Is Your Dad Gay—or Are You a Gay Dad? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?
• THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN
• GAY MEN AND THEIR FATHERS: HURT AND HEALG

IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?

Are you a dghter whose dad is gay? Or are you a gay dad? gay: 1.

Most children whose dads are gay were born while their blogil mom and blogil dad were married and livg together. If you have a gay dad or a lbian mom, after they separate, which of them is most likely to remarry or to remarry and then divorce?

Lbian moms are more likely than gay dads to marry their same-sex partner. But gay dads are ls likely to get divorced om their hbands than lbian moms are to get divorced om their wiv. Gay men may experience more discrimatn than lbians, pecially if they are parents.

THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN

Our society is still ls acceptg of gay men beg fathers than of lbians beg mothers. But perhaps the most important rearch fdg is that gay dads and their dghters have closer relatnships when dads tell the tth—and the dads are ls clilly prsed than dads who hi this important rmatn om their children (Tornello, 2018).

Sadly, gay fathers are more aaid than lbian mothers to tell their children the tth, regardls of their age. So if you as a dghter or as a gay dad are still tiptoeg around the topic, ’s time to give yourselv a gift by gettg this skeleton out of the closet. (2018) Adult children of gay fathers.

Journal of Homosexualy, 65, 1152-1166. Do Your Father Hunger Make You Gay? From the ffee shop to the rearch lab, people have been tryg to figure out why men are gay for years.

GAY MEN AND THEIR FATHERS: HURT AND HEALG

Are people born gay or do the feelgs velop over time?

It's still a mystery, but that don't stop rearchers and laymen alike om askg if our environments are to blame, as if beg gay is an afflictn that needs to be solved like a cycle of psychologists and ex-gay therapy groups often throw the claim that gay men long for other men out of a subnsc need to nnect wh an absent or lackg father. Acrdg to theori, this "father hunger" is so strong that gay men ny their "natural" attractns and head toward the boy's room.

Let me answer before I'm misquoted (aga) by anti-gay groups: Not a chance! Real's work foc maly on male-female relatnships, but his study of straight men and father issu is key to knockg back claims that fatherls environments -- both leral and figurative -- breed gay men. "It illtrat that straight men have problems wh their fathers siar to those that gay men face.