Dear Pnce: I’m a straight woman who married a gay man.

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• I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• 'I MARRIED A GAY MAN'
• HERE’S WHAT LIFE IS LIKE WHEN YOU’RE GAY BUT MARRY HETERO

I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN

He’s also always been hont about beg gay and has never hidn om me. Our son took the news very well and don’t re that his father was gay.

I’ve asked my hband about , and he nfirms that he’s gay, not bisexual.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

I have doubts that he might leave me someday for a gay relatnship like he did his ex-wife. Would you nsir him bisexual or gay?

I thk your hband que clearly nsirs himself gay, which is far more relevant to your marriage than my asssment of his sense of self. The qutn of how he se his gayns relatn to his two marriag to women, specifilly his current marriage to you, is both more salient and open-end, so I’d suggt you start by askg him to share more of his thoughts on the subject wh you. That will get you a lot further than tryg to figure out if your hband is “really” bisexual (and, implicly, whether that means you n safely hope he won’t leave you for someone else) or “really” gay (and, implicly, whether you have to fear that he’s gog to break up wh you for another man).

” His gayns isn’t somethg you n ntralize by beg a sufficiently good or extra-lovg wife. Sometim a woman may have been a heterosexual relatnship for years and yet feel somethg is somehow "off;" and she may fd herself askg, "Is my hband gay?

'I MARRIED A GAY MAN'

" Many women fd this qutn unthkable but acrdg to Bonnie Kaye,, an expert women married to gay men, is timated that 4 ln women have been, or are, married to gay men. If a hband is gay, n vastate not only the relatnship but the straight wife as well.

Signs of a Gay Hband – Is My Man Gay? The cleart way to know if your hband is gay is if he tells you.

If the hband is hont wh both you and wh himself (read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you n tly know that he is gay. Unfortunately, is timated that 50% of gay hbands hi their homosexualy om their wiv and don't reach this place of honty on their own.

HERE’S WHAT LIFE IS LIKE WHEN YOU’RE GAY BUT MARRY HETERO

In many s, is the wife, who after spectg that somethg is wrong, mt nont the gay hband wh the evince, and only then n hontly be achieved.

But if you're wonrg, "Is my man gay, " might be helpful to know that there are signs to look for, acrdg to Kaye. Kaye has veloped the Official Gay Hband Checklist to help women know if their hbands are gay. Signs Your Hband or Man May Be Gay.