"Navigatg my own queerns early on whout gay iends was a mostly futile effort" wr GQ ntributor Rob LeDonne.
Contents:
- HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS: AN LBGT FRIENDSHIP GUI
- GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
- HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS
- ARE STRAIGHT GUYS FORTABLE HAVG GAY IENDS?
- SHOULD A CHRISTIAN HAVE GAY IENDS?
- I THOUGHT I DIDN'T NEED GAY FRIENDS; I WAS WRONG
- MEETG YOUR FIRST GAY FRIEND
HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS: AN LBGT FRIENDSHIP GUI
Could gay guys be the ultimate wg men for their straight, male iends? * do you have any gay friends *
For a long time, iendships between gay men and straight men – what some now ll “bromosexual” iendships – were unmon. Homophobia was likely one reason; another was that straight men probably assumed they didn’t have much mon wh gay men.
Specifilly, we’re terted lookg at the reasons gay men and straight men bee iends (or rema iends after the gay iend out).
GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
Heterosexual and gay men n heal and grow as a rult of their iendships. * do you have any gay friends *
We currently have a survey vtigatn unrway that explor some of the posive out of “bromosexual” iendships, cludg our theory that gay men and straight men n be optimal wg men for one another. Friendships between gay and straight men have always existed.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
There are lots of reasons why you might want to know if your iend is gay. There are some important thgs that you have to unrstand about this suatn before gog forward, however. Someone's sexualy is highly plex and highly... * do you have any gay friends *
Many straight men hated to beiend gay men, fearg harassment, rejectn om their straight iends or beg lled gay. The growg acceptance of homosexualy, however, has allayed some of the fears. Gay men – particularly those nservative and ral environments – rema wary about tryg to beiend straight men, fearg prejudice-fueled rejectn.
HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS
Every time you attend a Pri March, ftival or cent Gay Club Night, you may have noticed jt how many fellow queers live your cy. The qutn is how to fd them outsi of the special events? Follow the steps to extend your... * do you have any gay friends *
At the same time, many straight men still doubt that they’ll be able to relate to gay men any meangful way and, for this reason, may not try to iate a iendship. Of urse, the tradnal notn that gay men and straight men nnot be close iends is herently homophobic and unte.
We propose gay-straight male iendships are not only possible, but that they n grow to be extremely rewardg.
If they’re open-md about beiendg gay men and make the effort to try to fe iendships based upon mon terts, gay men should feel more fortable reciprotg.
ARE STRAIGHT GUYS FORTABLE HAVG GAY IENDS?
Should a Christian have gay iends? What should be the relatnship between Christians and homosexuals? * do you have any gay friends *
So which straight men are the most likely to beiend gay men, and vice versa?
SHOULD A CHRISTIAN HAVE GAY IENDS?
We know that gay men are now g out at an earlier age.
Gay men who disclose their sexual orientatn to their straight male iends earlier life may be able to build more open and hont iendships wh them to adulthood. Send, recent rearch has argued that genr and sexual orientatn might not be as black and whe as prevly thought, which opens up new avenu for explorg how gay and straight men n relate to one another. If a straight guy and his gay male iend are ls rigid about their masculy and sexualy, they’ll probably be more likely to discs tails about their sexual and romantic liv openly wh one another.
Recent rearch has suggted that advice sharg uld be a ccial reason that straight women seek out gay men as iends. In short, women are able to tst the datg advice om gay male iends bee they know their gay iends don’t have any ulterr motiv: They’re not tryg to hook up wh them or pete wh them for guys. We believe that this same sort of unbiased advice sharg might also foster iendships between gay and straight men.
I THOUGHT I DIDN'T NEED GAY FRIENDS; I WAS WRONG
Bee of the tst they engenr om straight women, gay men are uniquely posned to be excellent “wg men” for sgle straight men. However, straight women do tend to tst the datg advice of gay men (pecially more than advice om straight men or women). Acrdgly, straight men uld get a leg up datg om beg close iends wh gay men.
For example, a gay iend uld vouch for his straight iend’s good tentns to women. Straight men who are fortable wh their sexualy may also act as wg men for gay male iends.
Jt as a gay man might be able to pass on advice about women to his straight iend, a straight man uld nnect his gay male iend wh another sirable gay man, sce neher the gay man nor his straight iend are petg for the same person.
MEETG YOUR FIRST GAY FRIEND
We believe that havg a tstworthy nfidant to help wh romantic pursus is one of the major reasons straight and gay men are leavg the fort of their same-sex, same-orientatn iend groups to form “bromosexual” iendships. So how do you make gay iends? In some of my most sperate hours for gay bondg, I’ve attend LGBTQ+-themed therapy groups my area.
Outsi of LGBTQ+-specific meetups, a great way to fd LGBT iendships is actually by attendg meetups that gay people typilly like. This all got me thkg about my own iendships and those of my gay male clients.
The bonds between gay men and straight women have been wrten about and featured popular media (i.