Dad, You're Gay? I Am, Too : NPR

Contents:

• IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?
• HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY
• IM GAY AND IM ATTRACTED TO MY FATHER..
• MY DAD COMG OUT AS GAY CHANGED OUR LIV — AND GAVE ME THE COURAGE TO BE MYSELF
• GROWG UP WH A GAY FATHER – CONFSNS OM A STRAIGHT SON
• GENERATN GAY: HOW MY GAY DAD AND I FALLY GOT ALONG, GREW UP & LEARNED HOW TO LOVE EACH OTHER
• DAD, YOU'RE GAY? I AM, TOO
• AFTER 20 YEARS OF MARRIAGE, MY DAD CAME OUT AS GAY
• HOW TO TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE GAY
• THE GAY FATHER I NEVER KNEW
• I'M 57 YEARS OLD AND MY FATHER JT DISOWNED ME FOR BEG GAY

IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?

Are you a dghter whose dad is gay?

Or are you a gay dad?

gay: 1. Most children whose dads are gay were born while their blogil mom and blogil dad were married and livg together.

HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY

If you have a gay dad or a lbian mom, after they separate, which of them is most likely to remarry or to remarry and then divorce? Lbian moms are more likely than gay dads to marry their same-sex partner.

IM GAY AND IM ATTRACTED TO MY FATHER..

But gay dads are ls likely to get divorced om their hbands than lbian moms are to get divorced om their wiv. Gay men may experience more discrimatn than lbians, pecially if they are parents. Our society is still ls acceptg of gay men beg fathers than of lbians beg mothers.

MY DAD COMG OUT AS GAY CHANGED OUR LIV — AND GAVE ME THE COURAGE TO BE MYSELF

But perhaps the most important rearch fdg is that gay dads and their dghters have closer relatnships when dads tell the tth—and the dads are ls clilly prsed than dads who hi this important rmatn om their children (Tornello, 2018). Sadly, gay fathers are more aaid than lbian mothers to tell their children the tth, regardls of their age. So if you as a dghter or as a gay dad are still tiptoeg around the topic, ’s time to give yourselv a gift by gettg this skeleton out of the closet.

(2018) Adult children of gay fathers. Journal of Homosexualy, 65, 1152-1166. My brother picked up the word for "gay" – a word my dad repeated several tim durg that that pot, my parents had told they had problems their marriage, but a few months later, when I was around ne years old, we still went on our annual fay summer holiday to France.

GROWG UP WH A GAY FATHER – CONFSNS OM A STRAIGHT SON

Until, out of nowhere, my brother sudnly asked, "Dad, are you gay? "There aren't a lot of gay people out there wh a wife and children, " he told me. I once tagged along wh him to his favoure gay bar, where I met all the iends he's ma there over the years.

GENERATN GAY: HOW MY GAY DAD AND I FALLY GOT ALONG, GREW UP & LEARNED HOW TO LOVE EACH OTHER

Im gay and Im attracted to my father..

DAD, YOU'RE GAY? I AM, TOO

At the age of 18 I talked to my parents and olr brother about me beg gay and they all pletely accepted me whout hsatn. Then, I have hardly ever bond wh him any way, he ma some effort to aproach me and learn more about me and my gay life, but he is still the same person who ( my opn) didn't give a damn about me when I was a child.

AFTER 20 YEARS OF MARRIAGE, MY DAD CAME OUT AS GAY

Y, the lack of a fatherly figure durg early teen years might be the culpr, I believe that thats what turned me gay anyway..

Re: Im gay and Im attracted to my father.. Do you know for a fact than your father is homosexual or bisexual? I'm gay.

HOW TO TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE GAY

I n't remember exactly what I unrstood of the word "gay" at that pot my life, but whether me om hearg my classmat e to disparage our peers or the nate unrstandg that s existence our life meant plete and utter change to our fay dynamic, I stantly registered the word as synonymo wh "bad.

The word "gay" was not a taboo word our hoe.

THE GAY FATHER I NEVER KNEW

I never hated to pull asi even the tought bulli after hearg them make fun of our gay classmat to give them a piece of my md, and I preached csantly about why the f-word should be dropped om everyone's vobulari anytime was uttered my prence. We would se together as adults and share stori om our childhoods about our gay parents that others wouldn't unrstand. It's te that children of gay adults tend to grow up quicker than most bee we e to know a different world at an early age that some adults are not yet able to fully prehend.

In late 1980, at a support group for gay fathers, my dad met Lnel –– the man wh whom he would spend the next 23 years. He had seemed kd of lost his new life – phg 60, recently divorced om my mother, recently out of the closet as gay man.

He asked that I march wh him, alongsi the other gay fathers and their kids, the Los Angel Pri Para. What I do remember was that someone had ma T-shirts that said "I LOVE MY GAY DAD" and I refed to wear one. I told my dad, “I love you, but not bee you’re gay.

I'M 57 YEARS OLD AND MY FATHER JT DISOWNED ME FOR BEG GAY

” The tth, though, is that I lacked the urage to stand all the way up for my father and his ras agast a homophobic and different world.