"Navigatg my own queerns early on whout gay iends was a mostly futile effort" wr GQ ntributor Rob LeDonne.
Contents:
- HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY
- HOW TO TELL A FRIEND YOU'RE GAY AND YOU LOVE THEM
- HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
- AM I GAY?
- I THOUGHT I DIDN'T NEED GAY FRIENDS; I WAS WRONG
- GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
- CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY
Perhaps you have realized you are gay and that you have fallen love wh your iend. You have also probably realized that this is a lot to al wh! You may want to be hont wh your iend about your sexualy as well as your... * i have friends that are gay *
You may already know that your iend is gay, however, 's important to let them actually say to you. " If you want to talk about your iend to a parent or guardian, try askg "Would you be okay wh me mentng that you're gay to my parents if me up, or would you prefer that I keep quiet? Remember, beg gay don't change your iend's personaly.
If you then don't have the nvictn that beg gay is natural and good, you may want to rensir the iendship.
HOW TO TELL A FRIEND YOU'RE GAY AND YOU LOVE THEM
Are you qutng your sexualy? Fd out if you’re gay, straight, bisexual, or asexual. Learn what the terms mean and if they apply to you. * i have friends that are gay *
Maybe you're over the moon and you'll not only march gay pri paras, but you want to anise some right now! Acceptance n make a huge different the liv of LGBTQIA (Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgenr, Queer, Intersex, and Asexual) people.
Your gay iend will need all the support he or she n get. Article SummaryXIt might e as a b of a shock to fd out your bt iend is gay, but by supportg them and givg yourself time to get ed to , your iendship n be jt like was. It probably took a lot of urage for your iend to e out as gay, so tell them that you accept them for who they are to be a good iend.
HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
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You should also avoid tellg anyone else that your iend is gay, sce should be their cisn who knows. Perhaps you have realized you are gay and that you have fallen love wh your iend. Before you share the romantic feelgs you have toward your iend, you want your iend to know that you are gay.
It is bt to jt e right out and say : “Matt, I’m gay” or “Hey, I jt wanted to let you know that I’m gay. If you haven’t already, is a good ia to tell others that you are gay, too, bis jt your iend.
AM I GAY?
Could gay guys be the ultimate wg men for their straight, male iends? * i have friends that are gay *
You uld ask, “What would you do if you were gay and had a csh on your iend? After you tell your iend you’re gay, pay close attentn to their behavr when they’re around you for a while.
I THOUGHT I DIDN'T NEED GAY FRIENDS; I WAS WRONG
Heterosexual and gay men n heal and grow as a rult of their iendships. * i have friends that are gay *
Conversely, if you fd them movg away om you or not makg eye ntact, they still may be adjtg to you tellg them you’re gay. For example, “I have wanted to tell you for a long time, even before you knew I was gay, but I waed bee I didn’t want to drop all the bombshells on you at once.
The Way Out: The Gay Man’s Gui to Freedom Chris Nutter. Crisis: 40 Stori Revealg the Personal, Social, and Relig Pa and Trma of Growg Up Gay Ameri Mchell Gold and Mdy Dcker Greenleaf Book Group, LLC, 2008. The Velvet Rage: Overg the Pa of Growg Up Gay a Straight Man’s World Alan Downs Da Capo Prs, 2006.
Article SummaryXTellg a iend that you’re gay and you love them is somethg that you’ll want to do stag so you don’t overwhelm your iend. Most people the LGBTQ+ muny know om experience that acceptg your sexualy will lead to your beg a happier, more open this gui, the term gay has been ed to clu all forms of non-heterosexual attractn, whether that be people who are lbian, gay, bisexual, queer, pansexual, or otherwise not straight.
GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
Consir takg an onle sexualy quiz, like this one, to see if intifyg as gay feels right for you. There isn't any need to change yourself - beg gay is jt another way of simply existg, and there is nothg wrong wh at all.
CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
The fact that I am gay is jt another facet of who I am, jt as beg creative, or optimistic, or havg brown ey is. Remember that beg gay do not require you to nform to typil gay stereotyp.
Most people who are gay are distguishable om those that aren't.
Beg gay do not necsarily make you any ls mascule or feme, and there is no need or prsure to nform to stereotyp that don't feel right to you - bee you are who you are. You do not need to f to the gay muny jt as much as you don't need to f to the straight muny. In 100 years, "gay" will be an entirely different ncept.