‘In gay years, you’re rather past your sell-by date, aren’t you?’ the person ont of me said, raisg an eyebrow.
Contents:
- AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
- THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN
- 6 - SEX AND OLR GAY MEN
- I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN
- GAY OLD MEN AND BOYS VIOS
AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
* gay older men and younger men *
Many quiri I have received over and over aga through the years beg somethg like this: “I've always liked olr men, but many gay iends close to my age are cril of me and spic of my motiv. ” One young man said to me, “If I see a handsome gay man my age, he might jt as well have a vaga.
Var labels have been ascribed to tergeneratnal upl, whether straight, gay or bisexual: tergeneratnal, age-gap, age-discrepant, or, more often than not, “May-December” relatnships.
Inially, I was unnvced the relatnships were ser, but that was bee I held stereotypil views: an olr gay man who was lookg for a trophy-mate and has the money to take re of his boy toy and a younger man who was lookg for a sugar daddy.
THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN
I now regnize this as a hackneyed ia that furiat men age-gap gay relatnships. Based on the number of tim this qutn drops to my mailbox, the reasons for the age-discrepant attractns nsum a great al of bandwidth the thoughts of a lot of young gay and bisexual men. Was pletg his doctoral dissertatn, “May-December: Navigatg Life as an Intergeneratnal Gay Couple, ” he thoroughly rearched what proved to be the limed available lerature on tergeneratnal upl.
They nsir discrimatn a part of beg gay. Their work will fort men the double jeopardy of beg both gay and lovg someone much olr or younger.
6 - SEX AND OLR GAY MEN
Gass is a gay man whose only sexual attractn is to men signifintly olr than he is. The younger men have more tert sports than their partners and their gay peers who are attracted to men their own age. The younger men tend to be more mascule than their gay peers who are attracted to men their own age.
I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN
He wrote, “I stggle more to expla my attractn to olr gay men to my gay iends than I do to my straight iends. ” No one has llected reliable statistics, but age dispary seems to occur more equently gay relatnships than heterosexual on. But the se of a celebry, the tabloid headl the labels may be ed sensatnalistic ways, or even clu more vilently homophobic nam like pedophile and predatory pervert.
” I was once asked by a young gay man, “Why did you e out at 40? But the gay upl may be far more sexually active than many same-sex upl. It has been suggted that satisfyg sex nnot occur whout wet kiss and swellg ans, which rc gay sexualy to nothg more than sex, and impli that olr men are pable of havg erectns.
GAY OLD MEN AND BOYS VIOS
One recurrg qutn remas: “How n a man have a mutually satisfyg sex life wh a wife and then have a sudn revelatn that he’s gay? Don’t this ntradict the ia that gay people are ‘born this way’? I don’t believe we have a choice about our sexual attractns, but gay men and women—jt as any heterosexual person—have a choice about how they rpond to sexual sire.
Sayg “I am gay” is a statement that our attractns, our behavr, and our self-inty are unison, and when that happens—if ever do— suggts a willgns to proclaim our sexualy regardls of the nsequenc. IntroductnAt the heart of this chapter are the stori of 11 gay men, aged 43–71, who spoke about adventuro sexual enunters wh strangers. Both narrativ clud evince of the effects of ageism and loss, how the are exprsed, and, le wh the work of Simpson (2015), how they n be chapter rts on stori appearg across three books that the thor has wrten on gay men's life stori and which foc on age and ageg.