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i knew you were gay

I grew up the 1980s and 1990s. Depictns of gay people were not flatterg. It seemed to me and om what my mother told me (She was a public health nurse.), all gay men had AIDS. The very few gay men I knew did die of AIDS, though was rarely spoken about. Other…

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WHEN DID YOU REALIZE YOU WERE GAY?

* i knew you were gay *

Depictns of gay people were not flatterg. ), all gay men had AIDS. The very few gay men I knew did die of AIDS, though was rarely spoken about.

Other pictns of gay men were flamboyant queens, sissy effemate men, etc. Early on, I had hts I was gay, but I ignored them. He was my masturbatn material my teenage years, yet, I did not realize I was gay.

When I was llege, I wanted to learn more about beg gay, so I went to Barn and Noble. Not only did I know this is where a lot of gay men hung out, but B&N also had books on the subject. The first “gay” book I bought was Gvanni’s Room by Jam Baldw.

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Early gay fictn nearly always had tragic endgs.

This kept the realizatn I was gay at bay even longer. Slowly, however, I was g to the ncln I was fact gay.

I ASKED GUYS WHEN THEY FIRST KNEW THEY WERE GAY

I got some gay vios through the mail, and I read Brad Gooch’s Fdg the Boyiend Wh: A Practil Gui for Tappg to Your Own Source of Love, Happs, and Rpect. Yet, I still uldn’t adm to myself I was gay.

It was an ugly scene; I nied I was gay. From then on, she spected I was gay, and ma me go to the closet even further.

"I REALIZED I WAS GAY": MEN WHO CAME OUT LATER IN LIFE ARE SHARG WHAT IT WAS LIKE FOR THEM TO REVEAL THAT TTH AND LIVE AUTHENTILLY

I wasn’t about to adm I was gay at that pot. I don’t know which book I eventually read (I did a lot of readg on the subject of beg gay, and I have always been a nsummate rearcher.

I jt uldn’t be gay. I uldn’t be all the horrible thgs I had been lled growg up: fag, faggot, queer, homo, sissy, etc. That’s when the realizatn h that I might be gay.

Sometime 2001, I fally admted to myself I was gay. I was readg a lot about gay people. I joed InsightOut Book Club, a gay book-of-the-month club.

11 HISTORIL FIGUR YOU DIDN’T KNOW WERE GAY

Readg posive stori about gay people allowed me to realize I uld be gay, and, I uld be happy. Lately, Twter has had people postg when they realized they were gay. When did you realize you were gay?

It happens to be one of my favore morn gay art piec. Homosexuals of Redd, when did you realize you were gay? I n’t remember what was said, but was somethg along the l of “I always knew you were gay.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

By the time I had e out to my iends, I had met so many special, diverse people wh the LGBTQ muny, that his sgular unrstandg of what meant to be gay—which he eely applied to me even when I said I was bisexual—erased the nuance of queer inti. From the heteronormative perspective, any tert or actn that’s viewed as feme (for men) or mascule (for women) is a signifier that someone is gay. Is he gay?

And two, that type of rponse centers on the experience of the other person, rather than honorg the experience of the person who is g only te way to know if someone else is gay (or any other inty wh the LGBTQ muny) is for that person to tell you themselv.

WHEN DID YOU KNOW YOU WERE GAY?

It’s not until outsi factors like high school social prsure, relig tolerance and systemic homophobia e to play that the young people are led to believe those feelgs aren’t normal. I talked to a few of my gay iends about their experienc realizg they were attracted to men, if anyone had explaed homosexualy to them growg up and whether or not at any time they were nvced that beg gay was “wrong.

“I had no ia what beg gay was. I want to say around nth or tenth gra was when I started realizg I was gay.

*BEAR-MAGAZINE.COM* I KNEW YOU WERE GAY

I asked guys when they first knew they were gay .

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