"That's So Gay" Is Jt So Wrong | Psychology Today

Contents:

• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• THE TE MEANG BEHD “THAT’S SO GAY”
• HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY
• THAT'S SO GAY
• AM I GAY?
• I'M GAY
• "THAT'S SO GAY" IS JT SO WRONG

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

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The phrase “that’s so gay” has tradnally been unrstood as homophobic. Stonewall argu that the phrase has a harmful effect on young lbian, gay and bisexual people’s tn and well-beg. Yet the ial fdgs om my terviews wh 40 gay youth om four universi suggts a more plex picture, wh no clear agreement on what the phrase means or s effects.

THE TE MEANG BEHD “THAT’S SO GAY”

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Yet several of them would also say “that’s so gay” when trated.

HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY

Given that labellg the stunts homophobic would be ridiculo, was val to nsir how they were g this language and the reasons why.

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Language has evolved and “gay” means somethg different to younger generatns particular ntexts.

THAT'S SO GAY

I argued that straight men’s e of phras like “that’s so gay” uld only be unrstood by three key factors: first, the tent wh which was said; send, the social ntext (homophobic or otherwise); and third, the effect had.

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AM I GAY?

This argument was supported by the narrativ of many of the 40 young gay people a study I am unrtakg wh lleagu at Durham Universy.

In the bat about “that’s so gay”, is important to regnise that gay youths also e the phrase.

I'M GAY

Only a mory of participants – ls than a third – thought that the phrase was homophobic, and even fewer said that they never ed .

Most of the young gay people my study felt “that’s so gay” would only be homophobic if was directed at a gay person, and wh negative tent. So there is no easy answer to whether “that’s so gay” is homophobic.

"THAT'S SO GAY" IS JT SO WRONG

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If young gay people are sayg that they do not experience the phrase “that’s so gay” as homophobic – and if they are even g the phrase themselv – then perhaps we should accept their arguments and ncentrate on other battl. It is val that we bat homophobia schools, and promote equaly of sexualy. But focg on the phrase “that’s so gay” is not the way to achieve that goal.