Maybe 'that's so gay' is actually ok for young people to say

you guys are so gay

Ever sce middle school, people have asked Thomas Lloyd the same qutn repeatedly. "If I had a dime for every time I was asked, 'Why am I so gay?' I uld probably pay for one cred at Geetown." In this humoro talk, Lloyd explor the trici of social "verg" as a gay man, fdg muny and the importance of inty ownership.

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AM I GAY?

Are you qutng your sexualy? Fd out if you’re gay, straight, bisexual, or asexual. Learn what the terms mean and if they apply to you. * you guys are so gay *

Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr. Sce genr inty and sexual orientatn are separate, transgenr people n intify as straight, gay, lbian, bisexual, etc. Stonewall argu that the phrase has a harmful effect on young lbian, gay and bisexual people’s tn and well-beg.

Yet the ial fdgs om my terviews wh 40 gay youth om four universi suggts a more plex picture, wh no clear agreement on what the phrase means or s effects. ” Siarly, Neil, gay and aged 18, said: “I don’t fd rogatory any way, probably bee I say as well.

How are we to unrstand a phrase that olr people fd homophobic, but many younger people do not fd offensive and even e themselv?

WHY AM I "SO GAY?"

The phrase “that’s so gay” has tradnally been unrstood as homophobic. Stonewall’s School Report argued this posn, and will be discsed their upg Edutn Conference. Stonewall argu… * you guys are so gay *

My tert the phrase “that’s so gay” veloped when I rearched straight male stunts at sixth form lleg.

Given that labellg the stunts homophobic would be ridiculo, was val to nsir how they were g this language and the reasons why.

All of the men my rearch sisted that they did not tend to be homophobic when they ed the phrase. For them, gay had two distct meangs which they were able to distguish between – when refers to sexual inty and when refers, separately, to somethg beg “bbish”. Language has evolved and “gay” means somethg different to younger generatns particular ntexts.

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* you guys are so gay *

I argued that straight men’s e of phras like “that’s so gay” uld only be unrstood by three key factors: first, the tent wh which was said; send, the social ntext (homophobic or otherwise); and third, the effect had. “That’s so gay” n be homophobic if is said wh negative tent or wh a homophobic environment.

But when is said settgs where sexual mori are out, proud and socially clud, and heterosexual men are iends wh their openly gay peers, tak on different meangs. This argument was supported by the narrativ of many of the 40 young gay people a study I am unrtakg wh lleagu at Durham Universy. In the bat about “that’s so gay”, is important to regnise that gay youths also e the phrase.

Only a mory of participants – ls than a third – thought that the phrase was homophobic, and even fewer said that they never ed .

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY

Ur So Gay Lyrics: Your md may refe to believe / Your md may refe to believe / I hope you hang yourself wh your H&M srf / While **** off listeng to Mozart / You bch and moan about LA * you guys are so gay *

Most of the young gay people my study felt “that’s so gay” would only be homophobic if was directed at a gay person, and wh negative tent. If young gay people are sayg that they do not experience the phrase “that’s so gay” as homophobic – and if they are even g the phrase themselv – then perhaps we should accept their arguments and ncentrate on other battl.

The guys are different om men who intify as bisexual, gay, mostly gay, and mostly straight.

THAT'S SO GAY

Why are people gay? Are they gay by choice or is beg gay geic? Are they born gay? Learn about the and reasons for beg gay. * you guys are so gay *

Of urse, some intify as straight but are realy closeted bisexuals or gays by sexual orientatn—perhaps likely to e out at a later age (if ever). Rearchers repeatedly fd that homosexual men are most attracted to men their late teens and early twenti, prrizg looks over stat. Although neher of our fantasi was fulfilled by the enunter, we end up havg an tertg nversatn about homosexualy, a topic the fellow was studyg graduate school, wh an obv personal vtment, and the topic of a paper I’d wrten my unrgraduate psychology class.

At the time, the psychologil acunts of homosexualy’s foced on the relatnships between homosexual men and their parents, pecially their mothers. For one thg, homosexualy shows a reasonably high herabily—if you are homosexual, and you have a tw brother, there is a very good chance he is homosexual as well.

WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?

The first odd thg about homosexualy is the fact that has such high herabily—how n a proclivy toward havg non-reproductive sex be passed on geilly? Another odd thg about homosexualy is the shape of homosexual men’s preferenc: Although gay men share women’s attractn to humans wh penis, that’s about as far as the siary go. But studi by Michael Bailey, my own lleagu, and other rearchers repeatedly fd that homosexual men are most attracted to men their late teens and early twenti, and they don’t re much about stat, stead prrizg physil attractivens.

All this suggts that the old “social learng” theori don’t apply well to homosexual preferenc—if so, gay guys would learn om media and the social environment what mak for an attractive man, and go after the same featur that women fd attractive.

GAY MALE SEXUALY

The third odd thg about homosexualy is the quanty of homosexual men’s preferenc, as pared to those of homosexual women.

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