Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?"
Contents:
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- IS HE GAY?
- HOW TO DISCREETLY FD OUT IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS GAY
- HE IS GAY / HE IS A GAY.
- HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
- AM I GAY? HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY?
- WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?
- AM I GAY?
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
If you're a woman, you may have noticed thgs about your boyiend that lead you to believe he's gay or terted men. Sexualy is highly plex and sensive, and there are a lot of accurate stereotyp out there that don't tly... * is he gay or not *
Sexual orientatn refers to the endurg physil, romantic and/or emotnal attractn to members of the same and/or other genrs, cludg lbian, gay, bisexual and straight orientatns.
As GLAAD not, "Transgenr people may be straight, lbian, gay, bisexual or queer.
A person who transns om female to male and is attracted solely to men would typilly intify as a gay man. If you're a woman, you may have noticed thgs about your boyiend that lead you to believe he's gay or terted men. Keep readg for a thorough list of potential signs that your boyiend might be gay.
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
* is he gay or not *
There are many reasons why someone might act this way, so this by self is not a surefire sign that he’s gay. If you believe your boyiend lov and r for you but he "seems to be gay, " keep md that he uld be bisexual, pansexual, or terted men.
IS HE GAY?
Someone's sexualy is personal, so 's important to rpect their privacy. However, you might want to know if a person is gay bee you're terted datg them or want to support them as a iend. Beg open wh them n be... * is he gay or not *
There are several inti which someone n be terted more than one genr, so don't thk he's "jt gay". If you stumble upon evince of gay porn on his puter or phone, though, that may be a ltle different. If he’s gay, he might thrive on other men’s attentn, equently touch or hug them, or exchange flirty ments wh them (pecially about their physil appearance).
Notice if he equently hangs out wh his gay iends, or jos them on nights out at LGBTQ+ bars and clubs. They thk, “If I act like I don’t like gay men, no one will thk I am one.
HOW TO DISCREETLY FD OUT IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS GAY
I know the mon sayg is, "He is gay." However, gay is a untable noun, so isn't "He is a gay" more grammatilly appropriate? * is he gay or not *
” Notice if he acts unfortable around gay men, regularly mak homophobic ments or jok, or liberately never talks about anythg remotely gay. If his relativ are highly anti-gay, he may not feel safe or wele to e out to them.
HE IS GAY / HE IS A GAY.
Am I gay? Some fd this hard to answer. Knowg whether you are gay or straight, though, down to attractns and behavrs. Fd out more. * is he gay or not *
He might also be wrtlg wh ternalized homophobia or self-loathg bee of the nflict between his inty and his upbrgg. An enunter his teen or llege years is more likely to mean he’s gay or queer than an experience later life, which uld have more plex explanatns.
Remember, sexualy is highly plex and clus more than jt gay and straight. Don’t rely on gay stereotyp like an effemate voice or walk, flashy or tight clothg, his TV and mic preferenc, or beg a neat eak to terme your boyiend’s sexualy. There are many gay men that exhib none of the tras, as well as many straight men that do.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
Why are people gay? Are they gay by choice or is beg gay geic? Are they born gay? Learn about the and reasons for beg gay. * is he gay or not *
You did not e your boyiend to be gay or to engage secretive behavr. In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn. This populatn is the foc of his new and much-need book: Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?
Number one is the high cince of male-female upl enterg my office bee the woman thks her man might be gay. He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been havg sex wh men. A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me?
AM I GAY? HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY?
And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay.
WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?
That’s unual, bee most gay men, even most gay therapists, believe that if a guy is havg gay sex, he’s gay.
” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way. Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women. When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic.
The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist. A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them. So if a client is stgglg wh his sexual orientatn and he’s got a lot of homophobia, he’s probably gay.
AM I GAY?
A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way.
He’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been hookg up wh guys he meets through Craigslist. Even if he’s nfed and don’t want to e out as gay, this is who he is and over time that will e out.
So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met.