Lovg Olr Men—and Learng to Accept It - The Gay & Lbian Review

Contents:

• AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
• THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN
• 6 - SEX AND OLR GAY MEN
• OLR AND YOUNGER GAY MEN

AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL

Many quiri I have received over and over aga through the years beg somethg like this: “I've always liked olr men, but many gay iends close to my age are cril of me and spic of my motiv.

” One young man said to me, “If I see a handsome gay man my age, he might jt as well have a vaga. Var labels have been ascribed to tergeneratnal upl, whether straight, gay or bisexual: tergeneratnal, age-gap, age-discrepant, or, more often than not, “May-December” relatnships.

THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN

Inially, I was unnvced the relatnships were ser, but that was bee I held stereotypil views: an olr gay man who was lookg for a trophy-mate and has the money to take re of his boy toy and a younger man who was lookg for a sugar daddy.

I now regnize this as a hackneyed ia that furiat men age-gap gay relatnships.

Based on the number of tim this qutn drops to my mailbox, the reasons for the age-discrepant attractns nsum a great al of bandwidth the thoughts of a lot of young gay and bisexual men. Was pletg his doctoral dissertatn, “May-December: Navigatg Life as an Intergeneratnal Gay Couple, ” he thoroughly rearched what proved to be the limed available lerature on tergeneratnal upl. They nsir discrimatn a part of beg gay.

6 - SEX AND OLR GAY MEN

Their work will fort men the double jeopardy of beg both gay and lovg someone much olr or younger. Gass is a gay man whose only sexual attractn is to men signifintly olr than he is.

OLR AND YOUNGER GAY MEN

The younger men have more tert sports than their partners and their gay peers who are attracted to men their own age. The younger men tend to be more mascule than their gay peers who are attracted to men their own age. He wrote, “I stggle more to expla my attractn to olr gay men to my gay iends than I do to my straight iends.