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Contents:
- HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
- I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
- THE SOLUTN TO "GAY" INSULTS: FREEDOM OF SPEECH
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
- HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
* acts gay but not gay *
So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual,” but chew the “gay” label.
Bee “gay” impli an embracg of the gay liftyle — gay bars, gay pri paras, perhaps multiple sex partners, or even anonymo sex.
I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
Do we need laws forbiddg the "gay" sult? * acts gay but not gay *
Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia. For example, gay men the Mormon fah are moral nflict.
THE SOLUTN TO "GAY" INSULTS: FREEDOM OF SPEECH
Durg the’90s, I beme a “gay-affirmative therapist.” That is, I prsured men—even relig men like this—to e out of the closet.
I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them. Beg a gay man, I was tryg to brg them to where I was at. Durg this time, a man don’t see himself as gay, only homosexual.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
The term gay is too affirmative, and they are not ready to accept .
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
I have treated many men who are of Mormon, Orthodox Jewish, Catholic, and other religns who thk of homosexualy as a pathology.