Qutn: TWO months ago my son Gav, 29, announced that he is gay. He me home one weekend to expla to me and my hband that he has been livg wh his partner for three months and has known he was gay sce he was 17.
Contents:
- MY SON MIGHT BE GAY. WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM?
- WHEN HIS SON CAME OUT AS GAY, THIS PASTOR DELIVERED A SERMON OF SUPPORT
- PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE
- FOR A MOM, LEARNG TO ACCEPT A GAY SON WAS 'NONNEGOTIABLE'
- I NNOT AL WH FACT MY SON IS GAY
- “MOM, DAD… I’M GAY.” A CHRISTIAN PARENT’S RPONSE
MY SON MIGHT BE GAY. WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM?
Danny Cortez, once a Southern Baptist mister, did do more than accept his gay son: He cid to talk to his ngregatn about homosexualy, even though ultimately meant his leavg the church. * i am a gay son *
They immediately clocked as gay, while we immediately clocked them as we warmed up to another, one mom anxly said: "I have a qutn: I am pretty sure my son is gay, but I don't know what to do. "For example, if someone the word "gay" place of "stupid, " remd them that the two are not terchangeable, and suggt they should say what they actually mean stead.
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WHEN HIS SON CAME OUT AS GAY, THIS PASTOR DELIVERED A SERMON OF SUPPORT
Parents of gay children may go through an adjtment perd when they fd out their child is gay, but there is support for parents of gay children. * i am a gay son *
I psed on our lol PBS affiliate, where a huge choir was sgg, and after a few sends I realized was the Gay Men's Chos of some cy or another dog a fundraisg ncert.
At this time my life, I was 99 percent certa I was gay, though nowhere near ready to sprg on my parents. We had no gay people our liv back then, no way to gge my fay's level of tolerance.
We had no gay people our liv back then, no way to gge my fay's level of watched as they livered a rendn of what I remember as "Somewhere Over the Rabow, " bee eher they or my memory are unfivably basic.
PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE
When Connie Casey learned her adolcent son was gay, she blamed herself and sent him to nversn therapy for several years. But when Samuel, now 22, went away to llege, Connie says, she realized that " was time to take a look at everythg that I'd ever been tght to believe." * i am a gay son *
Stirrg and brave and subversive, g as did a time before marriage equaly was on the map, a time when you only saw gay people on the news.
Good on you for not pot-blank askg your son whether he's gay. It means one simple, pable thg: Once you have told your dad you're gay, there is no gog back. Right now, he has to be secretive, not bee he's gay, but bee he's 17.
I'd love to say that you should do a big, showy "Hey, I sure do like those gay people" at the dner table.
FOR A MOM, LEARNG TO ACCEPT A GAY SON WAS 'NONNEGOTIABLE'
* i am a gay son *
I wish were as simple and CBS-smy as ve the gay guy om work to fay bowlg night. When His Son Came Out As Gay, This Pastor Delivered A Sermon Of Support.
He also has a son who recently me out as gay.
" At the time, Danny told his ngregatn about the moment his son me out: "I was drivg my son Drew to school, and he turned over to me and he says, 'Dad, I'm gay.
I NNOT AL WH FACT MY SON IS GAY
How Olr Brothers Influence HomosexualyHomosexualy might be partly driven by a mother’s immune rponse to her male fet—which creas wh each son she MacGregor / RtersHere’s what we know: Homosexualy is normal.
Between 2 and 11 percent of human adults report experiencg some homosexual feelgs, though the figure vari wily pendg on the survey. Homosexualy exists across cultur and even throughout the animal kgdom, as the thors of a mammoth new review paper on homosexualy wre. Female Japane maqu will even pete tersexually wh mal for exclive accs to female sexual ’s what we don’t know: What, specifilly, someone to bee gay, straight, or somethg between.
Part of the explanatn is geic, but bee most intil tws of gay people are straight, heredy don’t expla “why” qutn is important bee “there is a strong rrelatn between beliefs about the origs of sexual orientatn and tolerance of non-heterosexualy, ” acrdg to the report thors, who are om seven universi spanng the globe. (When Atlantic ntributor Chandler Burr proposed his 1996 book, A Separate Creatn, that people are born gay, Southern Baptists lled to boytt Disney films and parks prott agast the publisher, Disney subsidiary Hypern. ) It shouldn’t matter whether people “choose” to be gay, but polilly, do—at least for of the most nsistent environmental explanatns for homosexualy is lled the “aternal birth orr effect.
“MOM, DAD… I’M GAY.” A CHRISTIAN PARENT’S RPONSE
” Essentially, the more olr brothers a man has, the more likely he is to be gay. Studi have found that a man whout olr brothers has about a 2 percent chance of beg gay, but one wh four olr brothers has a 6 percent chance. Average prevalence 2013 (Sav-Williams and Vrangalova)Acrdg to the report, Blanchard now plans to tt mothers of gay and straight men for the prence of the antibodi.
If proved out, fetal birth orr uld do a lot to fill the missg explanatns for homosexualy. But gaps will rema, such as why some firstborn sons are gay, why some intil tws of gay sons are straight, and why women are gay, to name jt a review-paper thors do le out one explanatn for homosexualy, however: That tolerance for gay people enurag more people to bee gay.
“Homosexual orientatn do not crease equency wh social tolerance, although s exprsn ( behavr and open intifitn) may do so, ” they reasong—that a tolerant society somehow enurag homosexualy to flourish—has been ed to support anti-gay legislatn Uganda, Rsia, and elsewhere.