UNLOCKED PUZZLE OF WHY PEOPLE ARE GAY
Subtly brg up subjects that show him that you're okay wh your iends beg gay and that he don't need to hi his nature around you.
You n talk about another iend that is gay or even jt about someone hypothetilly g out if you don't know someone who's gay. Say somethg like, "You know you're stuck wh me as a iend no matter what, but I jt have to ask bee I don't want to make assumptns and e to the wrong nclns: are you gay?
Article SummaryXTo tell if your guy iend is gay, notice whether he refers to other guys as attractive, which uld be a sign that he’s gay.
WHY ARE ALL MY FRIENDS GAY?
Pay attentn to how much he talks about women a romantic or sexual way, sce a lack of tert women uld suggt he’s gay.
I ma the greatt iendships of my life durg high school and universy when I was closeted and have kept them to this day now that I'm livg as a mostly openly gay man. I've picked up a few gay buddi a long the way, but my clost iends rema my straight bt iends om a while Anonymoreply 4Febary 8, 2019 9:03 AM. A homosexual ually will not even speak to another homosexual unls she wants to have sex, eher now or later.