Gay Men and Straight Men as Friends | Psychology Today

Contents:

• HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY
• HOW TO TELL A FRIEND YOU'RE GAY AND YOU LOVE THEM
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• AM I GAY?
• I THOUGHT I DIDN'T NEED GAY FRIENDS; I WAS WRONG
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
• CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?

HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY

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HOW TO TELL A FRIEND YOU'RE GAY AND YOU LOVE THEM

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HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

It probably took a lot of urage for your iend to e out as gay, so tell them that you accept them for who they are to be a good iend.

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AM I GAY?

It is bt to jt e right out and say : “Matt, I’m gay” or “Hey, I jt wanted to let you know that I’m gay.

I THOUGHT I DIDN'T NEED GAY FRIENDS; I WAS WRONG

If you haven’t already, is a good ia to tell others that you are gay, too, bis jt your iend. You uld ask, “What would you do if you were gay and had a csh on your iend? After you tell your iend you’re gay, pay close attentn to their behavr when they’re around you for a while.

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For example, “I have wanted to tell you for a long time, even before you knew I was gay, but I waed bee I didn’t want to drop all the bombshells on you at once.

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

The Way Out: The Gay Man’s Gui to Freedom Chris Nutter.

Crisis: 40 Stori Revealg the Personal, Social, and Relig Pa and Trma of Growg Up Gay Ameri Mchell Gold and Mdy Dcker Greenleaf Book Group, LLC, 2008. The Velvet Rage: Overg the Pa of Growg Up Gay a Straight Man’s World Alan Downs Da Capo Prs, 2006.

CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?

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Consir takg an onle sexualy quiz, like this one, to see if intifyg as gay feels right for you. There isn't any need to change yourself - beg gay is jt another way of simply existg, and there is nothg wrong wh at all. The fact that I am gay is jt another facet of who I am, jt as beg creative, or optimistic, or havg brown ey is.

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