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Contents:

• WHAT’S WRONG WH BEG “GAY”? HERE’S WHAT THEY DON’T TELL YOU -- AND ’S REALLY DISTURBG.
• IS WRONG TO BE GAY?
• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
• MAP SHOWS WHERE IT’S ILLEGAL TO BE GAY – 30 YEARS SCE WHO DECLASSIFIED HOMOSEXUALY AS DISEASE
• IS BEG GAY A S?
• WHY GAY IS NOT OK

WHAT’S WRONG WH BEG “GAY”? HERE’S WHAT THEY DON’T TELL YOU -- AND ’S REALLY DISTURBG.

Homophobia Is a Real Fear … but of What, Exactly?

IS WRONG TO BE GAY?

To be a homophobe 2014 is, creasgly, to fd onelf on the fast track to social srn. In an environment of growg acceptance, we nmn homophobic feelgs, particularly men, bee we thk they e om si the dividual and are th his full rponsibily. A man who says hateful thgs about gays is “backward.

” He’s protectg his social stat, or maybe he’s secretly gay himself. However, the ntued existence of homophobia—spe the obv downsis—rais qutns about s basic nature: Do psychologil theori like those above really expla why gayns, specifilly, evok such fear, the kd that n sometim even lead to vlent speech and actn? Do they acunt for why homophobia is such an easy bulwark agast mascule secury?

The only way to answer the qutns is to stop thkg of homophobia as a personal choice and unrstand as the evable and liberate rult of the culture which Amerin men are raised.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

Clearly, men Ameri have grown up learng to be sred of gayns. Put another way, the zero-tolerance le means that if a man mak one “wrong” move—kiss another man a moment of dnken fun, say—he is immediately assumed to be gay.

Once young men realize they are gay, they bee A Gay Person. We don’t hear about gay men disverg an tert women later life, and we rarely believe men when they say they are bisexual—the mon, if erroneo, wisdom is that any man who says he is bi is really jt gay and hasn’t admted yet.

The rult of all this is that men are not allowed “plex” sexuali; once the prumptn of straightns has been shattered, a du is tomatilly gay. Ined, such erasure is sry even if homosexualy self isn’t a bad thg.

MAP SHOWS WHERE IT’S ILLEGAL TO BE GAY – 30 YEARS SCE WHO DECLASSIFIED HOMOSEXUALY AS DISEASE

Even if relign and Esquire didn’t teach men to be sred of each other’s bodi, they would still be aaid of the way a bsh wh gayns n so sudnly erase the rt of their sexualy. High-schoolers acce each other, their activi, and even objects of beg gay wh precisely the zero-tolerance attu that they themselv are navigatg.

The gam aren’t jt ground disgt wh homosex; they are playg out exactly what society has tght men about heterosexualy: One wrong move, and you’ll be permanently marked.

Homophobia, then, is precisely a fear, and one that the men are not at all foolish for entertag. It has bee accepted wisdom most pole circl – as well as schools, ernment, rporate Ameri, and certaly the popular culture – that homosexual behavr is a normal and natural variatn of life. An creasg amount of state and feral money is beg spent on “gay” diseas, health issu, and programs to unter “gay” domtic vlence.

IS BEG GAY A S?

The tth is that homosexual behavr is profoundly unhealthy, dangero, and unnatural. And as legns of ex-gays attt, homosexualy is not an born actual data – readily available and even observable – n be md-bogglg.

She wr, “In the 1970s, physicians were treatg the large number of ndns affectg the lower ttal tract of MSM unr the classifitn ‘gay bowel syndrome. In San Francis, cince of the “Gay Bowel Syndrome, ” as was lled medil journals, had creased by 8, 000 percent after 1973.

As Gabriel Rotello—thor of Sexual Elogy: AIDS and the Dty of Gay Men and founr of OutWeek Magaze—wrote, “sexual brotherhood of promiscuy … any abandonment of that promiscuy would amount to a munal betrayal of gargantuan proportns.

WHY GAY IS NOT OK

Rotello also said, “A stranger to gay culture, unaware of the realy of AIDS, might believe om much of the gay prs that HIV fectn was a sort of elixir that produced high self-teem, solved long-standg psychologil and substance abe problems, and enhanced physil appearance … creatg the subnsc imprsn that fectn—the ‘penalty’ of unsafe sex—is really not so bad after all. O’Leary wr, “Gay bars, gay bookstor, theaters, certa rort muni, and circu parti have tradnally provid venu where MSM uld engage var forms of sexual activy wh numero partners.

The awful fact is there are no sunny “gay” uplands. *MSM (men who have sex wh men) is the term ed the medil muny when discsg those who otherwise are lled gay or homosexual. And I am not, by any means gradg people who are gay by g a dog annalagy.

Luckily, if you choose to be gay, you will not be sentenced to ath like people ed to wayyyy back history. I like guys but I don’t want to be gay. How do I stop beg gay?