When Gay Men (Mis)Marry Straight Women: Bonnie Kaye's Story | Psychology Today

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When a straight woman marri a gay man, what do she experience?

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WHAT'S THE AL WH STRAIGHT GIRLS FLIRTG WH GAY GUYS?

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I recently spoke wh Bonnie Kaye, thor of Straight Wiv, Shattered Liv: Stori of Women wh Gay Hbands, among other books, and host of Bonnie Kaye’s Straight Wiv Talk Show on BlogTalkRad. Bonnie has spent much of her adult life first livg wh and attemptg to love a gay hband and then helpg other women the same mis-marriage suatn.

Bee I know untls gay men who were once married to straight women, wh varyg gre of short and longer-term happs and misery, I wanted to discs this topic, and I wanted to do so om the straight wiv’ perspective. Our discsn was wi-rangg, begng wh her own marriage to a gay man and progrsg to how she was able to move on post-marriage, eventually beg a rock for other women siar suatns. So if somebody told me they’d tried somethg but they didn’t like , there would be no reason for me to thk that the person was gay.

WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY

But I certaly didn’t want to marry a gay man. He was a karate teacher, martial arts, a strong guy, looked like Sylvter Stallone, and gay was not one of the issu I thought about wh him.

There were issu wh him om the start, but nothg to make me thk that he might be gay.

Then somebody who was part of my social work rmed me, a uple of weeks before we were supposed to get married, that he had spicns that Robert was gay. I thought, “How uld he be gay?

WHAT'S THE SCIENCE BEHD STRAIGHT WOMEN LIKG GAY MEN?

Gay men have gaydar. The bottom le is, he was actively gay.

Beg gay back then was really hard. I had a lot of gay iends California. On the east ast where we were, beg gay was still really hidn.

There were a lot of obstacl to beg gay. Then, wh the AIDS epimic, a lot of men who were gay felt as if they uld be straight, was a good time to be straight.

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