I like guys but I don’t want to be gay. How do I stop beg gay? – The Answer Wall

Contents:

• I WAS TEAM DESANTIS BEFORE HIS DISGTG ANTI-GAY AD
• AM I GAY OR NOT QUIZ?
• 5 SAFT PLAC FOR GAY TRAVELERS IN 2019 (AND THE MOST DANGERO)
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• HELP! I’M NOT GAY, BUT I DON’T LIKE THE THGS THAT OTHER GUYS MY AGE LIKE.
• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
• HOW TO BEHAVE AROUND GAY PEOPLE IF YOU DON'T ACCEPT THEM

I WAS TEAM DESANTIS BEFORE HIS DISGTG ANTI-GAY AD

I’m disverg that ageism is the last acceptable form of prejudice amongst the LGBTQ+ muny (Picture: Jason Reid)‘In gay years, you’re rather past your sell-by date, aren’t you?’ the person ont of me said, raisg an eyebrow.

I replied by sayg, y I see as a blsg to be olr and wiser bee many gay men who me before me had their liv cut short their prime bee of AIDS.

AM I GAY OR NOT QUIZ?

I remember an olr gay acquatance once told me to ‘enjoy the halcyon gay years bee you’ll be 40 no time.’ It turns out, they were right. When I was a cky 20-year-old I, too, was dismissive of olr gay people bee I was small-md and thought the gay scene was solely for the young.

When was reported that 18-year-old Jake Daniels — the UK’s first active gay male profsnal footballer — was a lovg relatnship wh a 46-year-old man, Twter was ablaze wh self-righteo nmnatn om LGBTQ+ people. Even worse, language like ‘groomer’ and ‘nonce’ — trop that are routely ed by anti-gay people to publicly beltle — was beg trotted out by my fellow gay men. Instead of dismissg those gay elrs who me before , we ought to pull up a barstool and lgh wh and learn om them.

5 SAFT PLAC FOR GAY TRAVELERS IN 2019 (AND THE MOST DANGERO)

Ltle did I know DeSantis was farther to the right on issu that meant the most to me and the more than 70 percent of Amerins who support gay has ma clear the past few weeks that he’s more terted appeasg Twter trolls who abhor any Amerin who intifi as LGBTQ+.

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DeSantis’ stance on LGBTQ+ issu not only ntradicts nservative valu but also reflects a severe disnnect om the majory of Amerins who support gay rights. By disregardg such a signifint portn of the populatn, DeSantis reveals a ncerng lack of unrstandg of the evolvg societal norms and a gay woman, my sexual orientatn is jt one aspect of my inty, and should not fe my polil beliefs or my place wh the nservative movement. DeSantis mt regnize that his anti-gay rhetoric is not only harmful to LGBTQ+ Amerins but also trimental to the very prcipl he claims to uphold.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

If he tly aims to lead the nservative movement and brg about posive change for all Amerins, he mt abandon divisive tactics and foc on polici that promote uny and far, he is only losg everyday Amerins, cludg many nservativ like myself, through his disgtg anti-gay rhetoric. Adam* said was dangero to e out as gay his home untry and feared beg forced to an arranged marriage wh a said he was "so lucky" to wed his soulmate, Ray, Manchter and wish everyone uld marry who they love.

There are more than 60 untri wh laws that crimalise same-sex sexual acts acrdg to the Internatnal Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Associatn, cludg Sdi Arabia. 'Authentilly myself'Ray said he had also stggled growg up gay the 1970s and 80s England, which was "tough" said his relig school "dmmed to you, 'you are gog to hell'" Adam returned home to Sdi Arabia, spe beg more than 3, 000 apart and later rtricted by the Covid-19 panmic, they kept touch daily and the romance years ago, Ray proposed on a vio ll and after succsfully applyg for a UK fiancé visa, Adam moved to Manchter December 2022.

Adam said he had been aaid to even wear lours his home untry so the first thg he did when he moved was start to "grow my mullet, got my ears pierced and booked appotments for tattoos" relled how, ntrast, one of his gay iends Sdi had been forced to marry a woman, addg: "It has ed not only his life but the life of his wife.

HELP! I’M NOT GAY, BUT I DON’T LIKE THE THGS THAT OTHER GUYS MY AGE LIKE.

The uple, who live London, said a "really betiful memory" was on the way home when one of their sons shouted out of the black b wdow to Trafalgar Square, "My dads jt got married" and cheered "Yay, gay marriage". So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual, ” but chew the “gay” label. Bee “gay” impli an embracg of the gay liftyle — gay bars, gay pri paras, perhaps multiple sex partners, or even anonymo sex.

Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia. I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them. I have treated many men who are of Mormon, Orthodox Jewish, Catholic, and other religns who thk of homosexualy as a pathology.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

Their pa is excciatg, but I honor their bravery riskg losg everythg to ensure they have a qualy life as a gay man.

They may need, om time to time, to seek further therapy, but wh the right therapist, one who has thoroughly unrstood the dangers of such practic of “reparative therapy” which the therapist seeks to change the client’s sexual inty om gay to straight.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

Bee the labels “homosexual” or “gay” rry such a stigma, some of the men seek help for their “sex addictn” and see their homosexualy as an actg out of same-sex urg. Numero scientists, psychologists, healthre profsnals, and even relig activists are batg the nature of homosexualy (as well as other kds of sexualy).

In an attempt to help terme the worst plac for gay travelers, the duo created the 2019 LGBTQ+ Danger Inx, rankg the world’s most dangero—and saft—untri for gay travelers. The journalists looked at the top 150 most-vised untri the world by the number of g tourists, then ranked them g eight factors, cludg laws agast gay relatnships, legal protectn agast discrimatn and more.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY

There, people n be put prison for up to 14 years jt for beg gay, and some stat even have the ath penalty unr Sharia law.

In almost all s, the laws outlawg nsensual gay sex were put to place unr Brish le and were left place followg pennce. “In 2018, India managed to annul Sectn 377, a Brish lonial-era law prohibg ‘unnatural acts, ’ orr to legalize nsensual gay sex, ” says Fergson, who pots out that ancient Indian lerature such as the Mahabharata and Ramayana have many referenc to LGBTQ+ hero cludg transgenr warrrs and two queens who ma love orr for one queen to get pregnant wh an heir for their kgdom.

“Long story short, this pots to the fact that was likely the Brish fluence that largely led to Indian homophobia the first place, ” she says.

HOW TO BEHAVE AROUND GAY PEOPLE IF YOU DON'T ACCEPT THEM

“We found this to be a b ironic as the reason for many of the harsh homophobic laws untri throughout the world is largely leftover om laws created durg Brish le, ” says Fergson. “One reason for that is that there is a great al of variatn gay rights pendg on the state you’re , ” says Fergson.

You n see the entire rankg of the 150 untri here and also get 37 safety Swen, the saft untry the world for gay. Prime Mister Jt T promoted clivy by marchg Toronto’s Pri Para and beme the untry’s first Prime Mister to vis a gay bar. Ci like Lisbon and Porto have the bt gay scen the untry and Portugal is hopg to host the 2022 Europri, the world's biggt event celebratg gay pri Europe.