The Solutn to "Gay" Insults: Freedom of Speech | Psychology Today

Contents:

• AM I GAY?
• 17 SIGNS YOU'RE ACTUALLY GAY (AND JT DON'T KNOW IT)
• YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD
• AM I GAY OR NOT QUIZ?
• YOU’RE NOT GAY
• CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
• AM I GAY? HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY?
• THE SOLUTN TO "GAY" INSULTS: FREEDOM OF SPEECH
• HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY
• HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

AM I GAY?

Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr.

17 SIGNS YOU'RE ACTUALLY GAY (AND JT DON'T KNOW IT)

Sce genr inty and sexual orientatn are separate, transgenr people n intify as straight, gay, lbian, bisexual, etc. It’s the twenty first century and if someone’s gog to be a judgmental ltle hoe, then they don’t serve to be your v gay life.

So if you n relate to the signs then you’re actually gay (you jt don’t know yet). One of your top ten experienc was at a Pri para where you were surround by the most tertg, fun strangers you have ever enuntered, and no one you knew was there to judge you, or the only people you knew there were gay. You sometim thk about what would be like to tell your parents, extend fay, and iends that you are gay.

You believe equaly, love diversy, have liberal views, and are mted to seeg gay marriage legalized every untry.

YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD

Even if every em on the list applied to you, don’t mean you’re gay.

AM I GAY OR NOT QUIZ?

If you are gay, I really, really hope you know , and enurage you to be your te self. My name is Mark, and I am a gay male wh obssive-pulsive disorr (OCD).

I am wrg for the benef of heterosexual folks who hope to e this article to unrstand their fears about beg gay (also known as gay OCD or HOCD).

Searchg unr OCD and gay, I disvered the old BraPhysics discsn board and cid to post.

YOU’RE NOT GAY

Only ten mut after I had started readg the most recent posts, however, I realized that somethg was wrong: The folks wh gay fears were clearly not gay. It took another five mut for me to figure out what HOCD was and why so many people had gay obssns. I would later learn that tly gay people may also get HOCD, but that they falsely fear that they are heterosexual.

HOCD is an illns, and who but a gay HOCD sufferer would fear beg straight, the thg society priz? Jt as HOCD obssg over beg straight = gay realy, HOCD obssg over beg gay = straight realy.

CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

In that time, I have helped other tly gay people e out of the closet.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

If I thought for a mute that even one of the straight HOCD sufferers on the board was gay, I would do the same for him or her.

As of this wrg I have been bombard by threads, private msag, e-mail, and stant msag by straight folks terrified that they are gay (and a very small number of gay and bisexual folks terrified that they, too, are not their real sexual orientatn). Neverthels, is sufficiently wispread to warrant more specialists the field, more media exposure, and more unrstandg among therapists relativ, iends, and, pecially, gay people who give the wrong advice.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

HOCD works the same way: Heterosexual sufferers feel that the gay thoughts are real even though, their hearts, they know that they are straight. Before such treatment, HOCD (homosexualy anxiety ed by OCD) is all terror and rant. The send will be by an gay male who is the closet but has no HOCD.

AM I GAY? HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY?

STRAIGHT MALE HOCD SUFFERER: I know that I am gay, but I have only ever gotten hard wh girls. I do all this checkg by lookg at gay porn, and I still don’t know what I am. I have never been attracted to guys, but I know I am a gay guy.

GAY MALE IN THE CLOSET WITH NO HOCD: I know that I am gay, and I have only ever gotten hard wh guys.

I was tght that gay stuff was disgtg, but when I thk of beg held by a man I get butterfli my stomach. The only anxiety I feel is over what others thk of gays and how I thk I’ll be treated by straight people power if they fd out about me. I don’t feel any anxiety when I thk about how lucky gay guys who are out of the closet mt be, and I wish I uld be like them.

THE SOLUTN TO "GAY" INSULTS: FREEDOM OF SPEECH

When I saw rants like the first one last November, I knew that I was not alg wh gay folks at all. Numero scientists, psychologists, healthre profsnals, and even relig activists are batg the nature of homosexualy (as well as other kds of sexualy). You nnot merely show an Am I gay tt rult to your fay and be done.

In this Am I Gay quiz, we'll try to terme several mon signs of homosexualy and see how many you exhib.

I read a blog a uple years ago that has disappeared off the ter; was lled “You’re Not Gay.

HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY

” The male wrer explaed that he ed to live a gay liftyle believg that he was gay bee of other people’s opns. Somehow even though he didn’t want to be gay other people thought he was, so he eventually thought he was. He was so relieved to fd out that he didn’t have to be gay and changed his life.

She didn’t want to be a lbian but she was aaid that she was gay. As soon as I told her she didn’t have to be gay and that was jt a fear of beg gay tormentg her, we renounced the words that were spoken over her and rejected them.

Words have power and when you tell someone she is gay affects her her heart.

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

Tellg someone they don’t have to be gay, “you’re not gay” n relieve him of a growg or fully grown stctive liftyle. I don’t believe anyone is actually gay or turns gay any more than a person who has a dg addictn is a dg addict by inty.