"Navigatg my own queerns early on whout gay iends was a mostly futile effort" wr GQ ntributor Rob LeDonne.
Contents:
- HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY
- HOW TO TELL A FRIEND YOU'RE GAY AND YOU LOVE THEM
- HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
- AM I GAY?
- I THOUGHT I DIDN'T NEED GAY FRIENDS; I WAS WRONG
- GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
- CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY
Perhaps you have realized you are gay and that you have fallen love wh your iend. You have also probably realized that this is a lot to al wh! You may want to be hont wh your iend about your sexualy as well as your... * i have friends that are gay *
You may already know that your iend is gay, however, 's important to let them actually say to you. " If you want to talk about your iend to a parent or guardian, try askg "Would you be okay wh me mentng that you're gay to my parents if me up, or would you prefer that I keep quiet? Remember, beg gay don't change your iend's personaly.
If you then don't have the nvictn that beg gay is natural and good, you may want to rensir the iendship. Maybe you're over the moon and you'll not only march gay pri paras, but you want to anise some right now! Acceptance n make a huge different the liv of LGBTQIA (Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgenr, Queer, Intersex, and Asexual) people.
Your gay iend will need all the support he or she n get. Article SummaryXIt might e as a b of a shock to fd out your bt iend is gay, but by supportg them and givg yourself time to get ed to , your iendship n be jt like was.
HOW TO TELL A FRIEND YOU'RE GAY AND YOU LOVE THEM
Are you qutng your sexualy? Fd out if you’re gay, straight, bisexual, or asexual. Learn what the terms mean and if they apply to you. * i have friends that are gay *
It probably took a lot of urage for your iend to e out as gay, so tell them that you accept them for who they are to be a good iend.
You should also avoid tellg anyone else that your iend is gay, sce should be their cisn who knows. Perhaps you have realized you are gay and that you have fallen love wh your iend. Before you share the romantic feelgs you have toward your iend, you want your iend to know that you are gay.
HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
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It is bt to jt e right out and say : “Matt, I’m gay” or “Hey, I jt wanted to let you know that I’m gay. If you haven’t already, is a good ia to tell others that you are gay, too, bis jt your iend. You uld ask, “What would you do if you were gay and had a csh on your iend?
After you tell your iend you’re gay, pay close attentn to their behavr when they’re around you for a while.
AM I GAY?
Could gay guys be the ultimate wg men for their straight, male iends? * i have friends that are gay *
Conversely, if you fd them movg away om you or not makg eye ntact, they still may be adjtg to you tellg them you’re gay.
For example, “I have wanted to tell you for a long time, even before you knew I was gay, but I waed bee I didn’t want to drop all the bombshells on you at once. The Way Out: The Gay Man’s Gui to Freedom Chris Nutter. Crisis: 40 Stori Revealg the Personal, Social, and Relig Pa and Trma of Growg Up Gay Ameri Mchell Gold and Mdy Dcker Greenleaf Book Group, LLC, 2008.
The Velvet Rage: Overg the Pa of Growg Up Gay a Straight Man’s World Alan Downs Da Capo Prs, 2006. Article SummaryXTellg a iend that you’re gay and you love them is somethg that you’ll want to do stag so you don’t overwhelm your iend.
I THOUGHT I DIDN'T NEED GAY FRIENDS; I WAS WRONG
Heterosexual and gay men n heal and grow as a rult of their iendships. * i have friends that are gay *
Most people the LGBTQ+ muny know om experience that acceptg your sexualy will lead to your beg a happier, more open this gui, the term gay has been ed to clu all forms of non-heterosexual attractn, whether that be people who are lbian, gay, bisexual, queer, pansexual, or otherwise not straight. Consir takg an onle sexualy quiz, like this one, to see if intifyg as gay feels right for you. There isn't any need to change yourself - beg gay is jt another way of simply existg, and there is nothg wrong wh at all.
The fact that I am gay is jt another facet of who I am, jt as beg creative, or optimistic, or havg brown ey is. Remember that beg gay do not require you to nform to typil gay stereotyp.
Most people who are gay are distguishable om those that aren't. Beg gay do not necsarily make you any ls mascule or feme, and there is no need or prsure to nform to stereotyp that don't feel right to you - bee you are who you are.
GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
You do not need to f to the gay muny jt as much as you don't need to f to the straight muny.
In 100 years, "gay" will be an entirely different ncept. There is no evince that "helpg gay people to bee heterosexual" is possible. Homosexualy is not viewed as an illns and short, won't be treated as such.
There are many, many gay people all sorts of muni, and there are many people there for you when you need support. Fd a group or a hangout where you feel fortable, and where there will be other gay people to talk wh.
CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
If you were raised an environment that owns on homosexualy, you are not worth any ls. The laws the Bible were maly for health purpos - shunng homosexualy is right next to not gettg tattoos, not eatg pork, and not wearg mixed lens, but you n bet your bottom dollar all your neighbors do those thgs.
Your iends and fay love "you, " not straight you or gay you, they love you. Unrstand that a person who is gay is no different om any other person. Like everyone else, gay people have dreams and goals and want pannship and love jt like anyone else you know.
If you are the USA, there is the Gay-Straight Alliance. I don't want to e out bee my siblgs may get bullied for havg a gay brother.