The gossips say that a woman’s boyiend is gay. Should her sister pass on those tal?
Contents:
- SO YOU THK YOUR SISTER’S BOYIEND IS GAY
- HELP! I THK MY SISTER--LAW’S BOYIEND IS GAY.
- SCED BY MY SISTER'S BOYIEND PART 1: A GAY TABOO EROTI STORY
- 17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
SO YOU THK YOUR SISTER’S BOYIEND IS GAY
* my sisters boyfriend is gay *
And I am happy for them, except for one thg: I am about 99 percent sure he is gay.
Now, I have no problem wh homosexualy, but you n unrstand my ncern. Before you say anythg hurtful to your sister, let’s take a peek at some of the (homophobic-adjacent) assumptns that you’ve ma on your (probably well-tentned) road to judgment. (Spare me your gaydar.
HELP! I THK MY SISTER--LAW’S BOYIEND IS GAY.
My name is Carter Stratton. I'm 19, and everyone thks I'm a good boy. I'm home om llege for the summer, and I have to follow all of my parents stupid l. But I'm young and rtls, and I have the urg stirrg wh me... gay urg. I feel so pent-up wh sexual tensn I thk I might… * my sisters boyfriend is gay *
News flash: He n still be problematic is the “gay panic” of your male iends, whose gossipy stori may rely on sendhand reports om still other men. Gay men and lbians have long been, and often still are, a persecuted mory.
) The ia that a gay man uld blhely and repeatedly “grab the crotch” of his straight horts is absurd. The one issue is that we thk he might be gay. I know his fay enuraged nversn therapy for gay people.
SCED BY MY SISTER'S BOYIEND PART 1: A GAY TABOO EROTI STORY
If you're readg this, there's a good chance you thk your boyiend might be gay. No doubt you're also feelg pretty nfed and wonrg how to al wh the suatn. It's a very sensive suatn to al wh, and you need to make sure you rpect his feelgs. But at the same time, you n't * my sisters boyfriend is gay *
We’ve never really discsed sexualy wh him, but he’s mentned beg a fan of stutns that hold anti-gay posns (and remend that young men wh “gay temptatns” get married and have children immediately, which is worryg). I’ve tried not to make assumptns jt bee he remds me of other gay men, but a few weeks ago my hband’s brother also said he thought he might be closeted.
He and I have both tried to talk to her over the years about some of her beliefs, but she don’t seem to thk ’s possible for a closeted person to date someone of the oppose sex—basilly that if you n “succsfully” get a girliend, you mt not be gay after all.
17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
If I thought her savvy enough to figure out that he may be gay on her own, I wouldn’t brg up. A: I don’t thk sayg “I thk your boyiend might be gay, bee he remds me of other men I’ve known who later me out” is eher kd or right, so you n cross that off the list.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
He may or may not be closeted, but fundamentalism reprs all sorts of sir people (cludg the sire to simply exprs one’s own sir whout judgment or self-loathg), and “your boyiend seems gay to me” isn’t rmatn your sister--law n do a lot wh. Where you and your hband do have grounds to talk to his sister about is his stated support of notorly homophobic anizatns. You two n state your objectns, ask for more tails about her posns, and remd her of your support for gay people and opposn to nversn therapy, not merely on the grounds of s efficy but also s celty.
That’s where the real opportuny to do good li, not tryg to nvce your sister--law that her boyiend might be gay. If you jt have a feelg that your brother is gay, that's okay.
If you thk your brother is gay bee he watch a "girly" TV show or his voice sounds a certa way, that's relyg on stereotyp. If you live a particularly homophobic or transphobic area, discs safety plans wh the fay member se of vlence om others. If your fay member has e out as gay or bisexual, accept that they will end up seeg someone of their own genr, and that's perfectly okay.